Hi guys, hoping for some advise, this is my first post!
Long story so I will just give you the key points, my only child has been raised by my partner and me (her bio dad isnt in the picture) my partner has raised her since being 6 months old (shes now 8) and he thinks the world of me and my daughter, his family have always been difficult to get along with, his dad mainly! He always speaks to his son (my partner) in an aggressive tone and try's to embarrass him in front of me, his family have never made much effect with my child so we avoid going to see them as they just tell her off for silly things, which I don't like, so for the past 7 years I have bit my tongue, but when we popped to his families house a month ago his father was the only one in the house and he told my daughter off multiple times for talking too loud, silly things like that but he really shouted at her, and then swore at me and his son (my partner) and told us we never do anything (like discipline her I suppose) and for us to take her home as she is annoying him, she wasn't doing anything wrong she is just a child, so I told him that I wasn't having him speak to her like that and that he also speaks to his son disgusting at times, he went crazy at me and kicked me out, told me never to come back, my daughter was in tears, and my partner shocked and upset, but I was expecting my partner of 7 years to stand up for us, I know he is soft and doesnt want to fall out with people but I'm disappointed, following the argument his father has kind of said sorry to my partner not to me! my partner told me that he told his father that he was wrong to talk to us like that, but thats all that's been said, over Christmas he didn't include my name on the Christmas card and didn't get me or my daughter a gift, which they normally do, me and my partner got engaged a few weeks after this argument but now I don't know what I want, I don't want his family to attend our wedding, but also can I marry someone who doesnt stand up for me, I also don't like the idea of this man being grandfather to our future children, fyi - my partner has been raised just by his dad, his mother isnt around, so my partner has been very upset by this as he is his only parent. Hope you can help x