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Confusedpleaseeducateme · 23/05/2025 19:46

Pardon my ignorance. But can anyone help? Genuine question. Just a NC

I say that I'm GC as I don't believe you can change sex. However I strongly believe you should go where your genitals match. E. G. If you've COMPLETELY transitioned then use that toilet.
By all means say you're a different gender (and I'll just roll my eyes internally) but personally I don't have a problem if a true TW uses the ladies facilities. I just don't want to share female spaces with a penis!

I don't believe TWAW. I believe they are TW.

Does that make sense? Please be gentle... First time posting on this board but been reading a long time but don't recall seeing anyone saying anything about this? But I could just be being dull... Menopausal brain!

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WithSilverBells · 26/05/2025 21:57

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 21:37

I'm not sure the whole 'claim to be the sole defenders of Women's Rights and present an artificial "my way or the highway" zero-sum game' thing is fooling many people anymore.

You could get away with it when you didn't have crowing bigots doing victory laps over trans people's exile from public existence, sneering and body-policing their way through photos of desperate women expressing their grief in public in the same way that has been done many times before by feminist movements for decades.

Pretty hard to defend the overt white supremacist arguments that are spilling left, right and centre from the social media messaging sieve now.

Pretty hard to defend the omissions and refusals to release the harm stats for trans young people following the complete removal of all hope they had for healthcare. You may wish to familiarise yourself with the content of the excellent Utah report released recently.

It is getting harder and harder to know what you are on about

moggly · 26/05/2025 21:50

Genuinely starting to enjoy these impotent scoldings, especially after the SC win.

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 21:37

TheOtherRaven · 26/05/2025 19:35

'Hostile' being in actual fact women's rights, child safeguarding and medical ethics.

I'm not sure the whole 'claim to be the sole defenders of Women's Rights and present an artificial "my way or the highway" zero-sum game' thing is fooling many people anymore.

You could get away with it when you didn't have crowing bigots doing victory laps over trans people's exile from public existence, sneering and body-policing their way through photos of desperate women expressing their grief in public in the same way that has been done many times before by feminist movements for decades.

Pretty hard to defend the overt white supremacist arguments that are spilling left, right and centre from the social media messaging sieve now.

Pretty hard to defend the omissions and refusals to release the harm stats for trans young people following the complete removal of all hope they had for healthcare. You may wish to familiarise yourself with the content of the excellent Utah report released recently.

Arran2024 · 26/05/2025 21:27

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 17:25

Waiting lists for sex reassignment surgery are up to a life sentence in length already. That is a vanishingly small window of opportunity for anyone who isn't rich or didn't transition a long time ago when the NHS was functionally able to provide trans healthcare.

The Telegraph ran an article the other day calling for all gender-affirming surgery to be banned. This seems to be a major new direction of travel for the 'I just have reasonable concerns' brigade now that they have blocked and then banned treatment for trans youth, are halfway through banning treatment for adults, have effectively banned trans people from public and workplace single sex facilities, have sabotaged the provision for full legal recognition required by the UK's adherence to the EU's human rights conventions via the back door, and are now openly pouring millions into anti-trans legal funds.

It seems likely that for the vast majority of trans people in the UK, this will not be an option. I am counting my lucky stars that I was able to get treatment decades ago at a young age, before reactionary anti-trans activism gained such a devastating foothold on our politics and healthcare systems.

Who knows - we may have used the same toilets before. Prior to the 2017 strategic pivot by the evangelist far right in the US away from gay marriage and toward trans rights, which started flooding the UK's tiny anti-trans activism scene with influence and funding, very few people had been radicalised toward a mindset that would drive them to actively seek out and target trans people. It's a desperately sad state of affairs that we find ourselves in today.

Some seek to blame Theresa May's pledge to consult on GRA reform; that certainly seems to have served as a rallying call that united the far right with otherwise left-leaning anti-trans strains of feminism, and gave the movement its current momentum.

I'm not so sure, though - I think the post-GRA reform consultation surge was a symptom, rather than a cause.

I hope we can move on from the ridiculous EHRC overstep that sees trans people effectively segregated from the rest of the population, exiled from male and female facilities and trapped in a constant prison of fear and uncertainty just for trying to live their lives in the safest way possible for them. It has brought immense confusion and harm already to so many, and is drawing intense international scrutiny and abject horror in many cases - including from the UN itself.

