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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

'Pregnant people'

342 replies

StickySundew · 18/08/2026 18:01

I know there are more important battles, but this pisses me off and we've learned that gender-centric language is used as a wedge.

Only women get pregnant. Don't try to erase the relevance of female sex. This doesn't happen to men - all the info my friend with prostate cancer gets refers to men with prostate cancer, not 'people with prostate cancer'. There'd be outrage and a lot of hurt if someone tried to set up support for 'people with prostate cancer'.

This time it was the Food Standards Agency, issuing a reminder about the groups most at risk from salmonella poisoning.

I just wanted to let off steam.

So that I have a bit more excuse, let's have an utterly pointless voodoo poll to see how many enablers and TRAs are hanging around.

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6ate9 · 20/08/2026 13:54

Pallisers · 20/08/2026 13:50

My children were taught as far back as primary school that your intent and your impact can be wildly different things.

In an attempt to include the tiny minority of women who have a problem being referred to as such thus using "pregnant people" the word woman is wiped from the discussion about pregnancy and childbirth. You cannot have a useful discussion about abortion rights unless you define the people whom it affects - women. The Dobbs decision will have no impact whatsoever on my son's health - nor his decision on where to live. It may well have an impact on my daughters' health and pretending otherwise is just a lie - a lie that excludes women from the very thing that only affects them.

To say nothing of wiping the word "women" from the most dangerous yet incredible thing that we and only we can do with our bodies. every human who ever stood on this earth came from the body of a woman.

“We are all born of woman, and we carry the pulse of the first mother in our blood.”

NotAtMyAge · 20/08/2026 13:56

thestudio · 20/08/2026 13:33

Sorry if this has already been said. This is primarily to be inclusive to TIFs and non-binaries, not to TIMs.

I know the principle is the same but I find it mildly less enraging to think of it that way.

They are already included by virtue of being women - adult female humans. Sex cannot be changed. The inner feelings of individuals matter to them, of course, but they are no reason to change or erase the words which belong to and describe the female sex.

CreativeGreen · 20/08/2026 13:59

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 20/08/2026 11:43

Trans people exist, albeit in very small numbers. They need healthcare.

You can get as an angry as you want, deny what you want. Fair enough, your life. Doesn't alter that they will keep being born, getting jobs, and dropping sprogs.

People who belong to minorities deserve a health service which welcomes them. We fought for that.

This is just not an answer to the question. Nobody is saying trans people don't exist or deserve healthcare. Women deserve good maternity services and healthcare generally no matter how they feel about their sex or how they choose to perform whatever they perceive as 'gender'. But 'woman' is the right term for a human gestating a baby.

thestudio · 20/08/2026 14:00

NotAtMyAge · 20/08/2026 13:56

They are already included by virtue of being women - adult female humans. Sex cannot be changed. The inner feelings of individuals matter to them, of course, but they are no reason to change or erase the words which belong to and describe the female sex.

I’m aware and of course it’s all infuriating bollocks.

but as I said, it’s mildly less infuriating to me if it’s not TIM feelings that are being soothed, which some posters were implying.

NotAtMyAge · 20/08/2026 14:04

thestudio · 20/08/2026 14:00

I’m aware and of course it’s all infuriating bollocks.

but as I said, it’s mildly less infuriating to me if it’s not TIM feelings that are being soothed, which some posters were implying.

Fair point. The feelings and behaviour of trans-identified men are another whole minefield.

6ate9 · 20/08/2026 14:06

NotAtMyAge · 20/08/2026 14:04

Fair point. The feelings and behaviour of trans-identified men are another whole minefield.

Ain't that the truth!”

DizzyWhoreEighteenHundredAndFour · 20/08/2026 14:16

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 20/08/2026 11:33

Anyone can request a change of doctor or chaperone. It's in the Patients Charter.

I know this because I'm a survivor of childhood physical abuse who's had kids, so have often been examined by cis men.

I would personally prefer a trans woman to examine me over a cis guy, but as always would request someone else be present if one wasn't offered. I don't want any physical exam done without a witness.

Oh and using slurs to describe minorities isn't argument.

So you don't disagree that it is perfectly acceptable for traumatised women to request a change of doctor on the grounds that she does not wish to be examined by a male, however he presents? And you therefore, by extension, agree that sex is real and single sex care is essential for many women? Thank you.

Also, I did not use a slur for any minority. As someone who ticks several minority boxes myself, I would never do that.

