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Is porn rape?

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Koalacanth · 28/10/2026 02:56

Some people think:

1: porn is prostitution

and

2: prostitution is rape

Putting these two together, porn is rape.

Is that reasonable, and do you agree with it?

I'm not talking about legal definitions, of course; though if it's true, then surely porn should be illegal.

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Missey85 · 29/10/2026 06:32

Grammarnut · 28/10/2026 18:45

A prostituted woman is paid to 'allow' a man/men to rape her. Prostitution is paid for rape. Pornography is degradation of women. The women who take part are often damaged, in abusive relationships, sexually abused as children, prostituted. Certainly, pornography is rape and men who watch it are watching rape - and some pornography is actual rape. All should be banned for it is wrecking lives and perverting sexuality so that kinks such as BDSM, anal sex, strangling etc are normalised as what a woman can expect from sex. It feeds into the trans cult as well, and the abuse of under age children and the abuse of women domestically. It also feeds into VAWG and sexual assault and rape in our homes and our streets from men who think they are entitled to sex and that women who won't give it deserve to have it taken by force.
'Choosing' to be a prostitute is no choice if you are poor, trafficked, an immigrant, have few skills. Such a 'choice' is not empowering but degrading and most prostituted women want to get out of being prostituted. Most make very little money, are drug-addicted and abused. And pornography feeds into this along with its message that men are entitled to sex.

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A woman's choice is hers to make! Not for you to decide what somebody wants! 😂 You don't make the rules

JennyShaw · 30/10/2026 07:57

DeeperShadeofRed · 28/10/2026 16:11

You're absolutely right. I'm just another one of those "crazies"... the support work I used to do with women in the sex trade around sex trafficking is completely irrelevant. Especially compared to your enlightened understanding through having a prostitute "friend" (That's sarcasm by the way).

However much the chronically online wish to dismiss Mumsnetters as nowt more than middle class fish wives, there's a wealth of knowledge and experience from women in these subs and sometimes a stance comes from a (cue gasp sound) informed position.

We know the proportion of sex workers who are trafficked. Several researchers have independently come up with the figure of around 15%. Trafficked doesn't mean coerced. Some trafficked women will have been coerced but most won't. If you have worked with trafficked and/or coerced women then you are likely to think that all sex workers are like those women.

Some people believe that 60% of sex workers are enslaved. There is only one 'researcher' who says that though. Melissa Farley in America. All the other researchers come up with a figure of around 15% for trafficked women although one respected researcher - Niina Vuolajärvi - puts it at 6%.

So Missey85 was quite right to say that it doesn't happen as often as some people like to believe.

Minasama · 30/10/2026 15:23

GentleIron · 28/10/2026 09:02

This tell me you believe consent can be bought.
There is a grey area in which remuneration frequently coexists with coercion and restriction of choice.

Very true.
The whole thing is pretty grim and it would be nice to outlaw it.

Autisticradfem · 01/11/2026 23:45

Koalacanth · 28/10/2026 02:56

Some people think:

1: porn is prostitution

and

2: prostitution is rape

Putting these two together, porn is rape.

Is that reasonable, and do you agree with it?

I'm not talking about legal definitions, of course; though if it's true, then surely porn should be illegal.

you can’t buy consent there for prostitution is rape hope that helps

Koalacanth · 02/11/2026 00:15

Autisticradfem · 01/11/2026 23:45

you can’t buy consent there for prostitution is rape hope that helps

So as porn is obviously prostitution, and therefore consumers of porn are incentivising rape, shouldn't watching porn be criminalised, with severe punishments for those found guilty of it?

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DeeperShadeofRed · 02/11/2026 01:21

JennyShaw · 30/10/2026 07:57

We know the proportion of sex workers who are trafficked. Several researchers have independently come up with the figure of around 15%. Trafficked doesn't mean coerced. Some trafficked women will have been coerced but most won't. If you have worked with trafficked and/or coerced women then you are likely to think that all sex workers are like those women.

Some people believe that 60% of sex workers are enslaved. There is only one 'researcher' who says that though. Melissa Farley in America. All the other researchers come up with a figure of around 15% for trafficked women although one respected researcher - Niina Vuolajärvi - puts it at 6%.

So Missey85 was quite right to say that it doesn't happen as often as some people like to believe.

Except that's not what she said. And I don't care for your "er actually" response either.

JennyShaw · 02/11/2026 11:37

DeeperShadeofRed · 02/11/2026 01:21

Except that's not what she said. And I don't care for your "er actually" response either.

It was your response to Missey85 that was the "er actually" response. You were very condescending to Missey85. She wrote "I know people on here love to bang on about sex trafficking sure it happens but not as as often as the crazies on here think it does". Your response was a sarcastic "I'm just another one of those crazies" and then claiming you have superior knowledge although just working with 'women in the sex trade around sex trafficking' isn't going to tell you what proportion of sex workers are trafficked or coerced.