Nonsense, the issue is that Stonewall pivoted to trans rights in 2014 because it had secured gay marriage and needed a new campaign. And given the huge support for LGB and Stonewall back then, and how keen businesses and organisations were to appease Stonewall, they just accepted everything Stonewall said about trans inclusivity, even where it was clearly controversial. No one was consulted on any of this and women started to wake up to the impact on us and began to fight back. This has NOTHING to do with US evangelicals or right wingers. Kellie Jay Keane, Julie Bindel, Suzanne Moore etc were home grown, not influenced by the USA. In fact, attempts to retain women's spaces was strongest here in the UK - we are not called 'Terf Island' for nothing! The trans mantra of "no debate" and calling anyone who wanted to discuss women's rights "transphobic" pushed women to group and campaign on our own. Basically trans activists have overreached.

Seethlaw · 26/05/2025 21:26

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 21:19

With a seven year lead-in and a wait time equivalent to a life sentence in prison on surgical transition.

Well, yeah, that's what happens when you offer surgeries to bazillions of people who don't need them. Remove from the waiting list all the kids who suffer from things entirely other than gender dysphoria, and you'll find that the waiting time magically reduces for those few adults who really have GD.

And please don't use hyperbole such as "life sentence in prison". I've been there, having to wait for my surgery. It wasn't anything like being in prison.

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 21:19

Seethlaw · 26/05/2025 19:47

Oh please 😂 ! A country where you can get a GRC on simple request, and gender-affirming surgeries fully funded by the NHS, is not in any way "intensely hostile".

With a seven year lead-in and a wait time equivalent to a life sentence in prison on surgical transition.

moggly · 26/05/2025 21:17

Theresa May's plan on gender self-id was a watershed moment but don't forget the impact of the Karen White case. He showed the entire country the cruel outcome of forcing women to accommodate men who call themselves women.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/05/2025 21:02

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 19:26

There's barely a day that goes by where I don't thank my lucky stars for having existed at a young age during the brief window where the UK was only a moderately, rather than intensely, hostile place to exist as a trans person.

I notice Labour still is refusing to release the full stats on harm since treatment was effectively banned for trans young people.

Do you understand that the world does not revolve around trans people?

Seethlaw · 26/05/2025 19:47

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 19:26

There's barely a day that goes by where I don't thank my lucky stars for having existed at a young age during the brief window where the UK was only a moderately, rather than intensely, hostile place to exist as a trans person.

I notice Labour still is refusing to release the full stats on harm since treatment was effectively banned for trans young people.

Oh please 😂 ! A country where you can get a GRC on simple request, and gender-affirming surgeries fully funded by the NHS, is not in any way "intensely hostile".

TheOtherRaven · 26/05/2025 19:35

'Hostile' being in actual fact women's rights, child safeguarding and medical ethics.

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 19:26

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/05/2025 17:34

Given that your surgery is irreversible, it's just as well you don't regret it.

That doesn't mean that younger vulnerable people shouldn't be spared your fate.

There's barely a day that goes by where I don't thank my lucky stars for having existed at a young age during the brief window where the UK was only a moderately, rather than intensely, hostile place to exist as a trans person.

I notice Labour still is refusing to release the full stats on harm since treatment was effectively banned for trans young people.

TheOtherRaven · 26/05/2025 18:29

What a lot of drama and hyperbole.

Women and lesbians are able to say no to men. That's it. That's all.

WallaceinAnderland · 26/05/2025 18:06

Transpeople have not been banned from anything.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/05/2025 17:34

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 17:25

Waiting lists for sex reassignment surgery are up to a life sentence in length already. That is a vanishingly small window of opportunity for anyone who isn't rich or didn't transition a long time ago when the NHS was functionally able to provide trans healthcare.

The Telegraph ran an article the other day calling for all gender-affirming surgery to be banned. This seems to be a major new direction of travel for the 'I just have reasonable concerns' brigade now that they have blocked and then banned treatment for trans youth, are halfway through banning treatment for adults, have effectively banned trans people from public and workplace single sex facilities, have sabotaged the provision for full legal recognition required by the UK's adherence to the EU's human rights conventions via the back door, and are now openly pouring millions into anti-trans legal funds.

It seems likely that for the vast majority of trans people in the UK, this will not be an option. I am counting my lucky stars that I was able to get treatment decades ago at a young age, before reactionary anti-trans activism gained such a devastating foothold on our politics and healthcare systems.

Who knows - we may have used the same toilets before. Prior to the 2017 strategic pivot by the evangelist far right in the US away from gay marriage and toward trans rights, which started flooding the UK's tiny anti-trans activism scene with influence and funding, very few people had been radicalised toward a mindset that would drive them to actively seek out and target trans people. It's a desperately sad state of affairs that we find ourselves in today.

