Help protect children from gaming harms.

Take our survey

Please or to access all these features

Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Jalsa Salana, a huge men only festival in the UK.

253 replies

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 09:17

This huge Muslim Festival, 50,000 attendees from 100 countries, happened over the weekend in Hampshire. If previous years are anything to go by you will be hard put to find a single woman in any of the photographs. That's because the men and the women meet separately. The women and men are segregated. The women are excluded from taking part with the men, they have a separate conference, they aren't even sat at the back of the men's one.

I honestly never thought I'd be living in a country where women were so excluded from a public gathering of 50,000 people.

I never thought I'd be living in a country where this event will go without criticism and probably actually be praised and celebrated. "MPs, bishops and other public figures are expected to attend." and not one of them, and probably no other prominent public figure either, will comment on this segregation.

It's 2026, how on earth is this country going backwards so far in the treatment of women that this is now perceived to be mainstream and acceptable?

www.theguardian.com/world/2026/jul/25/uk-largest-muslim-event-jalsa-salana-security-anti-muslim-hate-crime#:~:text=Now%20in%20its%2060th%20year,site%20in%20Hampshire%20this%20weekend.

OP posts:
TooBigForMyBoots · 28/07/2026 13:20

TooBigForMyBoots · 28/07/2026 13:11

Im not squirming. I am a woman with a religion. I agree with what @AnonyMumAuDHD said here:

* - it’s effectively a pop-up, mass Mosque. I may hate the segregation, but they have the right to practice their faith on private premises as they deem fit. There will be women who are oppressed and may not wish to be there - but this needs to be tackled at community level. As a society we need to make sure that women in the muslim community who are there under duress, victims of domestic abuse or subjugated by imposition of sharia law within their community, are protected and offered routes out. We need communities, the police, the law and refuges to connect with these women and let them now there are alternatives.

What's being pushed on this thread is Great White Saviour bullshit. Or maybe its just, as a PP said, racism masking as women's rights.

Edited

Meant to add, I don't hate the congregation. I don't hate anyone because of their religion.

HiggledyPiggledy33 · 28/07/2026 13:36

TooBigForMyBoots · 28/07/2026 13:11

Im not squirming. I am a woman with a religion. I agree with what @AnonyMumAuDHD said here:

* - it’s effectively a pop-up, mass Mosque. I may hate the segregation, but they have the right to practice their faith on private premises as they deem fit. There will be women who are oppressed and may not wish to be there - but this needs to be tackled at community level. As a society we need to make sure that women in the muslim community who are there under duress, victims of domestic abuse or subjugated by imposition of sharia law within their community, are protected and offered routes out. We need communities, the police, the law and refuges to connect with these women and let them now there are alternatives.

What's being pushed on this thread is Great White Saviour bullshit. Or maybe its just, as a PP said, racism masking as women's rights.

Edited

I think it’s racist to assume that Islam can’t possibly have equal rights for women one day.

You are on a feminist board - surely it’s not unusual to push for female equality in the UK if you are a feminist?

I also think women should be able to choose to be the “flower never beheld by the gardener” if that’s what they want, but it has to be a choice.

TooBigForMyBoots · 28/07/2026 13:49

HiggledyPiggledy33 · 28/07/2026 13:36

I think it’s racist to assume that Islam can’t possibly have equal rights for women one day.

You are on a feminist board - surely it’s not unusual to push for female equality in the UK if you are a feminist?

I also think women should be able to choose to be the “flower never beheld by the gardener” if that’s what they want, but it has to be a choice.

Just as well I didnt assume any such thing then.

I am a feminist woman with a religion, so I am aware of the changes religious women have achieved and are still striving for, within their own faiths. This White Saviour bullshit is, at best, vacuous virtue signalling.

Imnobody4 · 28/07/2026 14:15

Why do we have single sex schools? Should they be banned. Is there a feminist argument for them?

AnonyMumAuDHD · 28/07/2026 14:19

WrongKindOfFeminist · 28/07/2026 13:06

'sex segregation in places of worship should be banned'

Why?

Because I personally feel that in most religions segregation has its roots in patriarchal power and control. Convents were about controlling women - in the medieval eras it was wear they sent women who were promiscuous, who refused to obey parents, etc. Male orders - monasteries etc - conveyed power and social standing and afforded privilege from their very inception. The RC church retains this male privilege and patriarchal power structure in its continued refusal to admit women and to exert it’s influence over the abortion/bodily autonomy debate throughout the world.

