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UK radical feminists; what to do?

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RealRoseCritic · 29/07/2026 15:19

So there was a question earlier today in one of my groups about TERFs in the UK, why are they so strong there, etc. Let me elaborate on something.

There is something special in mainstream British feminism that is quite different from European feminism(s), but since the English speaking internet concerns mostly the Anglosphere and not Europe, due to us having separate, isolated debates in each country/language, you won't likely ever hear how the UK is substantially different.
It is important to understand the logic of British feminism. Unlike European feminism, which is mostly inclusive and focused on stuff like equal pay, care, safe design of public space and general equity, in the UK it was always about "separate but equal".

British centres of power were always men-only, and many British feminists didn't react the way European women did (aka pushed their way into male spaces, so that these became co-ed spaces), but created their own, separate spaces, which they then aggressively policed the same way British men did with theirs. Add some Victorian prudishness and bioessentialism, that was abandoned in Europe after WWII for obvious reasons, but not in the UK, and voilà, here come British second-wave radfems and the TERFs.

I am from the Czech Republic where I currently live; I lived in Norway, Poland and the Netherlands, I speak fluently multiple European languages and understand few others; I don't say that to brag, but to show my ability to do the comparative analysis, since I study the topic closely.

Out of EU member states, only in Bulgaria and Hungary are trans rights worse than in the UK at the moment, with Hungary being expected to get substantially better soon, and in neither of those two countries are trans people, and especially trans women, as demonised as in the UK.

In all EU member states transphobia comes exclusively from far right places; it is unheard of that liberals or anyone non-far right would say what is absolutely the mainstream in the UK, including Hungary and Bulgaria.
If you are saying the stuff JKR is saying, you are 100 % aligned with far right politics.

We had an attempt by a group of our far right senators to enact a bill proposal similar to what is in the UK, but the proposal was killed within a week before it could have been even voted upon in the Chamber of Deputies. Just for instance.
Scandinavian feminism is focused mostly on fair share of care and chores, German feminism focuses mostly on equal pay, Kita for everyone and the like, Polish feminism is mostly about access to abortion, Czech feminism is mostly about equal pay and safety from domestic violence - I could go on, but all in all, men are welcome to participate and the goal is to create equity for everyone, regardless of their gender. Together.
We don't get British obsession with separate spaces for women, women here are absolutely fine with the way things are, mostly because cultures in the Continent are far less prudish and overall we treat men and women as one people rather than different species.

Moreover, because of civil law rather than common law, we have different approach to legal texts and their interpretations; this makes it different too.
Not just regarding trans rights, but also regarding women's rights, I am often amazed by how much backward the UK is in so many ways compared to the EU (again, including places like Hungary, this needs to be stressed). I often see women in English-speaking debates saying things like "ugh, men" on things that actually concern problems that are specifically British and that stem mostly from both societies' tendency to separate already boys from girls, treating them differently and sexualising women in contexts we don't really see as sexual at all.

We can't really get this across the Channel, because we just don't have the power to do so. For instance Czech debate on feminism is quite isolated; it's interesting, but no more than 15 million people would ever be able to participate in it (CZ/SK) due to the language barrier, the same goes for Scandinavia (17 million), Benelux (28 million), Poland (38 million), or even DACH (95 million). It is nothing compared to half a billion people of the US, UK, CA, AU, NZ and IE that are giving tone to the worldwide debate in English.

So, if you are a British trans woman, you would do yourself a great favour if you moved to mainland Europe. You will be welcomed and cherished (for the most part).

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nicepotoftea · 02/08/2026 08:54

When you centre the feminist struggle only around biological differences it kinda takes away from the bigger ongoing struggle of equality that's legitimised by the sexes commonalties. You act as if this is no longer an issue when it clearly is.

Not clear what your argument is here.

‘Biology’ just refers to material differences.Why would one make provision for or analyse the impact of immaterial differences? How would one identify what they are?

nicepotoftea · 02/08/2026 08:16

Toilets and changing rooms are single sex because getting changed and going to the toilet are generally regarded as private acts in the UK. The legislation is clear on this and the wording in the 2010 EA borrows from the 1975 sex discrimination Act which said that unlawful discrimination against women does not occur where:

c)the facilities or services are provided for, or are likely to be used by, two or more persons at the same time, and

(i)the facilities or services are such, or those persons are such, that male users are likely to suffer serious embarrassment at the presence of a woman, or

(ii)the facilities or services are such that a user is likely to be in a state of undress and a male user might reasonably object to the presence of a female user.

