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I want to be honest, but no one can handle it....

18 replies

Goodgirlturnevil · 05/06/2020 16:09

My views on everything I could ever possibly believe in, have changed dramatically over the past couple of years, and not one person I have spoken to about my views and opinions, can handle it. Does that make me wrong? Or honest! I want to create an honesty page. For only HONEST people...

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Bluntness100 · 05/06/2020 16:10

I think if everyone thinks you’re wrong then I’d say there is a good chance you are.

Want to give us some examples?

Burpalot · 05/06/2020 16:13

Yes what are these views. It's unlikely you're the only 'right' person isn't it?

Burpalot · 05/06/2020 16:13

Also, are you sure you aren't confusing opinions and facts?

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 05/06/2020 16:15

You can be as honest as you like but you have to understand it's only your truth.
I'm guessing if people 'can't handle' your opinions they may be pretty unpalatable.

Diverseduvet · 05/06/2020 16:16

What does this even mean? Can you give some examples please?

TorkTorkBam · 05/06/2020 16:20

Usually you change friends when you go through a big change. Like if you were religious but became atheist or changed religion. Like if all the Momentum stuff made you think harder about what the right-on left are actually saying and decided they are wrong.

Smallsteps88 · 05/06/2020 16:20

I want to create an honesty page. For only HONEST people

So.... do it. Why are you asking here?

Pipandmum · 05/06/2020 16:22

What do you mean they can't handle it? People don't care about your opinions as much as you do.

TorkTorkBam · 05/06/2020 16:23

What can't they handle?

Have you become vegan?
Taken up selling aloe vera shit?
Joined EDL?

asmallplace · 05/06/2020 16:25

Yes examples please!

iklboo · 05/06/2020 16:30

We're going to need more info before we can comment. You can start your own blog page anytime.

HeIsAVeryBadBoy · 05/06/2020 16:34

I need examples

passthemustard · 05/06/2020 16:41

Are you being honest or just a bit of a dick?

We need context

DamnYankee · 05/06/2020 16:49

They can't handle the fact you've changed so much, or they can't handle your opinions.

And, yes, the whole opinions v. facts thing...tricky, tricky sometimes.

Smallsteps88 · 05/06/2020 17:05

It’s a bit ironic that you say you want to have an honesty page for only honest people. That implies the people who have objected to your opinion are being dishonest. Do you think they are pretending to disagree with you? You realise that if you start an honesty page those same people would be entitled to express their disagreement with your opinions? It’s an honesty page so Their honesty is no less valid than yours. Perhaps you mean you want to start a “agree with me page”

3LittleMonkeyz · 05/06/2020 17:38

This sounds like that

"I'm just being honest... " followed by racism/sexism/homophobia/anti immigration.

A bit like the "I know this might offend some people but..."
Sometimes ended with "you know you all agree with me really your just too chicken to say it"

If everybody's disagreeing with you then I would double check what you are saying is not discrimination or bullying. If it is against a minority group of any variety it is most likely discriminatory. If it involves generalisations and stereo types, that's probably discrimination too.

Or it's far fetched conspiracy theories. One or the other, maybe both.

3LittleMonkeyz · 05/06/2020 17:41

You can be discriminatory towards somebody even if you belong to the same minority group. Women be sexist, black people can be racist. Internalised misogyny, internalised racism, these are the most dangerous kinds.

JudithGrimes · 05/06/2020 18:05

Op has started at least three of these threads today

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