Usually when she's frustrated that things aren't working out how she wants them to during a game (the pjs didn't fit her doll). Especially if she's hungry, which seems to be every 3 hours. I've told her I won't be playing dolls with her again today because she continued to shout at me and lash out when I asked her not to. She can do some activities with me (she won't) or play by herself (she won't manage this either so I don't know why I even said it). DH doesn't help, he just bellows down the stairs at her to stop shouting.
Im at the end of my tether. She is very anxious about getting stuff 'right' and likes to be in control. It is possible she has ADHD as it is in the family. Feel like I need a parenting course or something but don't know where to turn for help. Any suggestions or strategies that work?