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Jalsa Salana, a huge men only festival in the UK.

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Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 09:17

This huge Muslim Festival, 50,000 attendees from 100 countries, happened over the weekend in Hampshire. If previous years are anything to go by you will be hard put to find a single woman in any of the photographs. That's because the men and the women meet separately. The women and men are segregated. The women are excluded from taking part with the men, they have a separate conference, they aren't even sat at the back of the men's one.

I honestly never thought I'd be living in a country where women were so excluded from a public gathering of 50,000 people.

I never thought I'd be living in a country where this event will go without criticism and probably actually be praised and celebrated. "MPs, bishops and other public figures are expected to attend." and not one of them, and probably no other prominent public figure either, will comment on this segregation.

It's 2026, how on earth is this country going backwards so far in the treatment of women that this is now perceived to be mainstream and acceptable?

www.theguardian.com/world/2026/jul/25/uk-largest-muslim-event-jalsa-salana-security-anti-muslim-hate-crime#:~:text=Now%20in%20its%2060th%20year,site%20in%20Hampshire%20this%20weekend.

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Imdunfer · 01/08/2026 08:27

Grammarnut · 01/08/2026 00:17

The problem with rote learning the Koran is that often the text is Arabic and the learners do not understand it. That is pointless.

I have a Muslim friend who reads perfect Arabic due to rote learning of the Qur'an as a child. He says he doesn't understand a word of it.

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Imdunfer · 01/08/2026 08:25

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 21:11

I'm sorry but rote learning is what children do. What's the Lords prayer or chatechism, saying any prayers. To sing a song you do have to learn the words by rote.

Rote learning of a centuries old religious tract is not what 7 year olds normally do in the UK except in extreme versions of religions.

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Grammarnut · 01/08/2026 00:17

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 21:11

I'm sorry but rote learning is what children do. What's the Lords prayer or chatechism, saying any prayers. To sing a song you do have to learn the words by rote.

The problem with rote learning the Koran is that often the text is Arabic and the learners do not understand it. That is pointless.

Grammarnut · 01/08/2026 00:16

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Islam's misogyny is not acceptable in the UK.

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 21:11

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 20:03

You compare a singing competition with wrote learning of a centuries old religious tract which is handed down to women by men and they can't argue with.

I don't think we have any basis for discussion here.

I'm sorry but rote learning is what children do. What's the Lords prayer or chatechism, saying any prayers. To sing a song you do have to learn the words by rote.

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 20:03

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 19:49

There's a world of difference between Sunday school and a competition to recite the Qur'an.

Why? we hold competitions for church choirs etc How is on indoctriation and the other not?

You compare a singing competition with wrote learning of a centuries old religious tract which is handed down to women by men and they can't argue with.

I don't think we have any basis for discussion here.

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Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 19:49

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 19:18

There's a world of difference between Sunday school and a competition to recite the Qur'an.

I do take your point that I don't know what the verses say, I can't get past the fact that child will soon be required to cover her hair and hide her body or face the social approbation of her community.

There's a world of difference between Sunday school and a competition to recite the Qur'an.

Why? we hold competitions for church choirs etc How is on indoctriation and the other not?

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 19:24

TooBigForMyBoots · 31/07/2026 19:02

@Imdunfer what do you think should be done and how will it help women?

I think we've left it too late to do anything without being accused of racism and illiberalism. . Doesn't mean I have to be happy about it. And I am far from alone.

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Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 19:18

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 18:43

It's not my religion. I'm an atheist just not a militant one.

It's this supposed to be good? As an atheist it makes me feel slightly sick to think of 7 years old being indoctrinated in this way

You've never been to Sunday School, sang a hymn, learned a nursery rhyme or poem. Do you want to ban the Sermon on the Mount and Nativity plays too.
You haven't a clue what those verses say but the idea of them makes you feel sick?

There's a world of difference between Sunday school and a competition to recite the Qur'an.

