To be disappointed about lack of communication from child’s school?

My school do not use Tapestry beyond Nursery - staff just do not have the time to do this. My grandchild’s school don't use it either. This type of communication takes a long time and does absolutely nothing to enhance the learning of the children. Ask your child what they’ve been doing in school.

Why do you need this?
There was zero communication when we went to school beyond a quick note to parents in a paper diary if there was an issue of some kind. All school news were reported by me during evening mealtimes. Pictures were taken once a year. Teachers' time was actually spent teaching.
Life was simpler for all concerned.

Honestly I think it depends on what school and even down to what teacher or teaching assistant you get to what communication you get.
DS9 has a great teacher this year (same as last year), we get alot of photos and message, information about what is going on etc. But its been really sporadic over the years. DD4 is reception this year and some weeks we get nothing, others lots.
My biggest issue is constant moving goal posts. One week something is scheduled then we get sorry cancelled then something will move time. Or we will get less than 24 hours notice for something. I would much prefer a team calendar of events at the start of term. They do the same things every year so I don't see why they cant do this.

What were you expecting?

We had a reading record book and a home contact book. That was only used for particular issues such as lost items or if my child had misbehaved. Occasionally slips were given out such as harvest festival reminders or class assembly or bring in a (insert random item). There was a half termly school newsletter too.

We sent out newsletter for each class at the start of every term outlining what the children would be learning plus there were whole school newsletters.
With a class of 28 6yos and no PSA I simply didn't have time to take photos and post stuff online to please parents.
Nobody ever complained.

Our school use an app and several days of the week they post about what the kids did or any notable parts about the day. It also includes resources like what phonics they are covering that week and how to sound it out so the parents can practice with the child.
They do a round up of photos about once a week.

I’m not sure I would ask for it if we didn’t already get it though.

It's not nursery.

Admittedly is a big drop in communication from a nursery/pre-school to reception but that's to be expected surely?

What do you really need to know that you can't get out of your child?

I think that teachers have better things to do than managing needy parents with crappy tapestry posts or whatever for 30+ kids.

Why do school need to build a relationship with you? You're not their primary concern.

Are you always this needy?

It’s pretty normal for a primary school to try and foster a relationship and connection between the school and the parents too. This is a really odd comment.

If it's important to you to have more communication with the school, rejig your work schedule to do more drop-offs and pick-ups, or email the teacher for a round up on your child.

I also find this frustrating.

My child is in Y1 now and I am used to it. We have twice yearly parents evenings in which I am told he is underachieving and not meeting the previously undisclosed expectations for his age. In reception, I was very concerned and tried to make follow up meetings to discuss and see how I can help but I have now reluctantly accepted it is futile.

I don't know. Maybe I don't believe that we should normalise constant surveillance. Maybe I don't like the raise in technology and its overuse in general. Maybe I detest micromanagement.
The school is tasked with looking after the kiddo, and I would rather they got on with it without pinging me every 5 minutes. I don't feel the need to update someone on ins and outs of my job and post daily aspirational updates on my patients to their family. I am not sure why I would expect the school to do it for the kiddo. It's just not normal for any other profession (unless SM influencer).
One thing is for a teacher to keep an eye on child's development, the other is to sit down after work to do a tedious task of documenting and circulating it. I'd rather they did more of the former.

I do drop offs and pick ups daily but don’t see the teacher beyond a brief glimpse in the playground.

Surely that relationship builds over time?

Its November.....the child only started in September.....

What are you looking for, reassurance that he's getting on OK, or validation through praise?

Its November....presumably your child started in September....3 months.

How much of a relationship with your pupils parents do you have after 3 months?

I think you’re being ridiculous, teacher or not. If your child is happy and settled and goes off to school each day then it’s job done. I trust the teachers to do what they’re there to do - teach. Any worries or concerns and they will let me know

Totally.

How does it improve the child's education?
It doesn't!!
I'm spending my time and energy on giving your child the best experience possible in my classroom. I'm not working myself into the ground with demands from parents for photo uploads.

You want to know how your kid is doing in class? Schedule a meeting. I'm delighted to meet and speak to parents.
I'm not fannying about with Tapestry and the like.

I think YABU if you see the level of communication used in your school as a norm. As a parent a weekly whole school newsletter was ample.

I wouldn't want weekly personalised information and communications other than someone contacting me if there was a concern or notes in reading records. Generally the number of emails etc coming from schools in 2010s and stuff from apps like Edulink in 2020s at secondary with regard to my DDs was at absolutely insane levels and at times I just wanted to unsubscribe from everything, and would have done but for the 5% of information that was useful. It was another part time job on top of my full time job reading through all that and I'm so glad we're out the other side now.

The level of involvement was crazy compared with what my parents had in the 1980s and 1990s. And while my DM always worked, it was common then to have one parent at home. A wider point is that it just entrenches inequality with the kids between those who have involved parents and those who don't, and no wonder as a society our productivity is low with all this guff that is generated all the time. With AI and apps it's only getting worse 😡

I’d prefer the teachers were actually teaching rather than using up their time on what is essentially box ticking admin.