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Article about Mumsnet on Unherd. "Has Mumsnet fallen for Farage? Labour is losing Middle England"

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lechiffre55 · 06/01/2026 12:28

The title is slightly clickbaity but the article seems fairly balanced to me.
It's about what Starmer and Labour have done wrong to lose support. No element of smear against Mumsnet.
https://unherd.com/2026/01/has-mumsnet-fallen-for-farage/

Has Mumsnet fallen for Farage?

https://unherd.com/2026/01/has-mumsnet-fallen-for-farage/

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SionnachRuadh · 10/01/2026 20:07

I often say the best way of understanding Trump is to watch Caddyshack and pay close attention to Rodney Dangerfield's character.

Trump may belong to the elite class in the financial sense, but in terms of NYC society he's always been that brash guy from Queens who Manhattan high society looked down their noses at, the same way London high society would look on a white van man from Essex.

Which is kind of relevant in the UK context because Reform is the party of white van men.

I swear, we have a lot of socialists these days who would watch Caddyshack and assume that the snobs who wanted to exclude Rodney Dangerfield from the golf club were the heroes.

lechiffre55 · 10/01/2026 19:54

I like some of the Carry on films, Khyber as you say was probably the best. Others I'm not so keen on. I like in Khyber that the British soldiers are judged on if they wear underwear under their kilts. The Devils in Skirts!
Carry on took a shot at everyone, even in Khyber, when they are having dinner while the residence is being shelled and they still have dinner, taking the piss out of the very British stiff upper lip.
Trump is from the elite class. His penchant for everything to be gold/gold plated is ridiculous, and deserves mockery. But he understands the common people at the bottom far more than the rest of the elites. I love movies and there are many movie stars in movies that I absolutely love who look down on people like me for not sharing their beliefs. I still love the movies but I know some of the actors hate my beliefs, and that's fine, I still enjoy the movies.

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SionnachRuadh · 10/01/2026 19:52

I like how @persephonia thinks I need to be scolded for suggesting that elites are out of touch.

I suppose the next line will be that left wing people are nicer, in which case I have some interesting stories to tell you.

persephonia · 10/01/2026 19:41

lechiffre55 · 10/01/2026 19:37

your video is blocked in the UK

It wasn't blocked for me but I use a VPN. Copyright maybe. Hmm. It wasn't anything awful just a slightly un pc clip from a Carry On Film.

lechiffre55 · 10/01/2026 19:37

your video is blocked in the UK

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persephonia · 10/01/2026 19:25

SionnachRuadh · 10/01/2026 18:19

McDonalds is one of those class signifiers. For all its faults, it's one of America's great democratic institutions. And that photo of Trump waving from the drive-through window in his apron was like something out of Norman Rockwell. America has a graduate cultural elite that's educated itself out of understanding its own culture.

There was another great example in Trump's first term, I think in the NYT magazine, where they interviewed some posh Manhattan socialites who used to have Ivanka in their social circle, but had cut her off since her dad went into politics. I think the article was meant to portray the posh debutantes as #Resistance heroines, but it really just made them look like snooty bitches and Ivanka look cool and relatable.

I suppose the UK equivalent in humour terms would be something like Carry On. I always describe Carry On as vernacular British culture, because you can't make it upmarket or intellectual, but it pulled in enormous audiences for decades. Brits who are too sophisticated to understand its appeal are too sophisticated to understand about 80% of the country's population.

Even university students eat McDonald's. It's one thing to talk about politicians being out of touch. But it's a very clever piece of propaganda to suggest de facto anyone who disagreed with Trump is "cultural elite" while Trump, a billionaire with a gold toilet who avoids taxes is one of the people. I do agree he is good at connecting with people and connecting with people's grievances. It's a particular kind of intelligence.

Some Carry On films were excellent (carry on up the Khyber). Some were dire. They were extremely sexist (and sometimes a bit racist) BUT if you watch them they did make fun of everyone. E.g Barbara Windsors breasts are a source of jokes. Older women are battle axes. But the men are portrayed as sex pests and idiots as well. Posh characters are laughed at, so are the working class characters. That's very different to the way MAGA humour operates and I think it's that that puts me of. A comedian told a crown PR was garbage and they cheered. Biden (who should not have been allowed near the presidential race yet alone allowed to go for a second term) said "how outrageous they/he is the garbage" probably referring to Hinchcliff and the crowd, and Trump spun that into outrage about how the elites think me and by extension the American people are garbage. It means Trump can be as horrible as he wants and if you object it's because you are out of touch, but if anyone criticises Trump he tries to get them cancelled. It's Bully mentality. Or I just don't understand American humour

lechiffre55 · 10/01/2026 18:47

SionnachRuadh · 10/01/2026 13:11

Spectator podcast: Sonia Sodha and Tim Shipman discuss:

TY for link. Always love Tim Shipman. His books around the Brexit era are amazing.