In an era when women can be clerics in the Anglican church and are deemed to have equal standing with men in society and law in the UK and USA at least [I appreciate not elsewhere in the world necessarily], there is no reason to retain single sexed religious orders. The practicing of faiths should be open to persons of both sexes and recognise its adherents as equals regardless of sex.

I have issues with the subordination and exclusion of women from all and any religion because I feel that pretty much every religion is a vestige of the patriarchal societal structures in which those religions were formulated.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 28/07/2026 14:22

Yeah, this was on my local news. It made me chuckle how they were going on about inclusivity with not one woman to be seen. How very modern 🙄

WrongKindOfFeminist · 28/07/2026 14:32

Imnobody4 · 28/07/2026 14:15

Why do we have single sex schools? Should they be banned. Is there a feminist argument for them?

Yes there is a feminist argument for them.

I don't agree with it, necessarily, but there is evidence that girls do very much better in terms of academic achievement, and of course are safer, when in a single sex envronment.

I've had friends who felt that a single sex school really caused them great difficult in learning how to interact with the opposite sex, though. (friends of both sexes, fwiw).

WrongKindOfFeminist · 28/07/2026 14:34

AnonyMumAuDHD · 28/07/2026 14:19

Because I personally feel that in most religions segregation has its roots in patriarchal power and control. Convents were about controlling women - in the medieval eras it was wear they sent women who were promiscuous, who refused to obey parents, etc. Male orders - monasteries etc - conveyed power and social standing and afforded privilege from their very inception. The RC church retains this male privilege and patriarchal power structure in its continued refusal to admit women and to exert it’s influence over the abortion/bodily autonomy debate throughout the world.

In an era when women can be clerics in the Anglican church and are deemed to have equal standing with men in society and law in the UK and USA at least [I appreciate not elsewhere in the world necessarily], there is no reason to retain single sexed religious orders. The practicing of faiths should be open to persons of both sexes and recognise its adherents as equals regardless of sex.

I have issues with the subordination and exclusion of women from all and any religion because I feel that pretty much every religion is a vestige of the patriarchal societal structures in which those religions were formulated.

Edited

Hm. The context may have changed, though?

I'm an agnostic, so it won't happen, but part of me loves the thought of living in a cloistered sisterhood. Certainly I can see the advantages for religious people, or at least the removal of a lot of problematic issues.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 28/07/2026 14:45

WrongKindOfFeminist · 28/07/2026 14:34

Hm. The context may have changed, though?

I'm an agnostic, so it won't happen, but part of me loves the thought of living in a cloistered sisterhood. Certainly I can see the advantages for religious people, or at least the removal of a lot of problematic issues.

I am not sure the context has changed at all which may be one of the reasons the number of women choosing the life is declining - 82% drop in numbers in the US alone since 1965. This seems to be largely replicated across the world, because women are no longer bound in most developed countries by that patriarchy? They are free to live their lives now - have mortgages, jobs, got to university, when those options were simply not available.

There are plenty of voluntary women’s communes for those that seek the exclusive same-sex companionship and retreat from modern life - without the historical patriarchal roots or the interference of men in the practice of doing so? After all, most convents are ultimately answerable to the bishop of the diocese within which they reside, and are bound by his edicts… and those of the bloke in the Vatican.

KTheGrey · 28/07/2026 14:50

HiggledyPiggledy33 · 28/07/2026 13:36

I think it’s racist to assume that Islam can’t possibly have equal rights for women one day.

You are on a feminist board - surely it’s not unusual to push for female equality in the UK if you are a feminist?

I also think women should be able to choose to be the “flower never beheld by the gardener” if that’s what they want, but it has to be a choice.

Can’t be racist about a religion - religionist or discriminating against a religion I suppose.

Imnobody4 · 28/07/2026 14:53

WrongKindOfFeminist · 28/07/2026 14:32

Yes there is a feminist argument for them.

I don't agree with it, necessarily, but there is evidence that girls do very much better in terms of academic achievement, and of course are safer, when in a single sex envronment.