I do take your point that I don't know what the verses say, I can't get past the fact that child will soon be required to cover her hair and hide her body or face the social approbation of her community.

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Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 19:10

5MinuteArgument · 31/07/2026 18:43

Well, it does sound better than the version of Islam espoused by the Taliban or ISIS or ISIS-K, I'll grant you that. Mind you, that's quite a low bar.

I just think people in western countries would do well to be a bit wary of Islam, especially as it grows in influence and power. That's not the same as hating people of other faiths, just being aware of what's going on.

I just think people in western countries would do well to be a bit wary of Islam, especially as it grows in influence and power. That's not the same as hating people of other faiths, just being aware of what's going on.

I agree. But I think we need to understand the differences between sects to respond appropriately. The Ahmadiyyas are only 1% of Muslims world wide and about 35000 out of 4 million+ in the UK. They are also at risk from other Muslims. It's the hard liners like the Muslim vote etc we need to tackle head on about integration etc. and the leaders of Tower Hamlets and defend a more muscular secular society.

TooBigForMyBoots · 31/07/2026 19:02

@Imdunfer what do you think should be done and how will it help women?

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 18:43

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 17:59

So your definition of misogyny is a dress code?

No of course not it is simply the most visible sign of it.

I'm glad you are proud of it if this is your religion but any sect having a dress code which doesn't allow women to safely ride a bicycle or climb a tree and restricts what professions they can enter does not accord with the cultural values that I want to see in the UK.

Girls as young as seven years old could be seen with their mothers, revising verses for the Holy Qur’an memorisation competition

It's this supposed to be good? As an atheist it makes me feel slightly sick to think of 7 years old being indoctrinated in this way.

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It's not my religion. I'm an atheist just not a militant one.

It's this supposed to be good? As an atheist it makes me feel slightly sick to think of 7 years old being indoctrinated in this way

You've never been to Sunday School, sang a hymn, learned a nursery rhyme or poem. Do you want to ban the Sermon on the Mount and Nativity plays too.
You haven't a clue what those verses say but the idea of them makes you feel sick?

5MinuteArgument · 31/07/2026 18:43

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 17:27

So your definition of misogyny is a dress code?
You started this thread without any knowledge or understanding of this sect.
You've shown no awareness of or respect for the women who attending.
There is an independent Women's Association

Lajna Ima’illah began with fourteen members and His Holiness remarked at its launch, ‘Aside from gaining personal and spiritual knowledge, henceforth the successful progress of the Community is also dependent on efforts by women.Over the years, the organisation spread all around the world and officially formed in the UK on a permanent basis in 1957, though Lajna’s principles had been followed for decades previously by Ahmadi Muslim women in the UK. There were 34 members on record when Lajna began in the UK – the membership today stands at over 12,884.

November 2025Recently in Puttenham, Surrey, over 8000 women and girls from around the UK assembled at a unique event. This was no ordinary gathering, and these were no ordinary women.Equipped with pens, notebooks, and a desire to expand their horizons, Ahmadi Muslim women – part of the Ahmadiyya Women’s Auxiliary Organisation – were ready for their annual gathering, known as an Ijtema, an Arabic word which means a ‘congregation’ or ‘conference’.The agenda was abundant with educational and sports competitions; presentations and lectures on an array of religious and secular topics, including science exhibitions and even medical insights from professionals.A glance around the venue showed a mosaic of women of all different ages and backgrounds channelling their competitive spirits for the various competitions. A mother took the stage for the speech competition, ready to deliver the words she’d spent hours researching and preparing. A teenage high school student sang melodiously in the poem recitation competition comprising poems written by the Founder of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community (as) and his Caliphs. Girls as young as seven years old could be seen with their mothers, revising verses for the Holy Qur’an memorisation competition.Everyone put their best foot forward not only in vying for the top positions in these competitions, but also to foster and build a bond of sisterhood with women and girls from across the country. This is nothing new for Ahmadi women, as they’ve been raised amongst constant academic celebration.