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SionnachRuadh · 10/01/2026 18:19

lechiffre55 · 10/01/2026 17:52

Yep because they didn't understand what he understood. Lots of people eat at McDonalds. It's not complicated, it's very simple.
When you sneer at Trump doing a stunt at McDonalds, you sneer at the people who eat there. That's not advantageous when you want as many people as possible to vote for you.
There was a time, when I commuted to work, where occasioinally I would bring McDonalds back for me and my partner. She was always delighted to get random McDonalds. She told our neighbour one day and the neighbour was "I wish someone would bring me random McDonalds". It's no haute cuisine, but for a lot of people it sure hits the spot, especially when you are not expecting it. Sneering at the basics of life is a stupid arrogant move, especially during an election which, at it's most basic, is a popularity contest.
Do not piss people off if you want to get elected. Patronising, and looking down at people does not earn votes, it loses them.

McDonalds is one of those class signifiers. For all its faults, it's one of America's great democratic institutions. And that photo of Trump waving from the drive-through window in his apron was like something out of Norman Rockwell. America has a graduate cultural elite that's educated itself out of understanding its own culture.

There was another great example in Trump's first term, I think in the NYT magazine, where they interviewed some posh Manhattan socialites who used to have Ivanka in their social circle, but had cut her off since her dad went into politics. I think the article was meant to portray the posh debutantes as #Resistance heroines, but it really just made them look like snooty bitches and Ivanka look cool and relatable.

I suppose the UK equivalent in humour terms would be something like Carry On. I always describe Carry On as vernacular British culture, because you can't make it upmarket or intellectual, but it pulled in enormous audiences for decades. Brits who are too sophisticated to understand its appeal are too sophisticated to understand about 80% of the country's population.

lechiffre55 · 10/01/2026 17:52

TempestTost · 10/01/2026 17:17

And Democrat commentators were very sneery about Trump at MacDonalds.

Yep because they didn't understand what he understood. Lots of people eat at McDonalds. It's not complicated, it's very simple.
When you sneer at Trump doing a stunt at McDonalds, you sneer at the people who eat there. That's not advantageous when you want as many people as possible to vote for you.
There was a time, when I commuted to work, where occasioinally I would bring McDonalds back for me and my partner. She was always delighted to get random McDonalds. She told our neighbour one day and the neighbour was "I wish someone would bring me random McDonalds". It's no haute cuisine, but for a lot of people it sure hits the spot, especially when you are not expecting it. Sneering at the basics of life is a stupid arrogant move, especially during an election which, at it's most basic, is a popularity contest.
Do not piss people off if you want to get elected. Patronising, and looking down at people does not earn votes, it loses them.

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TempestTost · 10/01/2026 17:17

And Democrat commentators were very sneery about Trump at MacDonalds.

TempestTost · 10/01/2026 17:15

persephonia · 10/01/2026 15:28

You think democrats or their "equivalent social group" don't eat McDonald's or work at McDonald's? Do you mean politicians or supporters? It's unclear.

On humour. I spent time in a house where the adult male loved "banter" in the forms of hilarious jokes usually directed at other people. You couldn't complain because it's a joke. But if any banter was directed at him (even immediately after he had made a joke) it was met with either rage or extreme hurt. I think everyone has known people like that. I agree that the US Democrats really struggle to connect. But that sort of banter/humour only works if you are willing to take it as well. Otherwise it's bullying. And lots of people do find that funny I suppose.

I'm not sure what your point is here.

I don't think there is any particular requirement that anyone finds Trump's type of humour funny. Humour is very individual though it also has strong culture, class, racial, and other factors that influence how we receive it. In the end, what we find funny we find funny, what we don't, we don't.

What I was suggesting however is that the progressive middle classes, in the case of Trump and his voting base, tends to interpret the humour that is not native to their own group as evidence of stupidity, and it isn't. It's evidence of a different background. (They on their part also likely find the humour of the university educated progressive classes lacking. Which does not make it all dumb. Just differernt.)

It's fundamentally a lack of class connection. And it is at best a blind spot, and often a way to allow themselves the comfortable illusion that the opposition is all dumb dumbs. Which means they never even try to really understand the strategy or reasoning for the actions. It's why you can't find any half decent commentary on Trump's economic strategies in the progressive media, you have to go to some place like Unherd, even though there you can find socialist economists who will talk about it. But the mainstream progressive left is wilfully blind.

persephonia · 10/01/2026 15:28

TempestTost · 10/01/2026 01:30

Yes.

