Women's rights general conversations - Thread 10

Yes, seen that clip many times. Experts, what do they know, eh? 🙄

I'm quite shocked by this - Professor Lord Winston appears to have been quietly cancelled by the BBC after he said clearly on Question Time that you cannot change sex:

https://x.com/SoniaRGallego/status/2006892118371897431

Such nonsense.

Apparently West Side Story's classification has been changed from PG to 12. The headlines I've seen are a bit click-baity, saying it's because of transphobia. It's not just that there's cigarettes too. What caught my attention is there's a minor character, originally a tomboy, called Anybodys who is now a transman. No argument, that's what she is. She feels manly, oh so manly

Ha, the Mrs His Name offenders, all men, have been in touch. They're very sorry, they simply didn't think about it (typical!) and please will I put away the big stick I'm brandishing at them. Good, now don't do it again.

I was thinking either sludge or khaki. Sludge having a slightly greener tinge. Bearing in mind that khaki is generic North African for shit. It has travelled into English as "Bugger! I've just kacked myself."

Khaki.

On the Today programme too, in the last 15 min (of course).

https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m002ntt7

Wow - a reasonably balanced BBC article, not pretending it's a one-off, and even giving a halfway decent explanation of what GC means. It must be Christmas!

One of the top stories on the BBC News site today. The Family and Education desk may have woken up.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cwyx3y84ln9o

We've had a couple of responses to Mr Veg's email but not from any of those who called me Mrs His Name. I wonder if they'll reply and what will happen with subsequent mail.

It is not the correct etiquette.

Divorced women would be referred to as Mrs Herfirstname Hissurname to distinguish them from widows or wives (Mrs Hisfirstname Hissurname) So you could know who to shun and also not to invite the ex husband.

It is utterly ridiculous.

My DM and godmother both address cards to me as Mrs Myrtle Lion (Walrus), when I have been Ms Myrtle Lion all my life. We made a joke at the wedding (2 years ago) that because we share a syllable (like Fordham and Mitford) we should become Fordford. Some people took us seriously 🤣 But I would prefer that to having anything but my name.

Brown?

Sadly the colour would have been much less pleasant than purple!

The email has been sent.

You must have been a little tempted to change to Mr and Mrs Purple.

Congratulations @Vegemiteandhoneyontoast

Commiserations to everyone with surname and title issues. With being shacked up rather than wed, has come in handy. I'd pick up the phone and some salesbod would ask if i was Mrs Fella. I could quite honestly say that was fella's mum and she didn't live here. Call over. Now i leave the machine to deal with it.

I like my wife's surname better than mine but I kept mine to honour my adoptive dad, who gave it to me. Wife kept her dad's name and DD has it too. We put my surname as a second middle name (not double barrelled) in case of questions when we travel together without her mum.

It hasn't really come up, but we thought better safe than sorry!

Mr Veg has drafted out an email to be sent to all his family and shown it to me. Essentially, it says 'Oy, you lot! What do you think you're doing?!'. We'll see what happens but neither of us are having this misogynist bullshit.

Congrats on the marriage but I feel your and others’ pain over the name and title business. I only changed to Mr PSB’s name because it was so much nicer than my name, though a lot longer to write.

Before I met Mr PSB my boyfriend had the same surname as me, and it’s not a common name at all. Even more strangely, we met at a party in the house of the someone with the same name. apart from them and members of my family I’ve never met anyone else with that name. Your colourful names and connections are amusing Brit.

At my first wedding in 1971, both of us had surnames that were a colour. Think Miss Pink marrying Mr Blue. Given that his dad was a painter and decorator and mine worked for a paint manufacturer, you can imagine the jokes at the wedding. I changed my name because it would have been too weird to double-barrel them, I liked his colour better than mine, and it’s all some man’s surname anyway, innit? After he died and I remarried, I changed it again because it just felt unkind to keep one man’s surname while I was getting married to another, but obviously two of my DC were adults anyway and DC3 was mid teens, so they just kept their dad’s surname. I’ve got used to this one now though since I’ve had it for over 23 years.

Heh, I am so dim, when I read your announcement, @Vegemiteandhoneyontoast , I somehow didn't twig that that was recent. So, congratulations! 🍾

I send Christmas cards addressed to First name and First name and most cards that we recieve are addressed the same way. This has involved a little nudging but it seems to work.

Many congrats, @Vegemiteandhoneyontoast and MrVegemite. May all those misnaming you have a permanent itch in their armpits.

@Kucinghitam I am furious on your behalf - the name is bad enough but you earned that title.

@YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan, not only is that rude and deeply insensitive, I'm pretty sure it's also incorrect even under the old-fashioned 'rules'. After divorce I believe you should at least get your own initial back.

After making your feelings clear, I don't think YWBU to say, OK, any mail thus addressed will go straight in the bin, unopened, @YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan .

JFC @YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan that is so insulting, I'm not surprised it pisses you off. I'm pissed off on your behalf.