Well, it does sound better than the version of Islam espoused by the Taliban or ISIS or ISIS-K, I'll grant you that. Mind you, that's quite a low bar.

I just think people in western countries would do well to be a bit wary of Islam, especially as it grows in influence and power. That's not the same as hating people of other faiths, just being aware of what's going on.

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 17:59

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 17:27

So your definition of misogyny is a dress code?
You started this thread without any knowledge or understanding of this sect.
You've shown no awareness of or respect for the women who attending.
There is an independent Women's Association

Lajna Ima’illah began with fourteen members and His Holiness remarked at its launch, ‘Aside from gaining personal and spiritual knowledge, henceforth the successful progress of the Community is also dependent on efforts by women.Over the years, the organisation spread all around the world and officially formed in the UK on a permanent basis in 1957, though Lajna’s principles had been followed for decades previously by Ahmadi Muslim women in the UK. There were 34 members on record when Lajna began in the UK – the membership today stands at over 12,884.

November 2025Recently in Puttenham, Surrey, over 8000 women and girls from around the UK assembled at a unique event. This was no ordinary gathering, and these were no ordinary women.Equipped with pens, notebooks, and a desire to expand their horizons, Ahmadi Muslim women – part of the Ahmadiyya Women’s Auxiliary Organisation – were ready for their annual gathering, known as an Ijtema, an Arabic word which means a ‘congregation’ or ‘conference’.The agenda was abundant with educational and sports competitions; presentations and lectures on an array of religious and secular topics, including science exhibitions and even medical insights from professionals.A glance around the venue showed a mosaic of women of all different ages and backgrounds channelling their competitive spirits for the various competitions. A mother took the stage for the speech competition, ready to deliver the words she’d spent hours researching and preparing. A teenage high school student sang melodiously in the poem recitation competition comprising poems written by the Founder of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community (as) and his Caliphs. Girls as young as seven years old could be seen with their mothers, revising verses for the Holy Qur’an memorisation competition.Everyone put their best foot forward not only in vying for the top positions in these competitions, but also to foster and build a bond of sisterhood with women and girls from across the country. This is nothing new for Ahmadi women, as they’ve been raised amongst constant academic celebration.

So your definition of misogyny is a dress code?

No of course not it is simply the most visible sign of it.

I'm glad you are proud of it if this is your religion but any sect having a dress code which doesn't allow women to safely ride a bicycle or climb a tree and restricts what professions they can enter does not accord with the cultural values that I want to see in the UK.

Girls as young as seven years old could be seen with their mothers, revising verses for the Holy Qur’an memorisation competition

It's this supposed to be good? As an atheist it makes me feel slightly sick to think of 7 years old being indoctrinated in this way.

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Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 17:47

The Ijtema is an annual academic and spiritual event of Ahmadi Muslim girls and women. It is the main and final event of the Lajna calendar. The gathering is also a time to report on activities undertaken during the past year, a high point of everything Ahmadi Muslim ladies and girls across the UK aspire to and achieve in the year.

This is scheduled for Sept. Should it be cancelled.

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 17:27

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 15:42

There's no point you preaching to me about what professions Ahmadiyya women are encouraged to go into when their dress code prevents them from being an athlete, a show jumper, a pilates instructor, working safely in a factory etc etc.

The men were excluded from the women's conference, true. It was not discussing the future of the religion around the world as the men were, it was discussing the (restricted) career opportunities for women and arranged marriages. The women's conference was not comparable.

My problem is your animus towards this conference puts you in the same category as Islamists who regard the Ahmadis as heretic.

This would downright offensive if it wasn't such a laughable comment.

Those Islamists regard them as heretic because they are too liberal. I regard it as offensive because it is misogynistic and treats women as second class citizens whose bodies so inflame men that they must be loosely covered with thick material at all times in public.