I don't like the way you imply that Mumsnetters are going to agree with you about the proportion of sex workers who are trafficked. If your 'wealth of knowledge' and 'imformed position' means that you believe that 60% of prostitutes are enslaved - something I have read on Mumsnet - then you are believing something totally false.

Researchers have put the figure for sex workers who are trafficked at around 15% - and trafficked does not mean enslaved.

DeeperShadeofRed · 02/11/2026 12:29

JennyShaw · 02/11/2026 11:37

It was your response to Missey85 that was the "er actually" response. You were very condescending to Missey85. She wrote "I know people on here love to bang on about sex trafficking sure it happens but not as as often as the crazies on here think it does". Your response was a sarcastic "I'm just another one of those crazies" and then claiming you have superior knowledge although just working with 'women in the sex trade around sex trafficking' isn't going to tell you what proportion of sex workers are trafficked or coerced.

I don't like the way you imply that Mumsnetters are going to agree with you about the proportion of sex workers who are trafficked. If your 'wealth of knowledge' and 'imformed position' means that you believe that 60% of prostitutes are enslaved - something I have read on Mumsnet - then you are believing something totally false.

Researchers have put the figure for sex workers who are trafficked at around 15% - and trafficked does not mean enslaved.

I understand the difference between reported cases of trafficking and the difficulty in proving trafficked cases to have them reported as such.

I understand that identitying trafficked cases from EU states when freedom of movement was a thing made the job 1000x harder.

I understand that trafficked doesn't always mean people brought in from other countries, and that sex trafficking also goes hand in hand with alot of county lines crime.

I have no interest in engaging with people who downplay the absolute horrific ways many women (especially young girls out of foster care) are treated, just so they can push the BS 'sex work is female empowerment' rhetoric.

Autisticradfem · 02/11/2026 21:49

Koalacanth · 02/11/2026 00:15

So as porn is obviously prostitution, and therefore consumers of porn are incentivising rape, shouldn't watching porn be criminalised, with severe punishments for those found guilty of it?

Well yes

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 02/11/2026 21:51

Koalacanth · 28/10/2026 02:56

Some people think:

1: porn is prostitution

and

2: prostitution is rape

Putting these two together, porn is rape.

Is that reasonable, and do you agree with it?

I'm not talking about legal definitions, of course; though if it's true, then surely porn should be illegal.

No, rape is rape.

But too many people don't question whether the sex they're viewing is consensual.

MintBird · 02/11/2026 23:50

No it's not.

TempestTost · 03/11/2026 02:29

No, I don't think it is. Nor is prostitution.

I think both are immoral to a greater or lesser degree. They are exploitative in most cases, if not all. But they are different things.

I don't really think the impulse to collapse all bad things together is useful or desirable. It stops is understanding whi something like prostitution is a real problem.

JennyShaw · 06/11/2026 14:46

DeeperShadeofRed · 02/11/2026 12:29

I understand the difference between reported cases of trafficking and the difficulty in proving trafficked cases to have them reported as such.

I understand that identitying trafficked cases from EU states when freedom of movement was a thing made the job 1000x harder.

I understand that trafficked doesn't always mean people brought in from other countries, and that sex trafficking also goes hand in hand with alot of county lines crime.

I have no interest in engaging with people who downplay the absolute horrific ways many women (especially young girls out of foster care) are treated, just so they can push the BS 'sex work is female empowerment' rhetoric.

Researchers don't rely on reported cases of trafficking. Project Acumen was a 12-month research and intelligence study published in August 2010 by the Association of Chief Police Officers (ACPO) and the Home Office, examining off-street prostitution and sex trafficking across England and Wales.

The study estimated a total of approximately 30,000 women working in off-street prostitution (such as brothels, massage parlours, and escort agencies) across England and Wales, operating across an estimated 6,000 brothels. Out of the 30,000 women, an estimated 17,000 were migrants. 2,600 women were identified as victims of human trafficking (15.3%).

It's important to get the facts right because earlier this year MSP Ash Regan tried to introduce a bill that would criminalise men who pay for sex in Scotland. The same as has happened in Sweden and some other European countries. She was told that if she introduced the bill it would harm women because they would be less able to screen clients.

Her response was that 60% of prostitutes are enslaved and therefore can't screen clients. Only 2% of prostitutes engage in prostitution freely and can screen but we have to legislate for the majority not the minority. Ash Regan hadn't researched it properly. Only Melissa Farley says that 60% of prostitutes are enslaved. All the other researchers put trafficking at around 15%. Trafficked doesn't mean enslaved.

If Ash Regan's bill had been passed Scottish women would have been harmed. There would have been no reduction in the amount of prostitution in Scotland but the lives of prostitutes would have been made more difficult and dangerous. Other false statistics from Ash Regan were to do with the effectiveness of the Nordic Model at reducing the total amount of prostitution and murder rates.

NowSober · 06/11/2026 15:10

JennyShaw · 06/11/2026 14:46

Researchers don't rely on reported cases of trafficking. Project Acumen was a 12-month research and intelligence study published in August 2010 by the Association of Chief Police Officers (ACPO) and the Home Office, examining off-street prostitution and sex trafficking across England and Wales.

