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What’s the best way to say no to this request?

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MyFoofIsAloof · 06/03/2020 21:35

I’m tied up in negative emotion with exp so I’d like some input on saying no without getting annoyed.

He wants me to drop the DC off in a slightly different place, I don’t want to.

If I say I don’t want to, he’ll ask why and I don’t want to enter into a dialogue with him.

I usually agree as I don’t want him to turn nasty but I’ve had enough.

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36degrees · 06/03/2020 21:40

That isn't going to work.
That won't be possible.
It's best if we stick to the original arrangement.

puds11 · 06/03/2020 21:42

Not to sound like a dick, but the best way is to just say ‘no’. No dialogue opened.

TorkTorkBam · 06/03/2020 21:45

You: "That won't be possible. I will drop them off as usual."
Ex: "Why?"
You:
Ex: "blah blah blah angry blah
You:
Ex: FURY
You:
Ex: "Answer me!!!!"
You:
Ex: "I don't want to see my children then and it is all your fault. You great big poo faced meanie snortwankle."
You: "Noted"

See. That's how you say no. Ideally by message. Not in person.

somedayillbesaturdaynite · 06/03/2020 21:47

Google the Grey rock technique...it's designed exactly for this type of situation

MyFoofIsAloof · 06/03/2020 21:53

Thank you all. Especially for understanding that sometimes it’s just not that easy to see the simplest way when there’s other ‘stuff’ clouding one’s judgement.

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TorkTorkBam · 06/03/2020 21:55

Will you be OK saying no now?

MyFoofIsAloof · 06/03/2020 22:00

I’ve done it Tork.

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TorkTorkBam · 06/03/2020 22:03

Excellent. Let's hope he turns a fetching shade of purple and you don't have to see it because you got rid of him. Hooray.

MyFoofIsAloof · 06/03/2020 22:06

I’ll try not to fart in his general direction when I have to see him next.

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