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So your definition of misogyny is a dress code?
You started this thread without any knowledge or understanding of this sect.
You've shown no awareness of or respect for the women who attending.
There is an independent Women's Association

Lajna Ima’illah began with fourteen members and His Holiness remarked at its launch, ‘Aside from gaining personal and spiritual knowledge, henceforth the successful progress of the Community is also dependent on efforts by women.Over the years, the organisation spread all around the world and officially formed in the UK on a permanent basis in 1957, though Lajna’s principles had been followed for decades previously by Ahmadi Muslim women in the UK. There were 34 members on record when Lajna began in the UK – the membership today stands at over 12,884.

November 2025Recently in Puttenham, Surrey, over 8000 women and girls from around the UK assembled at a unique event. This was no ordinary gathering, and these were no ordinary women.Equipped with pens, notebooks, and a desire to expand their horizons, Ahmadi Muslim women – part of the Ahmadiyya Women’s Auxiliary Organisation – were ready for their annual gathering, known as an Ijtema, an Arabic word which means a ‘congregation’ or ‘conference’.The agenda was abundant with educational and sports competitions; presentations and lectures on an array of religious and secular topics, including science exhibitions and even medical insights from professionals.A glance around the venue showed a mosaic of women of all different ages and backgrounds channelling their competitive spirits for the various competitions. A mother took the stage for the speech competition, ready to deliver the words she’d spent hours researching and preparing. A teenage high school student sang melodiously in the poem recitation competition comprising poems written by the Founder of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community (as) and his Caliphs. Girls as young as seven years old could be seen with their mothers, revising verses for the Holy Qur’an memorisation competition.Everyone put their best foot forward not only in vying for the top positions in these competitions, but also to foster and build a bond of sisterhood with women and girls from across the country. This is nothing new for Ahmadi women, as they’ve been raised amongst constant academic celebration.

Ijtema

https://lajna.org.uk/ijtema/

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 15:42

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 13:44

You keep using the word excluded. There were 2 conferences, men were excluded from the women's conference.
That dress code is in relation to the religion. It's not full face covering.

Ahmadiyya women scientists are active members of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community who pursue careers and research in science, technology, engineering, and medicine. Propelled by community leadership encouragement to attain secular and religious education, groups like the Ahmadi Women Scientists Association (AWSA) coordinate professional development, mentorship, and research collaboration globally.
One such example is
Dr Tammara Soma: An assistant professor at the School of Resource and Environmental Management at Simon Fraser University in Canada. She is a leading researcher in food systems planning, food waste, and agricultural sustainability.
I think excluding women from the men's conference at such a huge publicly visible event encourages all the bad things you've mentioned
My problem is your animus towards this conference puts you in the same category as Islamists who regard the Ahmadis as heretic.
What do you want to do, ban the conference because it follows a religion you don't?
If militant Islam ever takes over this country they will slaughter the Ahmadis as they did the Yazidis.

https://x.com/i/status/1948808783846879449
This is religious hatred in the UK in 2025.

The Bradford preacher Mohammed Adil Shahzad has one big mission in life – inciting burning contempt for Ahmadi Muslims. All the time, in mosques across the country.

They are “filthy” and "dirty" and not Muslims at all. 1/7

There's no point you preaching to me about what professions Ahmadiyya women are encouraged to go into when their dress code prevents them from being an athlete, a show jumper, a pilates instructor, working safely in a factory etc etc.

The men were excluded from the women's conference, true. It was not discussing the future of the religion around the world as the men were, it was discussing the (restricted) career opportunities for women and arranged marriages. The women's conference was not comparable.

My problem is your animus towards this conference puts you in the same category as Islamists who regard the Ahmadis as heretic.

This would downright offensive if it wasn't such a laughable comment.

Those Islamists regard them as heretic because they are too liberal. I regard it as offensive because it is misogynistic and treats women as second class citizens whose bodies so inflame men that they must be loosely covered with thick material at all times in public.

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Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 14:56

5MinuteArgument · 31/07/2026 14:04

I think pretty much all factions in Islam are male dominated. Maybe this strand is less so than some others, eg the Taliban. But their final address is to men only. That shows they are a male dominated religion, much more than Christianity where that wouldn't happen.