I am sorry about your history - I am also an abuse survivor so I do empathise and understand how upsetting things like medical appointments can be. I hope you are doing okay 💐

SirChenjins · 20/08/2026 16:18

The difficulty of course is that not every woman is aware of her rights (it's known as something different in NHS Scotland btw), which is why you have people like Dr Upton who have freely admitted that they will continue to treat a woman even if she requests a female Dr. This means that women who may want to see a male Dr may be left feeling that she is not able to request one when she knows she's being treated by a male but he claims he's a woman. Absolutely chilling.

6ate9 · 20/08/2026 16:22

SirChenjins · 20/08/2026 16:18

The difficulty of course is that not every woman is aware of her rights (it's known as something different in NHS Scotland btw), which is why you have people like Dr Upton who have freely admitted that they will continue to treat a woman even if she requests a female Dr. This means that women who may want to see a male Dr may be left feeling that she is not able to request one when she knows she's being treated by a male but he claims he's a woman. Absolutely chilling.

This is appalling! I read that he is now practicing in Australia.

BeanQuisine · 20/08/2026 16:31

If a "non-binary genderfluid" person ascends to the throne, I assume it will be Their Majesty, The Quing.

Imagine the upper crust after-dinner toasts.

"Ladies and gentlemen - The Quing!"

Assembled officers and gentlefolk, rising: "The Quing!"

SirChenjins · 20/08/2026 17:51

6ate9 · 20/08/2026 16:22

This is appalling! I read that he is now practicing in Australia.

Yes - and no doubt continuing to ignore or completely disregard the wishes, feelings or discomfort of Australian women.

These are not the people who are unwelcome in health services - women are. Health services are falling over themselves to accommodate men.

flyingbuttress43 · 20/08/2026 19:16

Bit out of left field, but today I saw an instagram post of a TIM who had had lots of 'work' done to become a woman (!) and took a DNA test and was distraught to see he still came up XY. No shit sherlock? Unbelievable.

6ate9 · 20/08/2026 19:39

flyingbuttress43 · 20/08/2026 19:16

Bit out of left field, but today I saw an instagram post of a TIM who had had lots of 'work' done to become a woman (!) and took a DNA test and was distraught to see he still came up XY. No shit sherlock? Unbelievable.

I’ve just looked this up. It is unbelievable!! One comment said “You can’t trans your DNA.”

GreyskySexRealistsky · 20/08/2026 20:05

TransParentlyAnnoyed · Today 03:19
Gynae care especially. If you aren't sure you can trust someone who will examine you so intimately, then you will be put off from attending.

So near and yet....so, so far.

If a woman who wants a woman to examine her can't be sure she can trust the person is actually a woman, she will be put off.

You are sympathetic to the feelings of transmen, fair enough, but you stubbornly refuse to acknowledge how women without a trans identity feel.

Transwomen are men. Even the doctor ones.

StickySundew · 21/08/2026 08:13

It seems worth a brief reminder that this thread was prompted by irritation at a press release from the Food Standards Agency, aimed at the general public, about the groups at higher risk from salmonella poisoning. Concision matters.

In a socio-political context it would be appropriate to refer to 'pregnant girls', if they were under the age of consent when they conceived. In healthcare messaging aimed at trans-identifying women it would be appropriate to use language that encourages them to take up screening invitations and seek care - and such messaging should be disseminated via sources trusted by TIFs, in the spaces they use.

The FSA's public health warning wasn't either of those.

I'm not going to go back and check,* but although the warning is performatively trans-inclusive at the expense of the overwhelming majority of pregnant women, I don't think it mentioned (presumably for brevity) that people with multiple or severe disabilities are often vulnerable too. That's probably the group where awareness of the vulnerability (amongst their carers) is highest, but it's a much larger group than pregnant TIFs. If this were truly about 'inclusion' the warning would have been comprehensive.

*I did. Here's the warning:
She advised: "Infants, young children, pregnant people and older adults should only eat runny or raw eggs if they have a British Lion mark or are produced under the Laid in Britain egg assurance scheme."

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Peregrina · 21/08/2026 08:41

This is primarily to be inclusive to TIFs and non-binaries, not to TIMs.

No. If 'inclusivity' mattered there would be upteen ads for 'people with a prostate' to make sure that TIMs realised that despite how they identified, they could still get prostate cancer.

Chersfrozenface · 21/08/2026 13:35

Credit where credit's due.

In its story on the salmonella risk the BBC News website is using "pregnant women" in its headline and its own text.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cx2krdggx6xo

There is a quote from the FSA chief scientific adviser, Ian Young, where he says "..for those people in particular who are young, elderly, pregnant or vulnerable...", which is an obvious cop-out.