I think there are a lot of Democrats, or their equivalent social group in the UK or where I am in Canada, who have this kind of a priori view that Trump is dumb and can only do dumb things and hire dumb people, and his campaign was dumb. And they have blinded themselves to the fact that he ran a really good, tight campaign.

Partly this is because they focus on stuff they don't easily culturally connect to, the MacDonald's thing, or the kind of humour he uses in his speeches. They don't "get" it, they just see it as a sign of being thick.

But you are right, the media has really dropped the ball in the UK as well and don't show people anything that might make them question that assumption. Or maybe not dropped the ball as it now appears that quite a lot of that may have been deliberate.

You think democrats or their "equivalent social group" don't eat McDonald's or work at McDonald's? Do you mean politicians or supporters? It's unclear.

On humour. I spent time in a house where the adult male loved "banter" in the forms of hilarious jokes usually directed at other people. You couldn't complain because it's a joke. But if any banter was directed at him (even immediately after he had made a joke) it was met with either rage or extreme hurt. I think everyone has known people like that. I agree that the US Democrats really struggle to connect. But that sort of banter/humour only works if you are willing to take it as well. Otherwise it's bullying. And lots of people do find that funny I suppose.

FallenSloppyDead2 · 10/01/2026 10:03

SerendipityJane · 10/01/2026 09:59

The corollary to that is only smart people get to be POTUS.

Well, you definitely have to have 'the smarts'.

SerendipityJane · 10/01/2026 09:59

FallenSloppyDead2 · 10/01/2026 09:49

I can't bear the 'Trump is dumb, haw haw haw' rhetoric. Whatever he is, you don't get to be President of the USA by being dumb.

The corollary to that is only smart people get to be POTUS.

FallenSloppyDead2 · 10/01/2026 09:49

I can't bear the 'Trump is dumb, haw haw haw' rhetoric. Whatever he is, you don't get to be President of the USA by being dumb.

TempestTost · 10/01/2026 01:30

FallenSloppyDead2 · 09/01/2026 23:39

The serving at McDonalds thing too, doing a job that many Americans do, young Americans.
And clearly loving it. Despite the artifice of the media stunt, his joy was sincere.

I remember watching this and seeing a side of Trump I had never seen before and realising that he has the common touch.
I also began to realise that the BBC was not making any effort to show that side of him at all.

Yes.

I think there are a lot of Democrats, or their equivalent social group in the UK or where I am in Canada, who have this kind of a priori view that Trump is dumb and can only do dumb things and hire dumb people, and his campaign was dumb. And they have blinded themselves to the fact that he ran a really good, tight campaign.

Partly this is because they focus on stuff they don't easily culturally connect to, the MacDonald's thing, or the kind of humour he uses in his speeches. They don't "get" it, they just see it as a sign of being thick.

But you are right, the media has really dropped the ball in the UK as well and don't show people anything that might make them question that assumption. Or maybe not dropped the ball as it now appears that quite a lot of that may have been deliberate.

FallenSloppyDead2 · 09/01/2026 23:39

The serving at McDonalds thing too, doing a job that many Americans do, young Americans.
And clearly loving it. Despite the artifice of the media stunt, his joy was sincere.

I remember watching this and seeing a side of Trump I had never seen before and realising that he has the common touch.
I also began to realise that the BBC was not making any effort to show that side of him at all.

FallenSloppyDead2 · 09/01/2026 23:33

My mid-30s, US family member, Democrat through and through, said at the time that everyone considered the Clintons to be corrupt and lining their nest and her vote for Hillary was joyless.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 09/01/2026 22:48

lechiffre55 · 09/01/2026 18:05

@SionnachRuadh
Ty for Shattered book recommendation, just bought it on Audible.
What you describe reminds me of Kamala's campaign, where she paid big bucks for many celebrity endorsements. How much did Beyoncé get paid, and she didn't even sing? It's one elite hiring other elites. How can that possibly bridge the divide to the working people? Maybe I'm too old to understand the draw of celebrities on young people, but their lives are so different from mine why would I care what they think?
And then look at Trump for comparison, the big fuss over the comedian ( Kill ) Tony Hinchcliff making a joke about Puerto Rico being "garbage" at Trump's Madison Square Garden rally. The joke is offensive to some and it's a good attack line for the Democrates very close to the election. How did Trump respond to this self inflicted wound? He got in a garbage truck with a high vis jacket. It's a connection to working people. He owned and defused the garbage problem. The serving at McDonalds thing too, doing a job that many Americans do, young Americans. Doing what working people do.
I don't remember many celebrities being involved in the Trump campaign. The most obvious one I can think of is Hulk Hogan at the same rally as Kill Tony. A wrestler who is probably on every TV in every household in America with kids. It's the connection to the common people thing again. I don't think of Hulk Hogan as an elite, although others might disagree.
To me there was two different mindsets in action during Harris vs Trump.
Elites looking down on the little people wanting their votes.
An elite trying to connect with the little people wanting thier votes.

