My work insisting I refer to a 9 year old as they/them

You carried on sending your child to a school where she was seriously bullied and harassed every day to the point where she collapsed when she got home but the school just shrugged their shoulders and didn't try to stop it happening.

Why did you put your child through that?

If shes female and dresses girly and fancies boy, she a fairly standard girl, no?

You should have taken her out of that school. It sounds horrendous.

He dresses as he wants, usually quite androgynously, and is a trans boy.

Because being trans isn't a costume.

His friends and brothers were in the school and - as demonstrated here - ignorant transphobia is everywhere.

All online transphobia enables that violence.

Hi there.

You've chosen to describe my trans son as my daughter, so your opinion is invalid to me.

Trans/nb kids are who they say they are, and don't require adults to tell them otherwise. Adult failure of imagination - and basic respect - is not their fault.

671 new posts on 'why I'm objecting to a child being themselves'. What an amazing example of transphobia mattering more here than feminism, rape culture or anything to do with our rights.

He dresses as he wants, usually quite androgynously, and is a trans boy.

Because being trans isn't a costume.

His friends and brothers were in the school and - as demonstrated here - ignorant transphobia is everywhere.

All online transphobia enables that violence.

Have you - the feminist - actually started any threads about feminism, rape culture or anything to do with women's rights? Or anything else you'd like to tell us we should be discussing, in your view?

Hi there.

You've chosen to describe my trans son as my daughter, so your opinion is invalid to me.

Trans/nb kids are who they say they are, and don't require adults to tell them otherwise. Adult failure of imagination - and basic respect - is not their fault.

671 new posts on 'why I'm objecting to a child being themselves'. What an amazing example of transphobia mattering more here than feminism, rape culture or anything to do with our rights.

I dip in and out, and have commented plenty on threads other than those demonstrating the malicious transphobia that's a hallmark of this place.

I find the large proportion of men posting about kids here very off-putting, and prefer to post elsewhere about family and feminist issues.

I mostly turn up to object to the transphobia, which I'm sure is obvious. Although there are many decent people here, the very fact that this thread is so massive by comparison with anything genuinely feminist - and it's about a child asking adults to respect and protect them - perfectly illustrates my point.

There's nothing whatsoever respectful in hounding this child.

Will note you don't need replies in future. Transphobia bores me, and apparently you don't want discussion.

See ya.

I dip in and out, and have commented plenty on threads other than those demonstrating the malicious transphobia that's a hallmark of this place.

I find the large proportion of men posting about kids here very off-putting, and prefer to post elsewhere about family and feminist issues.

I mostly turn up to object to the transphobia, which I'm sure is obvious. Although there are many decent people here, the very fact that this thread is so massive by comparison with anything genuinely feminist - and it's about a child asking adults to respect and protect them - perfectly illustrates my point.

I'm a feminist lmao. So is my son.

I was trying to make the points that

a) being trans is who someone is
b) it's not a costume. Lots of trans people don't conform to gender stereotypes, but are more likely to get harassed if they do this
c) trans people experience euphoria differently, and accepting them can ease it.

Discussing trans/nb people all day, demanding to know what they are - then dismissing their words when they tell you - is pretty odd behaviour.

Perhaps pursue a less destructive hobby, and one which would make you happier, than getting furious at a minority for existing? They have existed, and will exist in future, without your permission or understanding.

It happened so often in school that he stopped reporting it. Some gay teachers took him under their wing and walked corridors with him when they could, and other teachers looked out for him in class. But the bus, library, canteen and other communal areas are unguardable, especially when it's a lot of kids doing it.

He used to come home every day and collapse, because of the effort required to be hypervigilant. The experience has badly scarred him. Didn't stop him being trans though.

Being transgender isn't a sexual orientation, and he was a child!

He's gay (i.e. likes men, he's a late teen now) and is trans. He's still much more 'girly' than his old mum. Because he's been supported, he feels confident enough to wear skirts, dresses, heels and make-up, secure in the knowledge that his family and friends know he's a trans boy.

Being trans isn't a sexual thing. It's literally just your inner gender not reflecting the outer. Trans boys who are given support are far less likely to bind, and many prefer to keep their breasts. If there were more public support for just accepting people's gender (and using their pronouns) without demanding their appearance reflected that gender, then fewer trans people would medically transition.