Plate with runny eggs

Under-fives and pregnant women told to avoid runny eggs when eating out over salmonella risk

Advice given to under fives, over 65s, pregnant women and others amid salmonella outbreak.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cx2krdggx6xo

MrsOvertonsWindow · 21/08/2026 16:48

Chersfrozenface · 21/08/2026 13:35

Credit where credit's due.

In its story on the salmonella risk the BBC News website is using "pregnant women" in its headline and its own text.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cx2krdggx6xo

There is a quote from the FSA chief scientific adviser, Ian Young, where he says "..for those people in particular who are young, elderly, pregnant or vulnerable...", which is an obvious cop-out.

Thank you. That's a really good indication that things at the BBC are changing for the better after all these years of gaslighting.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 21/08/2026 17:10

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 20/08/2026 11:33

Anyone can request a change of doctor or chaperone. It's in the Patients Charter.

I know this because I'm a survivor of childhood physical abuse who's had kids, so have often been examined by cis men.

I would personally prefer a trans woman to examine me over a cis guy, but as always would request someone else be present if one wasn't offered. I don't want any physical exam done without a witness.

Oh and using slurs to describe minorities isn't argument.

I would personally prefer a trans woman to examine me over a cis guy

May I respectfully ask why? Do you think "trans women" are better people than "cis guys"? Or do you think that "trans women" are actually women in the same way that you are a woman (I realise that I'm presuming that you are a woman, not a man)? Or some other reason?

DizzyWhoreEighteenHundredAndFour · 21/08/2026 17:49

Chersfrozenface · 21/08/2026 13:35

Credit where credit's due.

In its story on the salmonella risk the BBC News website is using "pregnant women" in its headline and its own text.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cx2krdggx6xo

There is a quote from the FSA chief scientific adviser, Ian Young, where he says "..for those people in particular who are young, elderly, pregnant or vulnerable...", which is an obvious cop-out.

It's astounding that we find ourselves in a situation where the BBC referring to 'pregnant women' should be seen as something positive or noteworthy as opposed to something that we wouldn't even notice, in the way it always was until a few years ago. Mad that we feel the need to give our national broadcaster (or indeed anyone else) credit for using correct terminology, but here we are.

6ate9 · 21/08/2026 17:59

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 21/08/2026 17:10

I would personally prefer a trans woman to examine me over a cis guy

May I respectfully ask why? Do you think "trans women" are better people than "cis guys"? Or do you think that "trans women" are actually women in the same way that you are a woman (I realise that I'm presuming that you are a woman, not a man)? Or some other reason?

I think @TransParentlyAnnoyed is male. He mentioned “dropping sprogs!” I can’t believe a woman would ever use that term for giving birth.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 21/08/2026 18:27

6ate9 · 21/08/2026 17:59

I think @TransParentlyAnnoyed is male. He mentioned “dropping sprogs!” I can’t believe a woman would ever use that term for giving birth.

It's just as baffling if he's a bloke ... unless of course he's attracted to "trans women", but I doubt that's the reason. Anyway, it's possible I might get an answer, though I can't hold my breath for long.

maximc · 21/08/2026 18:34

Say pregnant women. If you want to add, & people, to accommodate the fraction of a percent of female people who may be pregnant & do not identify as women, then that is your choice but don't erase 99+% of women & call it inclusive.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 21/08/2026 18:35

DizzyWhoreEighteenHundredAndFour · 21/08/2026 17:49

It's astounding that we find ourselves in a situation where the BBC referring to 'pregnant women' should be seen as something positive or noteworthy as opposed to something that we wouldn't even notice, in the way it always was until a few years ago. Mad that we feel the need to give our national broadcaster (or indeed anyone else) credit for using correct terminology, but here we are.

Agreed. But as we've so often said, this is like turning a massive tanker around - very slowly and carefully. The BBC have been massively responsible for promoting sex change as desirable and problem free to young children (and the rest of us) so to see them oh so carefully abandoning biased language in favour of accurate fact based language is important.
But so much gritting of teeth as we watch these useful idiots crossing that golden bridge

6ate9 · 21/08/2026 18:36

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 21/08/2026 18:27

It's just as baffling if he's a bloke ... unless of course he's attracted to "trans women", but I doubt that's the reason. Anyway, it's possible I might get an answer, though I can't hold my breath for long.

The OP has probably changed user name by now!

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