Would you ever consider a transman a man?

Biological sex is absolutely fundamental to sexual attraction. For bi people, too.

We aren't formless miasmas wearing clothing. We aren't Ken or Barbie dolls.

We are mammals; male or female. The species is perpetuated by sexual reproduction, its pretty unsurprising that we learn to classify by sex for that reason alone, before we even get into all the other reasons we learn to differentiate between the sexes.

How is it we've got to 2026 and this most basic of simple fact has become something that people are coy about?

I suppose humans have long been able to confuse themselves with their big overcomplex brains.

'appearance has far less to do with attraction than charisma.'

Well, thats a strange assertion to make!

'Charisma' always makes me think of hypnotists or salesmen.

Most people are attracted primarily and initially on the basis of sex. Its the most basic criteria, after 'alive'. Which is why people specify it first in relevant situations.

Straight women are attracted by

Define “straight women”.

Shouting "homophobia!" at me regardless of what I write is a bit odd, man.

I'm mostly chatting about my weakness for coats & eyebrows at this point 😁

Sorry but your homophobia is disgusting on this thread. It’s absolutely abhorrent that you are trying to deny that homosexuality exists and that gay man should accept females into their dating pool. No gay man is attracted to females. They date men. Smacks very much of the conversion talk of the 80s to me.

Really certain I didn't get off with Roger Moore, but you never know 🤔

Thank you. Very much appreciated.

You just described Roger Moore

Very sorry to hear about your partner’s cancer. Best wishes to you both.

I honestly think you're doing yourself a disservice. Straight women are attracted by exactly the attributes I'm describing.

For example, appearance has far less to do with attraction than charisma. There's also trust - women need to feel safe with a bloke, however they present.

As for Jackie - before my time, and I was probably bombing around on a BMX when the late 80s equivalent was out :)

I'm fine, thank you. Not so much need for confidence at my age. But I wasn't angling for sympathy, I was disagreeing with this: Trans men attract partners by being confident, kind, interesting and sexy, same as everyone else. It sounds like the advice column in Jackie.

Not everyone "attract[s] partners by being confident, kind, interesting and sexy". Thank God, or those of use who are boring and not particularly sexy wouldn't stand a chance!

Sorry to hear it. You should go easier on yourself, I'm sure you're very much loved.

Lack of confidence can blind someone as to why people love them, which is a bad spiral to start. Maybe accept they love you because of who you are?

I can't believe you've dug a post up from 2023
But I'll reply anyway, the post i replied to was talking about butch lesbian and transwomen.

Transwomen are definitely men in skirts or in Islas case pink leggings.

Transmen are not men. They are women on hormones.
I'd say they were women in trousers but really 95% of the female population wear trousers so it needs to be a bit more precise than my men in skirts comment.

Saying people are attracted to others on the basis of confidence etc. is missing the point of sexualities existing at all. To be attracted to someone they have to be a sex you are attracted to to engage your physical sexuality at all, and a personality type that you like to engage your liking. For some that might be brash and confident, others may prefer more humour or modesty, whether attracted to men or women.

If your attraction only depends on personality, that is because you are bisexual - your sexuality doesn't mind what sex the person's body is. For most people, straight or gay, it does mind.

It's amazing I ended up in a (very) long term relationship, considering that (despite being a man) I have had problems with confidence throughout my life and particularly before I married.

Transwomen are men in skirts!

The OP is about trans men. They are not
men in skirts but the opposite: females with short hair, deeper voices, facial hair and possibly male pattern baldness all from taking testosterone; flat chests from binding or mastectomies; and possibly other surgery.

Yes, Arabella. No one should have to accept such abuse just to show people how abusive some extremists get. Quite a few posters had direct responses from that poster.

I'm sorry to anyone who got the brunt of it.

It was literally a repetition of 'die in a ditch' and 'I hope that you are raped'. It was truly vile.

I'm sure you'll be fine. Confidence is everything anyway. The coat amplifies what's already there, it doesn't create :)

Oh, very good! 😂

What aggression? I don't see any at all in the reply you've quoted. Assertive responses are not aggressive.

No single-breasted, I got it on Amazon😂

But is it double breasted, Marie?

I'll get my coat ...