Women may also be more vulnerable when they are in a state of undress but, going by the legislation, that is not the primary driver of the practice of having single sex toilets.

As far as I am aware Australia also labels public toilets as male and female, although it’s not clear why if anyone can use any toilet.

Gretel346 · 02/08/2026 08:11

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 01/08/2026 14:58

@Gretel346 - several of your replies contain useful concessions, but those concessions do not lead to your conclusions.

You now describe your account of gender-critical women as an “everyday theory”, not a scientific one. Fine, but that means it is a hypothesis about women’s motives, not an established explanation. References to British cultural habits do not demonstrate that women who defend sex-based categories are driven by class envy, sexual anxiety or internalised misogyny. I do not need to invent a rival diagnosis of your motives to point out that yours is unevidenced.

I am also happy to distinguish the substantive argument from gratuitous rhetoric. Mocking somebody’s clothes or presentation can be rude and unnecessary. I do not need to defend every expression ever used by every gender-critical person. But that does not make recognising sex an attack on femininity. A woman choosing make-up is not a stereotype; treating make-up, clothing or mannerisms as evidence that somebody is a woman is. Men should be free to be feminine and women masculine without either being told that their presentation reveals an inner sex.

Your point that behaviour may reflect both biology and socialisation changes nothing here. Average behavioural differences, whatever their causes, do not define reproductive sex and cannot establish that identity changes it.

Your analogy with religion is revealing. I can respect a religious person without professing their creed, and without reorganising material categories around it. In precisely the same way, adults should be free to identify, dress and live as they wish and should not be harassed. But respecting a person does not require everybody else to adopt that person’s beliefs about sex, or to concede that identity determines membership of every sex-based group.

Nor is a female boundary “supremacy”. Supremacy asserts superior status or dominion. A female category protecting privacy, dignity, fair competition, recovery from male violence or freedom of association does neither. Equal citizenship has never meant a right of admission to every group or facility.

I agree that context and proportionality matter. But “proportionality” is not a magic word that completes the balancing exercise. Under section 7B of Australia’s Sex Discrimination Act, reasonableness in indirect-discrimination cases includes the extent of disadvantage, whether it can be mitigated, and whether it is proportionate to the result sought. That requires examining both sides and the available alternatives. It does not mean that gender identity prevails unless women can prove that a particular male is about to assault somebody.

Your material on cultural imperialism describes a theory; it does not establish that the theory explains this dispute. To do that, you would need evidence that identifiable media structures manufactured the relevant beliefs and displaced local women’s prior understanding, rather than reporting a dispute that Australian women were already having. Labelling one side “grassroots” and the other “top down” simply assumes the conclusion. Even a genuinely top-down campaign might make a true claim, while a grassroots movement might make a false one.

You also say that transgender is a sociological category, not a biological one, and that nobody claims reproductive sex changes. That is an important concession. But it leaves the central question unanswered: why should a sociological identity automatically displace a biological category in provision whose purpose is sex-based? The existence of transgender identities across cultures establishes that such people exist. It does not by itself establish an entitlement to membership of every opposite-sex category.

Recognising women as female does not reduce women to reproductive organs. It identifies the sex class historically affected by pregnancy, reproductive control, sex discrimination and male violence. Women do not cease to be cognitively equal because their sex is sometimes relevant. The sexist error was inferring intellectual inferiority from female biology, not acknowledging female biology at all.

Nor does accepting some female boundaries lead logically to segregated streets, workplaces and classrooms. A mixed school can have female toilets and changing rooms. A mixed workplace can provide sex-specific intimate facilities. Male teachers and colleagues occupy regulated professional roles; that does not give them access to female facilities as fellow users. Context-specific boundaries are the opposite of universal segregation.

The comparison of sexual violence totals in workplaces, schools and toilets does not establish your case either. People spend incomparably more time at school and work, so raw totals do not provide equivalent risk measures. In any event, toilets and changing facilities concern privacy and dignity, not merely the statistical probability of assault.