Some seek to blame Theresa May's pledge to consult on GRA reform; that certainly seems to have served as a rallying call that united the far right with otherwise left-leaning anti-trans strains of feminism, and gave the movement its current momentum.

I'm not so sure, though - I think the post-GRA reform consultation surge was a symptom, rather than a cause.

I hope we can move on from the ridiculous EHRC overstep that sees trans people effectively segregated from the rest of the population, exiled from male and female facilities and trapped in a constant prison of fear and uncertainty just for trying to live their lives in the safest way possible for them. It has brought immense confusion and harm already to so many, and is drawing intense international scrutiny and abject horror in many cases - including from the UN itself.

Given that your surgery is irreversible, it's just as well you don't regret it.

That doesn't mean that younger vulnerable people shouldn't be spared your fate.

ButterflyHatched · 26/05/2025 17:25

Confusedpleaseeducateme · 23/05/2025 19:46

Pardon my ignorance. But can anyone help? Genuine question. Just a NC

I say that I'm GC as I don't believe you can change sex. However I strongly believe you should go where your genitals match. E. G. If you've COMPLETELY transitioned then use that toilet.
By all means say you're a different gender (and I'll just roll my eyes internally) but personally I don't have a problem if a true TW uses the ladies facilities. I just don't want to share female spaces with a penis!

I don't believe TWAW. I believe they are TW.

Does that make sense? Please be gentle... First time posting on this board but been reading a long time but don't recall seeing anyone saying anything about this? But I could just be being dull... Menopausal brain!

Waiting lists for sex reassignment surgery are up to a life sentence in length already. That is a vanishingly small window of opportunity for anyone who isn't rich or didn't transition a long time ago when the NHS was functionally able to provide trans healthcare.

The Telegraph ran an article the other day calling for all gender-affirming surgery to be banned. This seems to be a major new direction of travel for the 'I just have reasonable concerns' brigade now that they have blocked and then banned treatment for trans youth, are halfway through banning treatment for adults, have effectively banned trans people from public and workplace single sex facilities, have sabotaged the provision for full legal recognition required by the UK's adherence to the EU's human rights conventions via the back door, and are now openly pouring millions into anti-trans legal funds.

It seems likely that for the vast majority of trans people in the UK, this will not be an option. I am counting my lucky stars that I was able to get treatment decades ago at a young age, before reactionary anti-trans activism gained such a devastating foothold on our politics and healthcare systems.

Who knows - we may have used the same toilets before. Prior to the 2017 strategic pivot by the evangelist far right in the US away from gay marriage and toward trans rights, which started flooding the UK's tiny anti-trans activism scene with influence and funding, very few people had been radicalised toward a mindset that would drive them to actively seek out and target trans people. It's a desperately sad state of affairs that we find ourselves in today.

Some seek to blame Theresa May's pledge to consult on GRA reform; that certainly seems to have served as a rallying call that united the far right with otherwise left-leaning anti-trans strains of feminism, and gave the movement its current momentum.

I'm not so sure, though - I think the post-GRA reform consultation surge was a symptom, rather than a cause.

I hope we can move on from the ridiculous EHRC overstep that sees trans people effectively segregated from the rest of the population, exiled from male and female facilities and trapped in a constant prison of fear and uncertainty just for trying to live their lives in the safest way possible for them. It has brought immense confusion and harm already to so many, and is drawing intense international scrutiny and abject horror in many cases - including from the UN itself.

Arran2024 · 26/05/2025 10:25

clappydays · 26/05/2025 07:49

I understand the point you’re trying to make OP. I have an acquaintance (friend of a friend) who’s a trans man but accepts still being biologically female. Absolutely looks the part, very masculine and if my friend hadn’t told me, I genuinely would not have known. If this person now starts using the female toilets, that’s going to cause a scene as most women will assume, based on external appearances that said person is male.

I 100% support the ruling but I can also see how it will create side issues too.

Well this person will no doubt keep using the gents. We can't police every single toilet and everyone who enters. If they magically pass, they are likely to get away with it, partly because men are not so bothered about women in their spaces. But they could be stopped eg in a work environment.

Helleofabore · 26/05/2025 10:05

As has been pointed out already on this thread, just because a male person has no penis to rape with that doesn’t mean that they cannot commit other sex offences including sexual assault, and it doesn’t mean they have lost their male physical advantage including grip strength and punch power.

With grip strength and punch power alone, ie not even considering height and arm length, why is any person trying to dismiss female people’s need to have space away from these male people.

