Dating as a 55 year old...will men expect me to be bald down below??

[ConfidenceCrisis44]

Firstly yes, I know I can't date at the moment, I do not want to date at the moment, I am covid safe!

However, I am cautiously looking ahead to the summer. I have been single for 4 years, was married for 20 years before that. In my teens/twenties pubic hair was never much of an issue for anyone, I tidied it a bit to keep it in my pants but that was it! I am aware that things have changed and that a lot of women remove the lot these days. I assumed it was mostly the youngsters. Made the mistake of watching Naked Attraction last night and all the women are bald, even the ones in their 40s, 50s and 60s! I do realise that this is probably not a representative cross section of society, but even so, it has alarmed me. So, does anyone know, what are older men's expectations here?? I really want to stay au naturel! But would be mortified to put someone off because of it!

I think it's a bit much to say that men in their 50's are grateful for anything they can get! Surely they are allowed a preference ??

Hmmm, interesting thread! Have to say I keep mine shaved but only because I feel better that way, not for any sexual reason. Also hated seeing my pubes going grey 🥴.
I quite like it when a man keeps very trim down there too, especially his balls! So if I were in a relationship I might request this as I like giving oral a lot, but it wouldn’t bother me if he said no, but I wouldn’t want to give his balls much attention. I guess some men feel the same way about our fannies!

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

Could you do one side? You know hedge your bets (no pun intended!)

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In real life, does any man get the woman home, get her knickers off and then go soft at the sight of public hair? Do they even notice in their urge to plunge right in?

I think maybe it's best to have a lighthearted jokey conversation about it before you sleep with someone so that they aren't in for a shock when their hand reaches down there !!

@Fastestbrownie I agree, I have a male friend late 50's with no shortage of offers from younger women but he just isn't interested as he would rather date someone his own age.

@Bagelsandbrie
Where did the PP say a woman with a shaved vagina (sic) is a child?
She said it 'looks like a child's.'
However, I've seen a fair few shaved fannies in my time (don't ask) and there is definitely a pre-pubescent look to many of them.

One of my older man friends loved a full bush.
He said it was what he had spent his teens enjoying, and he was angry that suddenly shaven was a "thing".

I think men in their 50’s and 60’s remember a time when mist women had hair.
I’ve got way too much so I do wax. More the undercarriage as it makes life easy.
I was appalled when my partner shaved his bollocks and chest at 50. Frankly at our age with a few wrinkles and a bit of a paunch you want all the visual distractions you can get. I don’t need to see a naked mole rat popping up from under a roll of white flab. I was more polite than that in real life.

@Handsoffstrikesagain
"See I’m surprised about that really purple as my DH is 45 and likes it bare and I know my friends DHs do aswell (all mid 30s-47) I’m sure porn has got a lot to do with it though.l

@ConfidenceCrisis44

I'm not sure that Mn is a totally representative forum for this sort of question. I'm 40's and whilst been married to DH many years he has always liked me bare. Covid has interrupted that as I have tended to wax but have wielded the razor a few times

My friendship group goes from early 30's to mid 50's...all young at heart. On a rather drunken hen night pre Covid times some discussion were had about preferences. Most said their other half's loved bare but would settle for very short public hair. Most of us were in the bare category as we liked partners finding it attractive. I know my DH always compliments me still when I have just been waxed.

From the girlie preference about the men we all tended to like some pubes but very short. Shaved was better than very straggly lol. Oh and a fair few admitted really liking circumcised but were cautious of admitting to their man it as most of their guys were not

So is really back to do what you feel comfortable. Perhaps well manicured short would be a safe choice?

I don't shave anywhere at all. But op, it's really up to you and what makes you comfortable (although I can assure you that shaving down there results in an itchy and uncomfortable experience!). If I was dating again I might, possibly shave my legs, but unlikely, and that's about it. I really love hairy men too though, but wouldn't really care what a potential partner chose to do or not do to their own body. The physical appearance is nice but it's only secondary to what I'm really attracted to.

@MorriseysGladioli

One of my older man friends loved a full bush. He said it was what he had spent his teens enjoying, and he was angry that suddenly shaven was a "thing".

He probably enjoyed the thrill of the hunt - more of a challenge

Ive had a relationships with two men in the last 12yrs . One older than me . And I am in my 50s now . And another my ex the same age . Both definitely expected no hair . Which i ended up finding a bit creepy to be honest. That they couldn't be sexual with anything else. . I remember saying to my ex best not do that . I haven't shaved for a while. Because for me sometimes it's a bloody pain . .I just want to have a shower wash my hair. That's it. When I said that I was looking directly at him . But I was pretty sure he heaved.. I didn't feel bad . It just really put me off him . . Because I thought ffs I'm a woman not a prepubescent child. And if a man finds it that unsavoury. Then its a massive turn off for me . After all he liked his . I won't go into detail. And he didn't shave . But men that age. Not all before people get boring... But most i am that age .. And I would never except that of someone. . And I understand alot of women have always done it . Some before they even had relationships . And its what they prefer. But I think back to a generation just before mine . It wouldn't even have been thought of . And for men as old as 50s and 60s to except it . Some how makes me uncomfortable..My daughter stupid at uni. And they were looking at what young teenage boys expect of a woman. When they were old enough to have a relationship. . . They said would they be upset if a girlfriend had pubic hair . . They were shocked how high the number was . Of the boys saying that would be disgusting. .woman don't grow hair down there . They said why do you think that. They said any they whatchd or saw . Obviously xrated . Woman never have hair. So they believed woman don't have public hair on there vagina. That's how boys are growing up. Well not all . But alot . . So a generation of women . May have to shave ,wax with in a inch of there lives . Everything but eyebrows and head hair . Or take breaks and stay single. Because these poor little uneducated. Boys with high expectations. Will go into 😲 lol . I can understand that in a kind of reluctant way. But men my age an older wanting women to be completely bald . Makes me uncomfortable. .I do no men that don't feel that way. . So the ones that actually don't like the idea of it at all . . Well Mr your dating adult women. Not juveniles... . I remember a chat show with a very famous k . For a big family of sisters.. was interviewed And the topic went there i can't remember how . They said all off Kl . She said absolutely not . I am a woman .not a prepubescent child. . . . .And I thought well said. But men have these high expectations. Because women are still giving it to them . So I suppose if we don't like how strong are we to say . No sorry I don't like it all off . And I hate shave burn. So take it or leave it

Bit of a diatribe on an old post but yes I guess they will expect you bare…but it’s your choice isn’t it

When did blokes get so choosy? They are lucky they are in a position to get some action. As Kathy Burke said most men would shag a ham sandwich.

I’m not sure it is just men being choosy…it’s almost like that is just the norm, and has been for a long time! Whether it is just that it is totally what men expect, so are surprised if a woman does have hair, to beauty salons. I have for a long time had a full wax. When I didn’t, my (lovely) beautician first time was I think pretty much assuming I would have a full wax because as she said it, that’s pretty much the norm with waxing. So even though I had a normal bikini wax for holiday, it went very high as she felt she was t doing it properly otherwise.

Frankly as per my previous, just do what you want but yes, you might find with a partner they are very surprised first time…and it’s whether it matters to them. However, I have succumbed a long time ago to not having hair below and if honest I’ve really got to prefer it and it is now my norm and it feels strange if I end up with more than a little growth.

i don’t agree with the whole child/pre pubescent thing though. We are all clearly normal healthy women that have made choices about body hair. I now chose not to have any. My personal choice. My Muslim female friends def don’t have any as that is very much part of their culture and isn’t some recent fad either.