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Facebook Messenger question

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Tessalectus · 21/04/2019 18:49

I cannot believe I am actually asking this - I'm not much of a FB person - but this has been niggling in the back of my mind for a few days now.

Someone I once had a bit of a thing for and with whom the relationship had turned a little stiff (we're friendly, but not friends iyswim) as a result has added me to a group chat between himself and some person I've never heard of, but twho appears to be one of their friends.

There are no messages in this group chat and the bloke I used to have a thing for is admin - meaning he could have removed me at any time if this had been a mistake.

As far as I understand it if I had been added to a conversation between the two by accident I'd still be able to see all previous messages. Likewise, I tried to set up a group, but not write a thing, but the group was never created and I was able to just click the cross and it disappeared.

Unlike the group with the two of them, when I clicked on the cross it did not get archived, but when I left the group with those two the "conversation" got archived and I can still see it.

So am I right in thinking this was no accident? I just wonder how/ why - my profile picture and name are both quite distinctive, but quite frankly I want no more interaction with that man than is strictly necessary. We are also not "friends" on FB, nor have we ever been, although previous messages between us (just the one man and myself) exist.

Any FB pros around who can shed light on this?

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Tessalectus · 22/04/2019 19:57

Well, I did ask (starting with 'I take it') and he's seen it and write nothing in return. Innocence would have dictated a 'no, sorry.' Interesting. Not due to meet him for a few more weeks.

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Tessalectus · 22/04/2019 19:57

*wrote dyac

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UCOforAC12 · 22/04/2019 20:01

No he cannot see any previous messages. It's like starting a brand new conversation. You can even start a brand new conversation with the same people in a new group and none of the messages from the other group are visible.

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