There is no evidence that criminality is reduced to the level of a female person or even below the level of a male person. Yet people have this false perception that this group of male people don’t pose a risk because they cannot commit rape.

It is fallacious thinking that is based in falsehoods and misinformation.

JeremiahBullfrog · 26/05/2025 10:04

A very large proportion of male violence, including violence against women, does not involve the use of the penis.

Talulahalula · 26/05/2025 09:29

clappydays · 26/05/2025 07:49

I understand the point you’re trying to make OP. I have an acquaintance (friend of a friend) who’s a trans man but accepts still being biologically female. Absolutely looks the part, very masculine and if my friend hadn’t told me, I genuinely would not have known. If this person now starts using the female toilets, that’s going to cause a scene as most women will assume, based on external appearances that said person is male.

I 100% support the ruling but I can also see how it will create side issues too.

The problem here lies in the existing law (because the EA 2010 is not new) being misinterpreted by lobby groups, because your acquaintance who accepts being biologically female should never have been using opposite sex facilities. The side issue is resolved by them saying they are female in the (probably unlikely) scenario they are challenged, or using a single space closed door bathroom in eg Costa.

TheOtherRaven · 26/05/2025 08:20

Is kindness, tolerance and indulging of this behaviour reducing it, or escalating it and normalising it towards women, based on the evidence of that one particular well known face and voice for the lobby?

Who incidentally performed a few days ago for Surrey Pride, the founder of which is awaiting sentencing for child rape, plus one other member of staff, is currently awaiting sentencing for pedophilia offences.

The police stood there and watched this man out on licence make open threats of violence.

RedToothBrush · 26/05/2025 08:10

ArabellaScott · 24/05/2025 09:10

When it comes to the 'men who've had their penis removed' argument I think Sarah Jane Baker is a good example.

SJB was in prison for kidnap, torture, and attempted murder. He castrated himself while inside and claims to have eaten his own balls. He was recently recalled after calling for trans activists to punch feminists 'in the fucking face'.

This man should not be sharing spaces with any women.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5342120-sarah-jane-baker-leads-topless-protest-in-london-and-threatens-named-women?page=1

To add. This same bloke has been making threats to harm individual women (who he names) which theoretically is against his parole conditions.

His behaviour is getting more and more concerning.

Sarah Jane Baker leads topless protest in London, and threatens named women | Mumsnet

Another topless protest today. SJB with a megaphone: 'JK Rowling - be afraid of us - Kellie Jay Keen - be afraid' '...you will reap what you sow, a...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5342120-sarah-jane-baker-leads-topless-protest-in-london-and-threatens-named-women?page=1

GailBlancheViola · 26/05/2025 08:03

@Confusedpleaseeducateme sharing a link to this thread, the person speaking is someone you would describe as having made the effort and removed their genitals (by their own hand whilst in prison).

Answer honestly please - would you really have no problem sharing ladies facilities with this person? One who is inciting violence against named women?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5342120-sarah-jane-baker-leads-topless-protest-in-london-and-threatens-named-women

Sarah Jane Baker leads topless protest in London, and threatens named women | Mumsnet

Another topless protest today. SJB with a megaphone: 'JK Rowling - be afraid of us - Kellie Jay Keen - be afraid' '...you will reap what you sow, a...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5342120-sarah-jane-baker-leads-topless-protest-in-london-and-threatens-named-women

clappydays · 26/05/2025 07:49

I understand the point you’re trying to make OP. I have an acquaintance (friend of a friend) who’s a trans man but accepts still being biologically female. Absolutely looks the part, very masculine and if my friend hadn’t told me, I genuinely would not have known. If this person now starts using the female toilets, that’s going to cause a scene as most women will assume, based on external appearances that said person is male.

I 100% support the ruling but I can also see how it will create side issues too.

Helleofabore · 26/05/2025 07:16

NecessaryScene · 26/05/2025 06:55

is it not in the wrong place?

Correct! Gold star.

Or at least in a different place - an ardent genderist would start a spiel on how there are no wrong places and every woman is different.

Actually, here's a real example of that from Reddit I saw the other day.

Ewww!!!

Helleofabore · 26/05/2025 07:15

andtheworldrollson · 23/05/2025 22:29

Since the vast majority or transwomen are not surgically changed - it would be interesting to see if the prison stats see a behaviour difference between completed surgical transition and the standard transistioner - but that needs data which people are keen to avoid collecting

Indeed they seem keen to avoid collating this data. I read Alex Massie’s article the other day where he points out that Scottish Prisons are going to release numbers of male people in female prisons. all the while there IS male prisoners in female prisons despite the clarification of the law.