It's not about a wish to become a different gender. It's about already being that gender. Dysphoria becomes unbearable when that inner person is denied the chance to show themselves. Coming out is a relief because they can stop pretending to be someone else.

Being trans is not a paraphilia, and projecting that onto children is plain repulsive.

Being non-binary is very normal. I have always known I was different - didn't want to be a boy, though I wanted the freedoms boys had and always fought for them, but knew that 'girl' didn't fit me either. So now, I am beginning to refer to myself as non-binary.

Please tell me. Do you really, truly think that my being non-binary is a paraphilia? Any idea how that works? I'm straight, have a husband and three children. My coming out to my family was a hilarious non-event, not one of them cared and it's altered nothing. I just feel happier knowing I finally have a label which fits - because it's quietly bothered me my whole life.

How is that a paraphilia?

How is a non-binary child asking to have their pronouns respected, a paraphilia?

Seriously, how?!

Hi there.

You've chosen to describe my trans son as my daughter, so your opinion is invalid to me.

Trans/nb kids are who they say they are, and don't require adults to tell them otherwise. Adult failure of imagination - and basic respect - is not their fault.

671 new posts on 'why I'm objecting to a child being themselves'. What an amazing example of transphobia mattering more here than feminism, rape culture or anything to do with our rights.

You explicitly said to me that being trans was a paraphilia. "Real children Being impacted by an adult paraphilia" to quote you directly.

Being trans is being trans. It's who someone is, and if you aren't trans them you won't know how it feels.

I can't describe how being gay feels, or asexual, because I am neither. Yet I would never tell people they aren't, and respect that they know who they are. I can't describe how being (I'm not JK Rowling lmao.) Just because an aspect of who someone is, whether their sexuality or gender, is invisible, doesn't entitle anyone to dismiss it.

I cannot describe my sense of being nb. It's just who I am. I have always known it, and it's a huge relief to be able to name how I feel. It's important to me.

I am just wondering what TransParently Annoyed is getting out of posting here?

You seem to devote an awful lot of time to it but hate all of the people and discussions. You come over as quite aggressive so you are unlikely to change the minds of the many people you disagree with. So I don't really understand why you are putting so much of your energy into this.

I'm sorry your child had such a hard time at school and I'm glad if they are happier now.

Why did you put your child through that?

Don't worry. This child only exists in TPA's imagination.

I am just wondering what TransParently Annoyed is getting out of posting here?

You seem to devote an awful lot of time to it but hate all of the people and discussions. You come over as quite aggressive so you are unlikely to change the minds of the many people you disagree with. So I don't really understand why you are putting so much of your energy into this.

I'm sorry your child had such a hard time at school and I'm glad if they are happier now.

You explicitly said to me that being trans was a paraphilia. "Real children Being impacted by an adult paraphilia" to quote you directly.

Being trans is being trans. It's who someone is, and if you aren't trans them you won't know how it feels.

I can't describe how being gay feels, or asexual, because I am neither. Yet I would never tell people they aren't, and respect that they know who they are. I can't describe how being (I'm not JK Rowling lmao.) Just because an aspect of who someone is, whether their sexuality or gender, is invisible, doesn't entitle anyone to dismiss it.

I cannot describe my sense of being nb. It's just who I am. I have always known it, and it's a huge relief to be able to name how I feel. It's important to me.

You explicitly said to me that being trans was a paraphilia. "Real children Being impacted by an adult paraphilia" to quote you directly.

Being trans is being trans. It's who someone is, and if you aren't trans them you won't know how it feels.

I can't describe how being gay feels, or asexual, because I am neither. Yet I would never tell people they aren't, and respect that they know who they are. I can't describe how being (I'm not JK Rowling lmao.) Just because an aspect of who someone is, whether their sexuality or gender, is invisible, doesn't entitle anyone to dismiss it.

I cannot describe my sense of being nb. It's just who I am. I have always known it, and it's a huge relief to be able to name how I feel. It's important to me.

When TPA first started posting he claimed to have two second cousins who were "trans" but there was no mention that their own child was "trans".