Your description of Australian exemptions is also too simple. Federal law contains several differently framed provisions concerning sport, particular accommodation and services, voluntary bodies and temporary exemptions, while state and territory laws also operate. But your acceptance of hospitals, refuges, prisons and sport is significant for another reason: it concedes that recognising sex and excluding members of the opposite sex can be legitimate. That is inconsistent with describing the principle itself as patriarchal, supremacist or the beginning of a slide into general segregation. The real dispute is where the boundary should be drawn and why.

Where harms genuinely operate in both directions, both should be specified and weighed. Private and unisex alternatives matter because they may accommodate gender identity without abolishing a communal female category. Merely asserting that public toilets have not received the same legal treatment as other settings does not demonstrate that women have no privacy or dignity interests there. Existing law is the current legal answer; it is not evidence that the policy balance is morally or politically beyond challenge.

I will concede one point plainly: asking whether you were “a dude” was unnecessary. Your sex cannot reliably be inferred from anonymous prose, and your argument should stand or fall independently of it. Sex realism does not require defending guesses based on writing style.

Likewise, broad democratic consultation is desirable. But the absence of a large, visible campaign is not evidence of consent, and rights claims do not become legitimate only after achieving mass popularity. That principle must apply equally to the adoption of gender-identity policies and to their reconsideration.

The excursions into Sal Grover’s motives, crowdfunding and Rupert Murdoch remain irrelevant. If you are not offering them as reasons to reject the argument, they do not answer the argument. It is also difficult to maintain simultaneously that gender-critical politics dominates the media through a powerful propaganda system and that the movement’s inability to mobilise Australians proves its impotence.

Finally, my account of Tickle was not a claim that you personally believe reproductive sex changes. It clarified what the judgment established. The Full Court of the Federal Court—not an Australian “Supreme Court”—found direct gender-identity discrimination. In deciding the statutory question, the majority treated the post-surgery claimant as a woman/female in contemporary Australian legal usage. The Court expressly distinguished that exercise from answering a scientific question. If you agree that reproductive sex did not change, then we agree that a legal classification cannot settle the biological fact or, by itself, answer every policy question about female association.

My position is straightforward: transgender people are entitled to dignity, safety and equal participation in public life. Women are equally entitled to name their sex, organise as females and retain proportionate sex-based boundaries where sex matters. Respect for one group should not require the conceptual or practical disappearance of the other.

Over and out.

You now describe your account of gender-critical women as an “everyday theory”, not a scientific one. Fine, but that means it is a hypothesis about women’s motives, not an established explanation. References to British cultural habits do not demonstrate that women who defend sex-based categories are driven by class envy, sexual anxiety or internalised misogyny. I do not need to invent a rival diagnosis of your motives to point out that yours is unevidenced.

Again, I never claimed 'proof'. I simply supported the likelihood based on distinctive cultural influences from other countries. To pretend my theory is totally unsupported by the self evident cultural differences points to denial as a unconscious defence mechanism that distorts objective reality to shield the mind from severe anxiety perhaps?

It is interesting but not surprising watching social constructionists denounce obvious cultural influences when convenient.

I am also happy to distinguish the substantive argument from gratuitous rhetoric. Mocking somebody’s clothes or presentation can be rude and unnecessary. I do not need to defend every expression ever used by every gender-critical person. But that does not make recognising sex an attack on femininity. A woman choosing make-up is not a stereotype; treating make-up, clothing or mannerisms as evidence that somebody is a woman is. Men should be free to be feminine and women masculine without either being told that their presentation reveals an inner sex.

Strawman. I never claimed recognising sex is an attack on femininity. I specifically said using feminine expression/presentation to mock people or claim they are 'brain washed' was.

Your point that behaviour may reflect both biology and socialisation changes nothing here. Average behavioural differences, whatever their causes, do not define reproductive sex and cannot establish that identity changes it.

Strawman. Never stated it did. You may want to reflect upon why you feel the compulsion to misrepresent uncomfortable comments.