Puerto Rico being "garbage" at Trump's Madison Square Garden rally.

The Latinos/as that everyone was getting offended on behalf of think PR is garbage too. That's why they moved to the US. Think of the song like to be in America's second verse.

The only offence that might be taken is of the "hey, that's ours, only we get to say how shit it is" type.

The serving at McDonalds thing too, doing a job that many Americans do, young Americans.

And clearly loving it. Despite the artifice of the media stunt, his joy was sincere.

fcktonoclingfilm · 09/01/2026 20:23

I think this is a very dangerous situation, and we can count ourselves lucky that we've got the populism we've got, and not something genuinely extremist. This might not hold if Labour allow their authoritarian instincts to prevail.

Agree. Great comments by both @SionnachRuadh and @lechiffre55 - what you're describing is what I'm seeing too. And many people I speak to.

lechiffre55 · 09/01/2026 18:05

@SionnachRuadh
Ty for Shattered book recommendation, just bought it on Audible.
What you describe reminds me of Kamala's campaign, where she paid big bucks for many celebrity endorsements. How much did Beyoncé get paid, and she didn't even sing? It's one elite hiring other elites. How can that possibly bridge the divide to the working people? Maybe I'm too old to understand the draw of celebrities on young people, but their lives are so different from mine why would I care what they think?
And then look at Trump for comparison, the big fuss over the comedian ( Kill ) Tony Hinchcliff making a joke about Puerto Rico being "garbage" at Trump's Madison Square Garden rally. The joke is offensive to some and it's a good attack line for the Democrates very close to the election. How did Trump respond to this self inflicted wound? He got in a garbage truck with a high vis jacket. It's a connection to working people. He owned and defused the garbage problem. The serving at McDonalds thing too, doing a job that many Americans do, young Americans. Doing what working people do.
I don't remember many celebrities being involved in the Trump campaign. The most obvious one I can think of is Hulk Hogan at the same rally as Kill Tony. A wrestler who is probably on every TV in every household in America with kids. It's the connection to the common people thing again. I don't think of Hulk Hogan as an elite, although others might disagree.
To me there was two different mindsets in action during Harris vs Trump.
Elites looking down on the little people wanting their votes.
An elite trying to connect with the little people wanting thier votes.

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BlueJuniper94 · 09/01/2026 17:48

MarieDeGournay · 06/01/2026 13:37

We rightly grumbled on the other thread that the 'MN is now backing Reform' headline in the Independent was misleading, because only one in five 'politically engaged' MNers said they would vote for reform.
So four out of five would not, which is hardly a resounding endorsement of Reform!
Mumsnet is now backing Reform UK - survey | Mumsnet

'Has MN fallen for Farage?' is equally misleading - if four out of five MNers would not vote for reform, the answer to that question is obviously no.

Whatever about the writers of the articles, who seem to have a better grasp of figures, politics, and MN, both sets of headline writers seem to be determined to portray MN as pro-Reform, which will be interpreted by many as being right-wing. [I'm not saying it is].

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Someone who didn't read the article

SionnachRuadh · 09/01/2026 17:37

I should reread that book Shattered, that gave the definitive account of what a shitshow the Hillary campaign was. It's a strange book because it was written by journos who were embedded with the campaign and obviously really wanted her to win, and kept being amazed by how awful the campaign was.

Trump is the villain of the story, but he's almost entirely offstage.

They give us a picture of Hillary being so arrogant she was almost floating above the campaign, with her overpromoted aides squabbling among themselves about who had access to her and who was going to get the big jobs after her inevitable win.

I don't like Bill Clinton for obvious reasons, but the man is a genuine political genius, and there are odd, almost sad moments where Bill wanders into a meeting and says he's worried about the polls, and maybe it would be an idea to reach out to Middle American voters, and everyone just ignores him.

It's a great example of how an arrogant and out of touch elite can sabotage itself.

SionnachRuadh · 09/01/2026 17:30

TempestTost · 09/01/2026 17:19

Is that an argument?

She ran a shit campaign, it doesn't reflect on women, just on herself.

I don't know if this story is true, but it seems plausible.

We know that Hillary didn't go to Wisconsin. What I heard was that Democrat organisers in Wisconsin were worried about low black turnout in Milwaukee, and begged the campaign to send them Barack Obama or Michelle Obama or Jesse Jackson or anyone who could fire up the base.

The Wisconsin Democrats didn't get the Obamas or Jesse Jackson. They got Chelsea Clinton.

At that time, I think, party bigwigs were still interested in grooming Chelsea as a future candidate. Or they pretended to be, to suck up to Hillary.

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