To be fair, I think if they want to organise themselves in that way, that's up to them. But people need to be real about it and not pretend they uphold sex equality when they clearly don't.

It's like when leftists in the Labour Party had a meeting with the Muslim community and it was sex segregated (women at the back, natch). Jeremy Corbyn and co twisted themselves into pretzels trying to justify it. They see the Muslims as the 'good guys' so they couldn't possibly be sexist ... could they?

To be fair, I think if they want to organise themselves in that way, that's up to them. But people need to be real about it and not pretend they uphold sex equality when they clearly don't.
I agree it's a religious meeting organised according to their beliefs. I'm not keen on dress codes but they aren't necessarily oppressive. I don't think non muslims were required to don the hijab.
The Labour Party is a case of not upholding it's professed beliefs. All their meetings were secular and should be held to the standards of equality they profess. Making concessions to misogynistics beliefs for votes is wrong and a betrayal of women. The Labour Party is selling it's soul to extremists.
What happens in mosques should also be within the law.

5MinuteArgument · 31/07/2026 14:04

I think pretty much all factions in Islam are male dominated. Maybe this strand is less so than some others, eg the Taliban. But their final address is to men only. That shows they are a male dominated religion, much more than Christianity where that wouldn't happen.

To be fair, I think if they want to organise themselves in that way, that's up to them. But people need to be real about it and not pretend they uphold sex equality when they clearly don't.

It's like when leftists in the Labour Party had a meeting with the Muslim community and it was sex segregated (women at the back, natch). Jeremy Corbyn and co twisted themselves into pretzels trying to justify it. They see the Muslims as the 'good guys' so they couldn't possibly be sexist ... could they?

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 13:44

You keep using the word excluded. There were 2 conferences, men were excluded from the women's conference.
That dress code is in relation to the religion. It's not full face covering.

Ahmadiyya women scientists are active members of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community who pursue careers and research in science, technology, engineering, and medicine. Propelled by community leadership encouragement to attain secular and religious education, groups like the Ahmadi Women Scientists Association (AWSA) coordinate professional development, mentorship, and research collaboration globally.
One such example is
Dr Tammara Soma: An assistant professor at the School of Resource and Environmental Management at Simon Fraser University in Canada. She is a leading researcher in food systems planning, food waste, and agricultural sustainability.
I think excluding women from the men's conference at such a huge publicly visible event encourages all the bad things you've mentioned
My problem is your animus towards this conference puts you in the same category as Islamists who regard the Ahmadis as heretic.
What do you want to do, ban the conference because it follows a religion you don't?
If militant Islam ever takes over this country they will slaughter the Ahmadis as they did the Yazidis.

https://x.com/i/status/1948808783846879449
This is religious hatred in the UK in 2025.

The Bradford preacher Mohammed Adil Shahzad has one big mission in life – inciting burning contempt for Ahmadi Muslims. All the time, in mosques across the country.

They are “filthy” and "dirty" and not Muslims at all. 1/7

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This is religious hatred in the UK in 2025. The Bradford preacher Mohammed Adil Shahzad has one big mission in life – inciting burning contempt for Ahmadi Muslims. All the time, in mosques across the country. They are “filthy” and "dirty" and not Mus...

https://x.com/i/status/1948808783846879449

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 12:18

Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 10:56

I do not want the UK to be a world meeting place for men to discuss how to control the lives of women or to have that message given to any girl, but especially a Muslim girl, in this country.
Well, this conference isn't that. You are beginning to sound unhinged.

Why are you expending so much energy on this. You seem incapable of nuance. One of the speeches at the womens conference encouraged girls to get an education and become doctors, engineers and work for the good of humanity. An Ahmadi woman who worked in Physics was held up as an example.

Have a go at the Dawah bros with their vast audience. Look at hate preachers in British mosques. Criticise the use of Sharia in marriages. Analyse the growth of sectarian politics I'll agree with you, have been doing it for years.