Your analogy with religion is revealing. I can respect a religious person without professing their creed, and without reorganising material categories around it. In precisely the same way, adults should be free to identify, dress and live as they wish and should not be harassed. But respecting a person does not require everybody else to adopt that person’s beliefs about sex, or to concede that identity determines membership of every sex-based group.

Strawman. Never claimed it did.

Nor is a female boundary “supremacy”. Supremacy asserts superior status or dominion. A female category protecting privacy, dignity, fair competition, recovery from male violence or freedom of association does neither. Equal citizenship has never meant a right of admission to every group or facility.

We've done this already as in 'proportionality' & the fact GC's don't believe gender qualifies for rights balancing.

I agree that context and proportionality matter. But “proportionality” is not a magic word that completes the balancing exercise. Under section 7B of Australia’s Sex Discrimination Act, reasonableness in indirect-discrimination cases includes the extent of disadvantage, whether it can be mitigated, and whether it is proportionate to the result sought. That requires examining both sides and the available alternatives. It does not mean that gender identity prevails unless women can prove that a particular male is about to assault somebody.

Duh! Welcome to Australia!

Your material on cultural imperialism describes a theory; it does not establish that the theory explains this dispute. To do that, you would need evidence that identifiable media structures manufactured the relevant beliefs and displaced local women’s prior understanding, rather than reporting a dispute that Australian women were already having. Labelling one side “grassroots” and the other “top down” simply assumes the conclusion. Even a genuinely top-down campaign might make a true claim, while a grassroots movement might make a false one.

The evidence is no broad grass roots campaigning or public awareness from prior to the saturation of anti trans media coverage. Now if you are going to pretend mass media propaganda has no impact on public perception, history begs to differ.

www.un.org/en/hate-speech/understanding-hate-speech/hate-speech-and-real-harm

You also say that transgender is a sociological category, not a biological one, and that nobody claims reproductive sex changes. That is an important concession. But it leaves the central question unanswered: why should a sociological identity automatically displace a biological category in provision whose purpose is sex-based? The existence of transgender identities across cultures establishes that such people exist. It does not by itself establish an entitlement to membership of every opposite-sex category.

Because harms aren't a one way street & as such require balancing.
Careful, your bio realist supremacy is showing!

Recognising women as female does not reduce women to reproductive organs. It identifies the sex class historically affected by pregnancy, reproductive control, sex discrimination and male violence. Women do not cease to be cognitively equal because their sex is sometimes relevant. The sexist error was inferring intellectual inferiority from female biology, not acknowledging female biology at all.

When you centre the feminist struggle only around biological differences it kinda takes away from the bigger ongoing struggle of equality that's legitimised by the sexes commonalties. You act as if this is no longer an issue when it clearly is.

Nor does accepting some female boundaries lead logically to segregated streets, workplaces and classrooms. A mixed school can have female toilets and changing rooms. A mixed workplace can provide sex-specific intimate facilities. Male teachers and colleagues occupy regulated professional roles; that does not give them access to female facilities as fellow users. Context-specific boundaries are the opposite of universal segregation.

If the claim is male violence requires segregation then the natural conclusion is it should apply in areas where violence is most prevalent. And if you think sexual harassment & assault only occurs in toilets & change rooms at work & school I have news.

The comparison of sexual violence totals in workplaces, schools and toilets does not establish your case either. People spend incomparably more time at school and work, so raw totals do not provide equivalent risk measures. In any event, toilets and changing facilities concern privacy and dignity, not merely the statistical probability of assault.

Apart from the fact upto 90% of women know their attackers, public toilets don't rate in terms of places where sexual violence occurs. If you can show evidence where 1 in 2 of women are sexually harassed in public toilets I'd be very interested.

https://www.aihw.gov.au/family-domestic-and-sexual-violence/types-of-violence/sexual-violence

Your description of Australian exemptions is also too simple. Federal law contains several differently framed provisions concerning sport, particular accommodation and services, voluntary bodies and temporary exemptions, while state and territory laws also operate. But your acceptance of hospitals, refuges, prisons and sport is significant for another reason: it concedes that recognising sex and excluding members of the opposite sex can be legitimate. That is inconsistent with describing the principle itself as patriarchal, supremacist or the beginning of a slide into general segregation. The real dispute is where the boundary should be drawn and why.

It's not inconsistent because harm not sex is the qualifying factor.