The study estimated a total of approximately 30,000 women working in off-street prostitution (such as brothels, massage parlours, and escort agencies) across England and Wales, operating across an estimated 6,000 brothels. Out of the 30,000 women, an estimated 17,000 were migrants. 2,600 women were identified as victims of human trafficking (15.3%).

It's important to get the facts right because earlier this year MSP Ash Regan tried to introduce a bill that would criminalise men who pay for sex in Scotland. The same as has happened in Sweden and some other European countries. She was told that if she introduced the bill it would harm women because they would be less able to screen clients.

Her response was that 60% of prostitutes are enslaved and therefore can't screen clients. Only 2% of prostitutes engage in prostitution freely and can screen but we have to legislate for the majority not the minority. Ash Regan hadn't researched it properly. Only Melissa Farley says that 60% of prostitutes are enslaved. All the other researchers put trafficking at around 15%. Trafficked doesn't mean enslaved.

If Ash Regan's bill had been passed Scottish women would have been harmed. There would have been no reduction in the amount of prostitution in Scotland but the lives of prostitutes would have been made more difficult and dangerous. Other false statistics from Ash Regan were to do with the effectiveness of the Nordic Model at reducing the total amount of prostitution and murder rates.

Why quote research from England & Wales to diss Ash Regan's bill in Scotland?

Coconutter24 · 06/11/2026 15:54

Grammarnut · 28/10/2026 18:48

All prostitution is rape. The woman does not consent. She is paid to be raped, pimped and coerced.

The woman consents because she offers the service, she takes money for agreeing to have sex.

Coconutter24 · 06/11/2026 15:58

If porn is rape, what is actually happening? Do people think the woman is being raped and the man is being sexually assaulted? Consent works both ways so if a woman can’t consent to porn, then a man can’t either?

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 06/11/2026 16:01

Mrcollinswave · 28/10/2026 05:51

Yes and they'd have heart attacks on here if they knew that...sometimes....the prostitute actually enjoys it if the client is attractive (read interviews about it)

I imagine that happens quite a lot

🙄

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/11/2026 16:05

Porn may not be, in and of itself, rape, but it certainly fosters an environment where extreme sex is portrayed as normal - strangulation during sex, for example - and where women are portrayed as things, just there to provide sexual satisfaction for men, rather than actual human beings, with needs and rights of their own.

I don’t think that the lessons it teaches will foster healthy, respectful sexual relationships - quite the opposite, in fact.

Prostitution also portrays women as products, things providing sexual satisfaction for men, who can be bought and sold. It is dangerous for women - men who have paid for sex are not likely to respect the woman’s limits and boundaries - they will feel entitled to take what they want, and will not care if the woman is hurt as a result.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 06/11/2026 16:08

Those of you happy to convince us all that sec work is a great career choice - how would you sleep at night if your daughter chose it as a job? At what point in proceedings might you start to have concerns for her mental and physical wellbeing?

EmpathyMatters77 · 06/11/2026 16:11

No, porn is not rape.

Grammarnut · 06/11/2026 17:56

Coconutter24 · 06/11/2026 15:54

The woman consents because she offers the service, she takes money for agreeing to have sex.

Sex isn't a service. Selling it is not consent to it. Selling the holes in your body for a man to stick whatever in them is not a job, either. It's not consent. Most prostituted women are there from poverty, trafficking, drug and sexual abuse. Never call any of that any sort of consent.

VioletsTale · 06/11/2026 18:32

Coconutter24 · 06/11/2026 15:54

The woman consents because she offers the service, she takes money for agreeing to have sex.

So you’re in the “ you can buy consent” camp.

Coconutter24 · 06/11/2026 18:40

VioletsTale · 06/11/2026 18:32

So you’re in the “ you can buy consent” camp.

No. I don’t think you can buy consent but I think some prostitutes do give consent.

Coconutter24 · 06/11/2026 18:45

Grammarnut · 06/11/2026 17:56

Sex isn't a service. Selling it is not consent to it. Selling the holes in your body for a man to stick whatever in them is not a job, either. It's not consent. Most prostituted women are there from poverty, trafficking, drug and sexual abuse. Never call any of that any sort of consent.

Most prostituted women are there from poverty, trafficking, drug and sexual abuse

True and I don’t think you can buy their consent in those circumstances. They are there out of fear, desperation or forced, so no you can’t buy their consent. That said not all prostitution is like that, some women do it as a job, they choose to do it because of the money and the lifestyle that money can provide. Escorts that choose to be there I do think are consenting.

NovemberMorn · 06/11/2026 18:45

Grammarnut · 28/10/2026 18:48

All prostitution is rape. The woman does not consent. She is paid to be raped, pimped and coerced.

Not always.
I have known at least 2 prostitutes when I worked in clubs. It was their choice, their terms and the simple answer is they enjoyed the money they recieved for their services.
Not every prostitute has a pimp either.