Ever get the feeling someone doesn't like you?

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Every time I text DM I get the feeling she's a bit peeved with me.

It's probably because I'm socially awkward and text isn't the best form of communication,

Sometimes when she's looking after DS she'll say something like I'm expecting the worst of her, when normally nothing like this has crossed my mind.

I just can't shake the feeling that she doesn't like me. How do I get over this?

Is it possible that she has low self esteem herself and imagines that you think badly of her?

Is this your mother you're talking about? What planet are you on? Of course she likes/loves you!

My mom is like this with me too. She has issues.

That's quite odd, is this recent or have you always felt your mother doesn't like you?

single oh single get thee over to stately homes and educate yourself!

It might be shes feeling a bit tense and overwhelmed looking after your son? Especially when theyre at the eyes at the back of your head stage, it might be a bit of reassurance and direct appreciation (ds really loves ..., and im so grateful you do it).

OR

She is actually unhappy about something, could try asking face to face if everything is ok?

I appreciate that if you dont have a natural, equal relationship it can feel very forced.

Yes I know fine well a colleague of mine absolutely hates me it started as a feeling but it's now indisputable

My sister hates me also and I think she thinks she hides this well - she doesn't - she visibly flinches every time I speak in her presence. Bitch.

What sort of things do you text to her? Could it look like you are checking up on her if she's looking after DS?

Sometimes, yes. But often I then ask myself whether I actually like the person very much either, and usually I don't, so it's mutual and we have both been giving off bad vibes to one another.

Really tough if it's your mum though

There is a point though op which is she thinks you're thinking badly of her, and you think she's thinking badly of you.

Clearly there is a communication issue. But maybe it's a learned behaviour from her, where you both think people don't like you, maybe it's both your insecurities?

You say you think negatively about her, but she thinks you do. Possibly she would say the same in reverse?

@Bluntness100 I think it started really when we stopped living together, she's the type that you do sometimes have to tiptoe around but if you see her often it works itself out. When I went to uni the communication wasn't really there from me, which I think there's resentment about, but equally she didn't call me often. It blew up a bit when I got married and we went NC for a while.

@Timeforabiscuit she doesn't look after DS full time, overnight every month or so. I don't think I really set any expectations abort him, as long as he's alive and happy enough at the end of it I'm good. I get the feeling she's waiting for me to be all pfb about him though.

If I asked face to face if something was wrong I feel that would create an issue.

Thanks for all your replies, I think it's just something I'll need to try and work my feelings around. It's possible it's all imagined.