Where harms genuinely operate in both directions, both should be specified and weighed. Private and unisex alternatives matter because they may accommodate gender identity without abolishing a communal female category. Merely asserting that public toilets have not received the same legal treatment as other settings does not demonstrate that women have no privacy or dignity interests there. Existing law is the current legal answer; it is not evidence that the policy balance is morally or politically beyond challenge.

Strawman. Never said it was beyond challenge.

I will concede one point plainly: asking whether you were “a dude” was unnecessary. Your sex cannot reliably be inferred from anonymous prose, and your argument should stand or fall independently of it. Sex realism does not require defending guesses based on writing style.

Appreciate your consistency. And I concede not all gender critical proponents are a monolith of walking inconsistencies.

Likewise, broad democratic consultation is desirable. But the absence of a large, visible campaign is not evidence of consent, and rights claims do not become legitimate only after achieving mass popularity. That principle must apply equally to the adoption of gender-identity policies and to their reconsideration.

Strawman. Never claimed rights require achieving mass popularity to be considered legitimate. My point was about no broad based grass roots activism or concerns.

The excursions into Sal Grover’s motives, crowdfunding and Rupert Murdoch remain irrelevant. If you are not offering them as reasons to reject the argument, they do not answer the argument.

What argument? That's she's a grifter & he's a champion propagandist? I believe that's self evident.

It is also difficult to maintain simultaneously that gender-critical politics dominates the media through a powerful propaganda system and that the movement’s inability to mobilise Australians proves its impotence.

Because distinctive cultural pressures matter like class & victorian vestiges as I have repeatedly said. Australia has a more distinctive focus on egalitarian culture & as such It's know for being more 'easy going' & accepting of diversity so its probably more unlikely to be less vulnerable to scaremongering propaganda campaigns.

I personally prefer change rooms not to be open as like many women find undressing in front of strangers discomforting but its not something I'm prepared to fight a battle on. Its annoying but not so much that I would consider 'oppressive' & I suspect many women don't care about single sex spaces in toilets in Australia as we aren't as precious or demanding on issues we consider as trivial.

Keeptoiletssafe · 01/08/2026 21:05

@Gretel346
Can you show me where your evidence comes for your bold statements 1. To 4. in regards to toilets?

  1. Making the claim that male violence justifies segregation is a door way to a very slippery slope of segregation….hence the far right cheering on this convenient caper.
  2. Nevertheless substantially more sexual violence still occurs in schools & the workplace than public toilets so by GC logic segregation is required but no? Why?
  3. Re: the comparison is between public toilets & employment/schools not spaces where exemptions in Australia already exist….And yes context matters in terms of proportionality that's why its hospitals refuges, sports & prisons who receive exemptions in Australia. Public toilets aren't because it’s not considered on the same level that requires an exemption.
  4. the reason why exemptions don't exist for male teachers or work colleagues despite the exponential increase risk of harm is precisely because harms work both ways & as such rights must be balanced.

It is widely acknowledged much sexual violence happens in the home. Being outside of private place is less risk because there are witnesses.

As an ex-teacher I can assure you all the bad children don’t suddenly become model citizens. One of my challenging male pupils went to prison for murder a few years later. Most teachers will have similar stories.
All the school staff that have been barred for toilet voyeurism that I can find are men (from caretakers to head headteachers). Yet most men are good men. So a way of safeguarding women and girls is to keep the private places they are in a vulnerable situation, private to girls and women.

What do you call a public toilet in Australia? For the purposes of the Sexual Offences Act here it is a toilet to which the public or a section of the public has access. So that’s shopping centres, trains, stations, shops, restaurants, fast food places, hospitals, and could even extend to schools and offices etc. depending on the set up. And public toilets differ by design, location and who can access it. Which components make a public toilet less dangerous than, say, a school toilet that will also differ in the above.

Just to give you the heads up, you are suggesting Amnesty is far right. They regularly have discussed how you need to segregate male and female toilets.

I would really like for you to give me the evidence for your claims. Links to statistics and literature on toilets would be great.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/08/2026 19:40

Well quite.

BezMills · 01/08/2026 19:31

Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/08/2026 17:39

Sometimes posters get away with that type of wording, sometimes not. Depending on a number of factors.

