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Hair ‘down there’ help please!

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Nesssie · 14/09/2018 22:18

Going to have sex with a new guy this weekend (hopefully!). First time in a very long time. Crazy nervous and over thinking everything.

What’s the norm with regards to pubic hair? All off? Landing strip? Is there a new style??

Help please!

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PoesyCherish · 14/09/2018 23:32

Sorry meant to say. I recently shaved it all off but not it's growing back and I haven't done anything with it and I think actually I prefer it how it is (i.e. not all off but not all there either)

salopek · 15/09/2018 06:57

Waxed off with hot wax @MajesticWhine

Blobby10 · 15/09/2018 07:09

I trim mine really short then tidy up the edges with a quick shave xx don’t overthink it as (probably) he will be as excited as you are and will be so enjoying the sex he won’t give your pubes a second thoight!!

BlueUggs · 15/09/2018 07:31

I wouldn't have a wax today if you're planning on DTD today or tomorrow! Might be a bit sensitive?!
I'd trim and make it tidy and if you want to try all off, do it a few days before you're due to see him again.....

Blinkingblimey · 15/09/2018 07:36

Those of you trimming - what do you use? Special hairdressing scissors or what?... mine was really spiky and itchy after I did it😳😳

AfterSchoolWorry · 15/09/2018 07:38

All off I'd say.

BertrandRussell · 15/09/2018 07:40

And for anyone saying that it’s not a new thing and is nothing to do with porn or fashion, I have just been re reading Jilly Cooper’s 1970s bonkbusters (the fact that I am admitting that publicly shows how much I care about this issue ) and all the women have pubic hair. Even the incredibly stylish, ultra hygienic and immaculately groomed Helen. There is one scene where a man shaves a woman as part of sex play.apart from that it’s bushes all the way.

whirlingandwhirling · 15/09/2018 07:57

I like to immac all over. Only takes 10 mins to work it’s magic and wash off in the shower.
I don’t know about bum crack hair tho. Wasn’t even aware I had any?!

slippermaiden · 15/09/2018 08:27

Whatever is best for you, I have a small tidy triangle and feel that's what should be there, certainly don't let it grow bushy or wax it all off!

Kilpitlees · 15/09/2018 08:39

Most people I have discussed this with (which is not loads TBH) have removed all hair underneath and have no or a small triangle/landing strip at front. Or you could go for all off underneath and style his initial in the hair left at the front (looking keen but may not guarantee a second shag!)

MajesticWhine · 15/09/2018 08:39

Jeez @salopek - sounds painful. I assume you don't do that yourself. I can promise you I am showing no one my arsehole.

PurpleWithRed · 15/09/2018 08:48

the nice thing about this discussion is that pubic hair is still a woman's choice - lush ladygarden, neat and tidy, smooth and bare, it's up to you. Unlike legs and armpits and eyebrows.

Your bush is just the gift wrapping - he's really interested in what's inside. I'd just want to make sure my clit was findable for someone not familiar with my layout.

pinkhorse · 15/09/2018 08:53

I've currently got a landing strip. Sometimes it's all off. Feels cleaner to me.

Sarahandduck18 · 15/09/2018 08:58

Do men actually notice?

Aren’t they more likely to be thinking about their own insecurities (girth) than hair??

Ledkr · 15/09/2018 09:00

What colour will you die it op?
I like a nice shade of purple for a first shag

Ledkr · 15/09/2018 09:00

Or should I say dye?

gamerchick · 15/09/2018 09:01

I don’t know about bum crack hair tho. Wasn’t even aware I had any?!

You might not, bodies are all different or it might be a getting older thing like chin hairs.

FermatsTheorem · 15/09/2018 09:08

Like everyone else says - how you feel comfortable is the correct style for your pubic hair.

Then view his reaction as a potential wanker filter.

His response: wow, this fabulous, intelligent, interesting attractive woman wants to have sex with me... tick, test passed.

His response: eww, I don't like pubes like that... bin, accompanied by game-show type "wah wah" noise of "game over for you, matey."

dementedpixie · 15/09/2018 09:09

I use a lady shave with a guard and it lets you have different lengths of hair. I take the guard off to get to the bum crack hair

dementedpixie · 15/09/2018 09:14

I suppose it's a bikini trimmer rather than a lady shave

Powerless · 15/09/2018 09:45

Do not put Immac in your nether regions!!!!

GreenMeerkat · 15/09/2018 09:50

I trim and then shave the sides and the top so still have some there.

But I've been with my DH for 10 years and it's not for his benefit but mainly for cleanliness and hygiene.

As others have said l, the 'done thing' is what you are comfortable with.

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Nesssie · 15/09/2018 19:09

Thanks for your replies, I’m going to go for a neat trim.

I really don’t think he’s going to complain, but I just wanted it to be nice for him. Same way I’ll wear makeup and matching bra and knickers- make an effort at the start, then let him know what he’s gotten himself in for

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SpoonBlender · 15/09/2018 23:52

Good luck - and have fun!

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