I've had friends who felt that a single sex school really caused them great difficult in learning how to interact with the opposite sex, though. (friends of both sexes, fwiw).

I went to a single sex school too. To be honest I don't think I'd have thrived in a mixed sex one.
One of the arguments for is the lack of distraction. I think this can apply in the religious context of prayer and worship as well. The ability to focus on the spiritual without distractions.

Lightnomore · 28/07/2026 15:14

Religions should be allowed to practice as they wish as long as they do not break laws of the country they are in and this does not. If muslim men and women want to get rid of segregation in their religion that is up to them. Its not up to the state.

Muslim women often really like the women only spaces in their religion. The community amongst women is often really strong in Islam and the female only spaces contribute to this.

They are also free to chose more or less conservative versions of their religion just as any other religious adherent is.

I really can't respect the opinion of anyone outside of the religion who has not tried to learn about the religion or what its adherents think.

Imdunfer · 28/07/2026 15:57

Lightnomore · 28/07/2026 15:14

Religions should be allowed to practice as they wish as long as they do not break laws of the country they are in and this does not. If muslim men and women want to get rid of segregation in their religion that is up to them. Its not up to the state.

Muslim women often really like the women only spaces in their religion. The community amongst women is often really strong in Islam and the female only spaces contribute to this.

They are also free to chose more or less conservative versions of their religion just as any other religious adherent is.

I really can't respect the opinion of anyone outside of the religion who has not tried to learn about the religion or what its adherents think.

I would respond to this post in more detail but “free“ is not a word that I hear Muslim women who have spoken out against the restrictions that women face living in some of the restrictive Islamic areas of the UK, except perhaps in the context of “i broke free “. I listen to the views of those women regularly.

I accept that not all Islamic women in this country live in restrictive communities.

Regarding listening to the views of women who like the restrictions, have a real problem giving as much weight to the views of women brought up from birth to accept restrictive conditions as I do to the voices of the women who have broken free and criticise those restrictions.

And it certainly isn't British culture and if islam and Judaism want to practice it I would prefer them not to make Britain a world centre for a conference.

OP posts:
Imnobody4 · 28/07/2026 16:17

Imdunfer · 28/07/2026 15:57

I would respond to this post in more detail but “free“ is not a word that I hear Muslim women who have spoken out against the restrictions that women face living in some of the restrictive Islamic areas of the UK, except perhaps in the context of “i broke free “. I listen to the views of those women regularly.

I accept that not all Islamic women in this country live in restrictive communities.

Regarding listening to the views of women who like the restrictions, have a real problem giving as much weight to the views of women brought up from birth to accept restrictive conditions as I do to the voices of the women who have broken free and criticise those restrictions.

And it certainly isn't British culture and if islam and Judaism want to practice it I would prefer them not to make Britain a world centre for a conference.

Wow fortress Britain.
And it certainly isn't British culture and if islam and Judaism want to practice it I would prefer them not to make Britain a world centre for a conference.
You obviously don't know any Ahmadi women. Are we going to ban the Hindu, Buddhist and Sikh festivals as well.
Close all the religious institutions.

Imnobody4 · 28/07/2026 16:26

There's an Ahmadiyya Peace Prize awarded at the conference each year.
This conference is not run by the flipping Ayatollah

Mr. Sompop Jantraka is the Ahmadiyya Muslim 2026 Peace Prize Winner. A human rights activist from Thailand, he is dedicated to protecting children from exploitative labour and trafficking. #JalsaUK
He's worth a look

And before anyone says anything there have been previous female winners.

SleepingStandingUp · 28/07/2026 16:41

The women's version sounds like it's organised by women for women, so if you're going to ban the men's version, are you also going to ban the females? And if not, then why would any women want to go to the men's one when theirs is probably much better for them as its organised by women for women?

Lightnomore · 28/07/2026 16:53

Imdunfer · 28/07/2026 15:57

I would respond to this post in more detail but “free“ is not a word that I hear Muslim women who have spoken out against the restrictions that women face living in some of the restrictive Islamic areas of the UK, except perhaps in the context of “i broke free “. I listen to the views of those women regularly.

I accept that not all Islamic women in this country live in restrictive communities.

Regarding listening to the views of women who like the restrictions, have a real problem giving as much weight to the views of women brought up from birth to accept restrictive conditions as I do to the voices of the women who have broken free and criticise those restrictions.

