Dating as a 55 year old...will men expect me to be bald down below??

[ConfidenceCrisis44]

Firstly yes, I know I can't date at the moment, I do not want to date at the moment, I am covid safe!

However, I am cautiously looking ahead to the summer. I have been single for 4 years, was married for 20 years before that. In my teens/twenties pubic hair was never much of an issue for anyone, I tidied it a bit to keep it in my pants but that was it! I am aware that things have changed and that a lot of women remove the lot these days. I assumed it was mostly the youngsters. Made the mistake of watching Naked Attraction last night and all the women are bald, even the ones in their 40s, 50s and 60s! I do realise that this is probably not a representative cross section of society, but even so, it has alarmed me. So, does anyone know, what are older men's expectations here?? I really want to stay au naturel! But would be mortified to put someone off because of it!

DH is 50. He likes a bald coot. But in between waxes he doesn't scowl with disgust. Try it when salons open - before dating - to see if YOU like it.
It absolutely knacks mind so you've been warned.
Don't forget your bum hole.
Happy dating

Ahhh, the whataboutery. 😂 No I wouldn't say or even think that about someone who has lost all their hair because of cancer. As it's quite clear they're not sporting the deliberate shaved fanny look.

Such a fuss from people. I'm not shaming anyone. It's simply an opinion. Which I am entitled to share. Even if some don't like it.
Seems to me that some have decided to take the emotion shame and run with that though. Which would indicate to me that they're not entirely at peace with it themselves. 🤔

I’ve shaved mine since 12. Until COVID where I’ve let maybe 2cm grow - I hate it. I see it as part of my ‘self care’ routine and I only let it grow in like this when my mental health is terrible

Naked Attraction is not real life. It is television. Do not let that guide you.

While some men might expect you to be bare, and while some men might even prefer a woman to be bare, it is entirely your choice to fashion your pubic hair as you wish. If a man were to ask me to remove mine, I would tell him to fuck-off. Pubic hair is there for a reason, and removing it leaves you more prone to infection.

As a part-time escort who sees mostly men over 40, in my experience, they love the fact I do have pubic hair. That said, it is not a wild bush, but neatly trimmed. (Bikini line is totally removed.)

Personally, I would laugh if I were to meet a man who has removed his pubic hair. I think it looks ridiculous; a total turn-off.

hettsie the irony of your post...

Why?

@Kendodd

Don't shave. We shouldn't look like children, its beyond creepy.

The creep here, is you.

A woman's vulva doesn't look like a child's vulva and that's patently obvious.

@moanieleminx

It thins out with menopause??? #everydayisaschoolday

Yes @moanieleminx - it moves on to your chin

I’m 27 and haven’t shaved in 5 years. Armpits, legs, pubes, the lot. Dunno if it helps but my boyfriend is 53 and he loves the hair. 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I love a hairy man so maybe we’re just a good match

@Handsoffstrikesagain 😂

I asked my very honest male friend what he thought of this because I needed to know.
He said each man will have his individual preference but he said it would be very unlikely for them to turn down sex based on it.
My feminist female friend said that most men feel very lucky to even be in the vicinity of a vagina .
So, I think it means good men won't care and will be respectful of your choices.
I still remove all of mine though.

You have to remember though that people who go on programmes like naked attraction are going to be conscious about appearance.

I have never shaved, yet even I get a twinge of self doubt going for a smear- should i shave my legs, tidy up at least a little?

Knowing that body hair is generally thought of as unclean and unhygenic by many these days, if I were to be naked in front of millions I probably would’t have the balls to appear as nature intended, and do some pretty drastic grooming.

You have to remember though that people who go on programmes like naked attraction are going to be conscious about appearance.
Exactly this. However 'real life's it looks, it's not a great representation really.

@rawalpindithelabrador

If they do tell them to get knotted.

Or possibly plaited?

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

Could you do one side? You know hedge your bets (no pun intended!)

OMG I laughed so much

I can only speak from personal experience, but when I did try going bald once I personally didn’t like it and to me it did look child like. Maybe that’s why some posters do feel it looks child like. That’s not to say it is. It’s just how someone feels about it personally. I don’t like men being shaved down there either.

Absolutely it is personal choice and neither is right or wrong, but most definitely there are a lot of men now who “demand” that a woman is shaved. They’re men I avoid but plenty of them exist.

These men who demand that women shave ...they also shave themselves right?
has anyone come across a man who complained that she didn't shave whilst he was sporting a full on Brillo pad around his knob?

If it’s going grey get rid!

You have to remember though that people who go on programmes like naked attraction are going to be conscious about appearance.

In theory I'd agree, but you get all sorts on there and people don't seem to mind either displaying or selecting non-standard bodies or bodies that aren't the airbrushed ideal - which is a good thing. So it always seems weird to me that bald bits are the one thing that seems consistent. Especially as I don't think it looks nice at all...

I haven't watched every episode or anywhere near, so a natural bush could have appeared now and again but I've never seen one. They should have a special full bush episode.

Of course we are all influenced. I had a new dress delivered yesterday, I thought it would suit me and l liked it.

Mum removed her body hair, sister does too. Were we influenced, probably. Did anyone make us do it? No! Did l do it to please a man? No!

But whenever this subject crops up, certain people seem to resemble the “bush police”.

I have rarely, if ever, seen posts criticising people who choose not to remove their hair. It’s those of us who do, who face the flak. I prefer to remove mine because I think it looks nicer. My choice! It also feels better that way in the warm weather.

As for the porn argument, there are plenty of pubes in porn. I’ve also known lesbians remove their hair.

We should just have our apperance as we wish. I’ve known men who remove their pubic and underarm hair too.

@Hettsie

I wouldn't shave for anyone. Get rid of the man not the hair. Looking like a prepubescent child is not my thing.

Gross. You and KenDodd. Educate yourselves on what adult females and female child genitalia looks like before bandying around such ignorant statements.

I'm in my 30s, dp is in his 50s and he prefers a Brazilian. Luckily so do I. This lockdown has obviously meant I haven't been for a wax for a while and I hate it. I feel dirty and would feel uncomfortable letting dp give oral sex through mouthfuls of hair.
Before everyone jumps on me, I'm not saying that anyone else with pubic hair should feel dirty etc etc, I'm saying I do.

I'm sorry but if a man is so porn addled to require being completely hairless chances are he's not very good at sex, just being honest.

For me personally, I like all hair off. However, I haven't been waxed for weeks (lockdown). DP isn't bothered either way. I do wish he would tidy up his balls though

@Hettsie

I wouldn't shave for anyone. Get rid of the man not the hair. Looking like a prepubescent child is not my thing

Just curious. Men who shave their facial hair.. do they look like prepubescent children to you?