If you thought you might be (could be) pregnant would you......

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Tell your partner right away, do a test to find out, or wait for your period and see.

For context we are not trying to get pregnant.

I have had some bloody discharge today (v small amount) but my period isn’t due for 4 days. I know it could be an early period so on the one hand seems silly to worry him about it just now, and also seems silly to test when I could just wait 4-5 days and find out either way.

But on the other hand I feel like I’m keeping something from him if I know for multiple days before I say anything.

There's nothing to tell him right now. I would wait for several days to see what's going on.

What makes you think you might be pregnant? (Apart from obviously having had sex).

There's currently nothing to tell him. I get this a couple of days before I come on. It's a useful hint to let me know it's coming, so to watch out for it.

You could do a test to find out for sure if you don't want to wait the few days.

To answer your question. If I was TTC, I'd do a test, if we weren't, I'd wait and see.

@Nicknacky long story short, we had sex last Friday, which I didn’t realise til afterwards was the day after my clue app had me ovulating so just about in the fertile window. I’m not on any contraception and usually we would avoid that time of the month but sex has been so sparse during lockdown (this was only the second time) that I just forgot to check. DS was away for the night at granny’s and we had a much needed date night.

I realise spotting can be a sign that your period is coming but I know my cycle pretty well and spotting at this point is not something I’ve had before so given the timing of sex in my cycle I know that this could also be implantation.

But yes I agree that I don’t actually have anything to tell DH just now but I still feel like I’m keeping something from him. But also feel silly to mention it as it’s quite unlikely!

If it was something I'd mention on MN, it's almost certainly something I'd mention to DH but not in any real expectation that it might happen.

I would only nrbrion it if I were late or had a positive pregnancy test in my hand.

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It took me three days to tell DP when I did have a positive test!

In your position I wouldn't say anything until you have something concrete to say.

I don't understand why, if the possibility was occupying you thoughts, you wouldn't discuss it with your partner but it seems I'm odd

I would (and have in the past) mentioned it to DH. Just as a ‘hmm, something weird’s going on. I think it’s fine but just giving you a heads up I may do a test in a few days if things haven’t corrected themselves’.

DH isn’t the type to panic though and I think when it happened before said ‘ok - thanks for letting me know - keep me posted and if you do take a test I’d like to be around when you do, if that’s ok.’

Hope it’s the outcome you want.

@Grottyfeet it’s a bit of a tricky one because we have been back and forth over the years about whether we would have another child and at the moment we are on no. We have one DS who is 7 and obviously the older he has got the less likely it is that we would. We are late 30s so young enough for another child if it were to happen, and I’m not sure how either I not DH would feel about it if I was pregnant.

Not worth the conversation if I’m not pregnant, and if I am then I don’t know, maybe I should see how I feel about it before I tell DH.

I would order about 6 pregnancy tests from Amazon and do one every morning until I got a positive pregnancy test or my period.

I probably wouldn't say anything to my DH until I had a positive test.