And it certainly isn't British culture and if islam and Judaism want to practice it I would prefer them not to make Britain a world centre for a conference.

There are two billion muslims in the world. There is huge variation in belief and practice. I am very critical of aspects of Islam, and I am very critical of the failure of our politicians and institutions who fail to stand up to muslim communities who try to impose the expectations of their religion on non-believers. There are many practices of Islam in relation to women which I am very critical of and which I think we should not tolerate in the UK.

However, what you have posted about is not something that I can even begin to be bothered about. We live in a liberal society and people are allowed to privately practice their religion within our laws. People freely choosing to attend a private event which is sex segregated does not bother me. This should be allowed in a liberal society and it is.

Imdunfer · 28/07/2026 17:14

GarlicEverywhere · 28/07/2026 11:02

For those wondering why the 21,630 women attendees couldn't be physically present at the flag ceremony and had to hear the addresses through a live relay from another part of the site, the answer is both simple and profound. A flower may never behold the gardener who patiently waters and nurtures it until it blossoms, yet its very existence depends upon that unseen care. Likewise, the believer’s spiritual growth is nurtured through obedience, prayer and attachment

Oh, okay, then, that's profoundly simple ... Women are flowers. The leaders are gardeners. Men are watering cans? 🙄😂

The women's side, I see, also includes a sizeable marquee set up with multiple booths for the arranging of arranged marriages.

OP posts:
HiggledyPiggledy33 · 28/07/2026 20:28

KTheGrey · 28/07/2026 14:50

Can’t be racist about a religion - religionist or discriminating against a religion I suppose.

Yes, I should have phrased it better - I was just replying directly to the previous poster saying this was

”racism masking as women's rights”

5MinuteArgument · 29/07/2026 17:22

My concern about this event is to do with the growing influence and power of Islam. Britain is a good base for this as we have been encouraged to devalue our own culture.

Segregation of women in Islam is a given, but I see that as something they need to sort out for themselves.

TooBigForMyBoots · 29/07/2026 20:59

5MinuteArgument · 29/07/2026 17:22

My concern about this event is to do with the growing influence and power of Islam. Britain is a good base for this as we have been encouraged to devalue our own culture.

Segregation of women in Islam is a given, but I see that as something they need to sort out for themselves.

At least you're honest about it.

Wadsworthy · 30/07/2026 09:55

5MinuteArgument · 29/07/2026 17:22

My concern about this event is to do with the growing influence and power of Islam. Britain is a good base for this as we have been encouraged to devalue our own culture.

Segregation of women in Islam is a given, but I see that as something they need to sort out for themselves.

I reluctantly agree. Not because of most of the members of the Muslim religion, but because. -as the rape gang debacle shows - most people in power are too afraid to call out the anti-liberal democratic aspects of Islam and its harbouring of anti-Western fundamentalists.

5MinuteArgument · 30/07/2026 16:04

Wadsworthy · 30/07/2026 09:55

I reluctantly agree. Not because of most of the members of the Muslim religion, but because. -as the rape gang debacle shows - most people in power are too afraid to call out the anti-liberal democratic aspects of Islam and its harbouring of anti-Western fundamentalists.

Yes, and unfortunately Labour and the Greens increasingly see the Muslim community as their voter base. So they won't do anything to alienate the Muslim vote, not even to protect thousands of British girls from torture and abuse. It really is shameful.

I think there are moderates in the Muslim community but they are in fear of the more strident and fundamentalist elements and all this weakness and cowardice just emboldens the extremists.

Whatchamacallitt · 30/07/2026 16:08

I'm not a fan of Islam but I can't see the issue here. There is another event provided only for women. Both men and women benefit from single sex space and deserve to have access to it where they need it. Provided that the women are equally provided for with their own event, I can't see the harm.

Imdunfer · 30/07/2026 17:49

Whatchamacallitt · 30/07/2026 16:08

I'm not a fan of Islam but I can't see the issue here. There is another event provided only for women. Both men and women benefit from single sex space and deserve to have access to it where they need it. Provided that the women are equally provided for with their own event, I can't see the harm.

They aren't "equally provided", nowhere even near.

OP posts:
Swipe left for the next trending thread