I think it depends who's on a reporting spree because they're not winning any arguments more than policy or even variation between mods

Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/08/2026 17:39

Sometimes posters get away with that type of wording, sometimes not. Depending on a number of factors.

Shedmistress · 01/08/2026 17:30

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 15:06

No swearing. The f-word is fetish & the c-word is cult.

How times have changed!

Datun · 01/08/2026 15:09

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 15:06

No swearing. The f-word is fetish & the c-word is cult.

Oh... I missed that.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 15:06

Datun · 01/08/2026 14:19

You can mention swear words as much as you like. I don't know if it's the same now, but the original tagline to the entire site was Mumsnet, the one with all the swearing.

What they don't like is generalisations. So if you want to talk about paraphilias, or mental health issues, don't generalise.

Of course, you're not allowed to be specific either!

I generally use an example, because that's unarguable, and let's face it, there are quite a few.

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No swearing. The f-word is fetish & the c-word is cult.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 01/08/2026 14:58

@Gretel346 - several of your replies contain useful concessions, but those concessions do not lead to your conclusions.

You now describe your account of gender-critical women as an “everyday theory”, not a scientific one. Fine, but that means it is a hypothesis about women’s motives, not an established explanation. References to British cultural habits do not demonstrate that women who defend sex-based categories are driven by class envy, sexual anxiety or internalised misogyny. I do not need to invent a rival diagnosis of your motives to point out that yours is unevidenced.

I am also happy to distinguish the substantive argument from gratuitous rhetoric. Mocking somebody’s clothes or presentation can be rude and unnecessary. I do not need to defend every expression ever used by every gender-critical person. But that does not make recognising sex an attack on femininity. A woman choosing make-up is not a stereotype; treating make-up, clothing or mannerisms as evidence that somebody is a woman is. Men should be free to be feminine and women masculine without either being told that their presentation reveals an inner sex.

Your point that behaviour may reflect both biology and socialisation changes nothing here. Average behavioural differences, whatever their causes, do not define reproductive sex and cannot establish that identity changes it.

Your analogy with religion is revealing. I can respect a religious person without professing their creed, and without reorganising material categories around it. In precisely the same way, adults should be free to identify, dress and live as they wish and should not be harassed. But respecting a person does not require everybody else to adopt that person’s beliefs about sex, or to concede that identity determines membership of every sex-based group.

Nor is a female boundary “supremacy”. Supremacy asserts superior status or dominion. A female category protecting privacy, dignity, fair competition, recovery from male violence or freedom of association does neither. Equal citizenship has never meant a right of admission to every group or facility.

I agree that context and proportionality matter. But “proportionality” is not a magic word that completes the balancing exercise. Under section 7B of Australia’s Sex Discrimination Act, reasonableness in indirect-discrimination cases includes the extent of disadvantage, whether it can be mitigated, and whether it is proportionate to the result sought. That requires examining both sides and the available alternatives. It does not mean that gender identity prevails unless women can prove that a particular male is about to assault somebody.

Your material on cultural imperialism describes a theory; it does not establish that the theory explains this dispute. To do that, you would need evidence that identifiable media structures manufactured the relevant beliefs and displaced local women’s prior understanding, rather than reporting a dispute that Australian women were already having. Labelling one side “grassroots” and the other “top down” simply assumes the conclusion. Even a genuinely top-down campaign might make a true claim, while a grassroots movement might make a false one.

You also say that transgender is a sociological category, not a biological one, and that nobody claims reproductive sex changes. That is an important concession. But it leaves the central question unanswered: why should a sociological identity automatically displace a biological category in provision whose purpose is sex-based? The existence of transgender identities across cultures establishes that such people exist. It does not by itself establish an entitlement to membership of every opposite-sex category.

Recognising women as female does not reduce women to reproductive organs. It identifies the sex class historically affected by pregnancy, reproductive control, sex discrimination and male violence. Women do not cease to be cognitively equal because their sex is sometimes relevant. The sexist error was inferring intellectual inferiority from female biology, not acknowledging female biology at all.