It's like attacking the Quakers because you've listened to an American evangelical.

I think excluding women from the men's conference at such a huge publicly visible event encourages all the bad things you've mentioned. Criticising it does not preclude criticising other things. You may as well criticise me for not complaining about the Tate brothers. I may sound unhinged to you but it I am then I'm unhinged in the company of a lot of other people.

You may be happy to have this final address of the conference presented only to the men. I'm not.

"The Worldwide Head of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community, Hazrat Mirza Masroor Ahmad, Khalifatul Masih V, has unveiled the Community’s 2026 Global Progress Report, highlighting significant worldwide growth in the propagation of Islam Ahmadiyyat over the past year. The report was presented during the concluding session of the 60th Annual Jalsa Salana UK"

You may be happy with this dress code for Ahmadiyya women at a major gathering in this country, I'm not.

Core Elements of the Dress Code

  • Head Covering (Hijab/Scarf): Must cover the hair and be drawn over the bosom.
  • Outer Garment (Abaya/Long Coat): Loose-fitting cloaks or long coats worn in public to obscure the body's shape.
  • Facial Veil (Optional/Purdah): The face may be left uncovered for minimum purdah, but wearing makeup is discouraged unless a full face veil is worn.
  • Prohibited Attire: Tight, form-fitting clothes, short sleeves, thin fabrics, and visible makeup in public without a veil.

They had a session on careers for women. Good, but do you understand just how many activities and professions that dress code would preclude women from?

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Imnobody4 · 31/07/2026 10:56

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 07:55

I would agree with with you if this wasn't a male dominated religion that doesn't just worship, it tells people how they must live their lives from day to day including how they dress. And men make those decisions for women.

I do not want the UK to be a world meeting place for men to discuss how to control the lives of women or to have that message given to any girl, but especially a Muslim girl, in this country.

I do not want the UK to be a world meeting place for men to discuss how to control the lives of women or to have that message given to any girl, but especially a Muslim girl, in this country.
Well, this conference isn't that. You are beginning to sound unhinged.

Why are you expending so much energy on this. You seem incapable of nuance. One of the speeches at the womens conference encouraged girls to get an education and become doctors, engineers and work for the good of humanity. An Ahmadi woman who worked in Physics was held up as an example.

Have a go at the Dawah bros with their vast audience. Look at hate preachers in British mosques. Criticise the use of Sharia in marriages. Analyse the growth of sectarian politics I'll agree with you, have been doing it for years.

It's like attacking the Quakers because you've listened to an American evangelical.

5MinuteArgument · 31/07/2026 10:24

Islam is very much a male dominated religion. More so than other religions. I don't mind men only spaces and women only spaces as long as they are of equal value. That's not what's happening here.

But my main issue with this event is that I don't want the UK to become a growing centre for Islam with mass events and increased sectarianism. I can see why they would think Britain would be a good base as we have been encouraged to devalue our own culture while giving Islam a free pass.

Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 07:55

Whatchamacallitt · 31/07/2026 00:08

Well that's fair enough. Women's facilities should be equally as good as the men's are. If they aren't then that's discrimination. But I don't think having a male only event is in itself an issue.

I would agree with with you if this wasn't a male dominated religion that doesn't just worship, it tells people how they must live their lives from day to day including how they dress. And men make those decisions for women.

I do not want the UK to be a world meeting place for men to discuss how to control the lives of women or to have that message given to any girl, but especially a Muslim girl, in this country.

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Imdunfer · 31/07/2026 07:46

TooBigForMyBoots · 31/07/2026 01:01

It isn't a male only event. Its a religious festival with men, women and children. Some of the scheduled events are single sex.

As you can see, many of the posts on this thread are anti-Muslim rather than pro-women.

It's two separate events. The one with the religious leaders addressing people about the religion is male only.

There is also a female only event with a very lovely tent for meetings for arranging marriages.

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