How to respond he/she?

Of course it is up to op how she refers to someone else. What is odd is someone wants other people to refer to them when they aren't even there. Massively controlling.

I suggest you notice the difference between real people and online propaganda.

Detransition is uncommon, and most of those who detrans didn't have any medical treatment at all. Many detrans due to violent transphobia, not regret.

Detrans people deserve love, support and to be heard. Their experiences are personal, not weapons to be used against trans people.

I suggest you notice the difference between real people and online propaganda.

Detransition is uncommon, and most of those who detrans didn't have any medical treatment at all. Many detrans due to violent transphobia, not regret.

Detrans people deserve love, support and to be heard. Their experiences are personal, not weapons to be used against trans people.

Lot's of how this impacts you but not them.

Misgendering functions as a targeted method of disrespect used to invalidate someone's identity. It's a kind of invalidation and erasure that makes them feel unseen or dismissed. Being misgendered can actively worsen anxiety, depression and gender dysphoria & can make people feel unsafe, stigmatised, and socially isolated which negatively impacts their ability to engage in workplaces and daily life.

I suggest you go and read detrans Reddit to see the pain that this ridiculous ideology is causing people. Poster after poster realising they were lied to and mourning the very real damage that has been done to their bodies.

Absolute bullshit.

Pronouns are gendered not sexed.

Lot's of how this impacts you but not them.

Misgendering functions as a targeted method of disrespect used to invalidate someone's identity. It's a kind of invalidation and erasure that makes them feel unseen or dismissed. Being misgendered can actively worsen anxiety, depression and gender dysphoria & can make people feel unsafe, stigmatised, and socially isolated which negatively impacts their ability to engage in workplaces and daily life.

I do not understand how correctly sexing someone (perhaps someone you have known all his or her life) can be framed as "misgendering" and therefore automatically abusive. If I refer to a gay friend or relative of mine as "gay" it may or may not be abusive, depending on how I say it and the context. Even calling him "queer" may not be abusive, despite it having been used abusively countless times when I was a schoolboy.

If I call my son "he", do you think I'm going against the Forstater appeal judgment? I have loved and stood up for my son for the whole of his life, and it is in no way abusive if I refer to him accurately as the son he is. You would have me call my son "she" or pretend that he is my daughter. Bollocks (literally) to that. I cannot deny my son's existence. I don't base third person pronouns on how someone presents themselves or sees themselves; I base them on the knowledge and perception I have.

We all relate to everyone else based on our own perception of them. If you have just read what I have written and decided that makes me a bigot, you will relate to me based on that perception, not on the perception I have of myself, however much I would like you to see me as the lovely kind old gentleman I know myself to be. The gender identity worldview that lectures me on how I should refer to my son is as authoritarian as any religious cult I have come across (and I have come across many, from Moonies to rigid Christian sects).

Mate, I lived through the 80s. Right wingers complaining that gay people had "stolen that word" was the least of it.

Your objections to trans people using the pronouns which describe them aren't anything other than recycled bigotry.

But you can't misgender trans people being the point. And why is that if biology reigns supreme over pronoun usage as you claim? Because it clearly doesn't.

Being gay isn't an observable fact. Homophobes have always claimed it was a lifestyle choice.

I'm afraid being trans is real, and normal.

Claiming it's a belief is just ignorance. You aren't trans, and clearly don't have any close trans friends - perhaps educate yourself. Listen to other people.

No one would invent being trans. Living as trans is violent, difficult and intensely stressful - but essential, because of how it heals dysphoria. Try reading what older trans people have written on this subject, it may open your eyes.

Depends. If I knew of you as someone who called themselves All-Knowing, I'd find that quietly amusing.

But in company, because I'm not a rude, bigoted person wishing to be abusive to anyone, I'd call you Al.

p.s. Well done for missing my point. The people abusing my mum and the lesbian couple thought they were against nature, and pretending to be something they weren't.

To them, it was obvious that my mum was a terrible person who'd chosen an unrighteous path - and that gay people couldn't be in relationships.

Comparing being trans with arrogance, showing off and selfishness is bigotry, I'm afraid. Try educating yourself, meeting some trans people and stop pronouncing on stuff you don't understand.

I live with someone who's trans. In fact, gave birth to them, raised them and have watched them develop.

I've seen how coming out not only healed something within him, but also revealed the extent to which he'd hidden his true self from us. He's himself, a trans man. I don't see him as a woman.

(Please don't accuse me of 'transing' him - it's ridiculous. I had no part in him being trans, and although I support him 100% would far prefer he wasn't because of the violence he's endured.)

Please try reading some trans voices, if you wish to understand what being trans is.

You are homophobic and tone deaf. Well done.

Nope. I'm a working-class cis woman living on carer's allowance who objects to people being transphobic, hi there. We are legion.

I live with someone who's trans. In fact, gave birth to them, raised them and have watched them develop.

I've seen how coming out not only healed something within him, but also revealed the extent to which he'd hidden his true self from us. He's himself, a trans man. I don't see him as a woman.

(Please don't accuse me of 'transing' him - it's ridiculous. I had no part in him being trans, and although I support him 100% would far prefer he wasn't because of the violence he's endured.)

Please try reading some trans voices, if you wish to understand what being trans is.

Privilege comes in many forms.
Calling correct-sex wording abusive is pretty offensive.

Nope. I'm a working-class cis woman living on carer's allowance who objects to people being transphobic, hi there. We are legion.

Most women wouldn't find it "rude" but most women aren't terribly fragile creatures who can't possibly spend the evening being basically civil to a trans person.

Out with friends. One friend's son has a TIM friend. Obviously male but fake boobs and wearing a dress, about 25. Everyone refers to him 'as she'. I asked one, 'why do you refer to him as 'her/she' rather than 'he' and was told that that was what he prefers.

How would you have responded?