Nor does accepting some female boundaries lead logically to segregated streets, workplaces and classrooms. A mixed school can have female toilets and changing rooms. A mixed workplace can provide sex-specific intimate facilities. Male teachers and colleagues occupy regulated professional roles; that does not give them access to female facilities as fellow users. Context-specific boundaries are the opposite of universal segregation.

The comparison of sexual violence totals in workplaces, schools and toilets does not establish your case either. People spend incomparably more time at school and work, so raw totals do not provide equivalent risk measures. In any event, toilets and changing facilities concern privacy and dignity, not merely the statistical probability of assault.

Your description of Australian exemptions is also too simple. Federal law contains several differently framed provisions concerning sport, particular accommodation and services, voluntary bodies and temporary exemptions, while state and territory laws also operate. But your acceptance of hospitals, refuges, prisons and sport is significant for another reason: it concedes that recognising sex and excluding members of the opposite sex can be legitimate. That is inconsistent with describing the principle itself as patriarchal, supremacist or the beginning of a slide into general segregation. The real dispute is where the boundary should be drawn and why.

Where harms genuinely operate in both directions, both should be specified and weighed. Private and unisex alternatives matter because they may accommodate gender identity without abolishing a communal female category. Merely asserting that public toilets have not received the same legal treatment as other settings does not demonstrate that women have no privacy or dignity interests there. Existing law is the current legal answer; it is not evidence that the policy balance is morally or politically beyond challenge.

I will concede one point plainly: asking whether you were “a dude” was unnecessary. Your sex cannot reliably be inferred from anonymous prose, and your argument should stand or fall independently of it. Sex realism does not require defending guesses based on writing style.

Likewise, broad democratic consultation is desirable. But the absence of a large, visible campaign is not evidence of consent, and rights claims do not become legitimate only after achieving mass popularity. That principle must apply equally to the adoption of gender-identity policies and to their reconsideration.

The excursions into Sal Grover’s motives, crowdfunding and Rupert Murdoch remain irrelevant. If you are not offering them as reasons to reject the argument, they do not answer the argument. It is also difficult to maintain simultaneously that gender-critical politics dominates the media through a powerful propaganda system and that the movement’s inability to mobilise Australians proves its impotence.

Finally, my account of Tickle was not a claim that you personally believe reproductive sex changes. It clarified what the judgment established. The Full Court of the Federal Court—not an Australian “Supreme Court”—found direct gender-identity discrimination. In deciding the statutory question, the majority treated the post-surgery claimant as a woman/female in contemporary Australian legal usage. The Court expressly distinguished that exercise from answering a scientific question. If you agree that reproductive sex did not change, then we agree that a legal classification cannot settle the biological fact or, by itself, answer every policy question about female association.

My position is straightforward: transgender people are entitled to dignity, safety and equal participation in public life. Women are equally entitled to name their sex, organise as females and retain proportionate sex-based boundaries where sex matters. Respect for one group should not require the conceptual or practical disappearance of the other.

Over and out.

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 01/08/2026 14:23

BezMills · 01/08/2026 14:17

I was clumsy expressing that, sorry for that. and it's (always) fair to point out I'm a bloke. I didn't intend to malign regulars here but rather our shadowy monitors.

Yes, no worries. It can be useful to have the occasional reminder that we are closely watched by unfriendly eyes.

If I think I'm sailing close to the wind I sometimes save a copy so I can repost if need be with alternative wording.Wink

Datun · 01/08/2026 14:19

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 13:38

PrettyDamnCosmic · Today 13:17
This reply has been deleted

I didn't mention the f-word or the c-word so was it the word paraphila or the suggestion that being "trans" is a mental issue that got my post deleted?

You can mention swear words as much as you like. I don't know if it's the same now, but the original tagline to the entire site was Mumsnet, the one with all the swearing.

What they don't like is generalisations. So if you want to talk about paraphilias, or mental health issues, don't generalise.

Of course, you're not allowed to be specific either!

I generally use an example, because that's unarguable, and let's face it, there are quite a few.

BezMills · 01/08/2026 14:17

I was clumsy expressing that, sorry for that. and it's (always) fair to point out I'm a bloke. I didn't intend to malign regulars here but rather our shadowy monitors.

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 01/08/2026 14:07

BezMills · 01/08/2026 13:56

The people reporting posts rarely have the good manners to say they reported something and why. They can do them of course, no issue.

Personally if I report something, I'll say I did it and why.

The people reporting posts rarely have the good manners to say they reported

Yup, you're a bloke!😂Good manners? I don't tell people I've reported their post because I don't need the shit. You can do it your way if you like but there's a reason why people don't get told who reported them.

You can ask the mods and if you do it straight away they'll tell you why (but not who)

BezMills · 01/08/2026 13:56

The people reporting posts rarely have the good manners to say they reported something and why. They can do them of course, no issue.

Personally if I report something, I'll say I did it and why.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 13:38

PrettyDamnCosmic · Today 13:17
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I didn't mention the f-word or the c-word so was it the word paraphila or the suggestion that being "trans" is a mental issue that got my post deleted?

SwirlyGates · 01/08/2026 13:25

@Arran2024 Trans rights affect women and women were not consulted. And this is my point - it has all been imposed with absolutely no discussion, no suggestion of compromise, no empathy for women who say no.

And yet now that we want to reinforce our boundaries, they are all busy consulting with the very people who broke those boundaries, and falling over themselves to apologise to the trans lobby if they are forced to go back to single-sex provision.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 01/08/2026 13:17

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Datun · 01/08/2026 12:51

Totally. And I think we all know the answer.

BezMills · 01/08/2026 12:47

Datun · 01/08/2026 12:12

I an scrolling past Greta and just following the responses now.

Me too. He might as well just have a megaphone and say I love the sound of my own voice. Well I think you're the minority of one, mate.

Apropos of nothing, I saw a great burn on a clip of Letterkenny the other day

"Hey buddy have you ever impressed anybody besides yourself?"

nicepotoftea · 01/08/2026 12:45

Arran2024 · 01/08/2026 12:32

But gay rights didn't materially affect anyone else. Sure, some people objected, but there was no direct impact on the vast majority of people.

Trans rights affect women and women were not consulted. And this is my point - it has all been imposed with absolutely no discussion, no suggestion of compromise, no empathy for women who say no.

In fact, saying no to males playing in women's sports or coming into the health club ladies locker room will now get you branded "right wing" in many circles.

It is simply a men's rights operation.

Also, from a practical point of view, it is possible to have sex and or a romantic relationship with somebody of the same sex. Gay rights never strayed from the realms of reality.

However, it is not possible to change sex. Trans women are definitively male.

Going back to the OP, I think the argument was that Europe is more likely to have mixed sex provision for things like saunas, so it is more trans friendly. However, the UK debate has not been framed around whether single sex provision is good or bad. It has been framed around the idea that mixed sex provision can be single sex. That is not possible.

Helleofabore · 01/08/2026 12:45

WrongKindOfFeminist · 01/08/2026 11:41

Yep.

Another thing that genderism has exposed - the way misogyny runs through every level and aspect of society.

I had no idea, as a liberal leftie sex positive feminist that 99% of sex crime was committed by men. Or that 80% of violence is committed by men.

Libfemmery does talk about VAWG but is careful to omit the M at the front. So one is aware of the harms, but remains unclear on the people committing them.

It sounds daft now, but libfemmery had successfully shifted focus from 'women' onto 'kindness for everyone'. You just dont look at the issues from a wider viewpoint. Radfems on MN did radicalised me in that sense.

Thats been very sobering.

I think MN was helpful in helping me to calm that very dissonance.

Having supported radical feminism, I was finding myself constantly disagreeing with the sex work is work, the self sex objectification is fine because the woman is in control type contradictory discussions. It was like something had disconnected the thought processes and was ignoring the oppression issues that were right there still inherent in those issues but being ignored.

Hedgehogforshort · 01/08/2026 12:42

Helleofabore · 01/08/2026 12:38

It is all just a repeat of the latter half of last year.

Sometimes I stop following these type of treads to avoid ending up on the norty step

i am not as articulate as so many of you here are.

Helleofabore · 01/08/2026 12:38

Datun · 01/08/2026 12:12

I an scrolling past Greta and just following the responses now.

Me too. He might as well just have a megaphone and say I love the sound of my own voice. Well I think you're the minority of one, mate.

It is all just a repeat of the latter half of last year.