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To be disappointed about lack of communication from child’s school?

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CoffeeThenMaybe59 · Yesterday 12:39

My child started Reception in September and so far the communication between the school and parents has been next to nothing. We get a little ai made ‘what’s happening next week’ with a brief overview of what they will be learning via Tapestry but that’s it. I was expecting more than this. Their website states they post ‘wow’ moments and my child has been on ‘wow’ three times since starting but I’ve seen none of it. I don’t do many pickups and drop offs either due to work so don’t really see staff. I feel the school have made zero effort to build that relationship with parents that is the baseline going forward. I work in education and my school use Tapestry to send weekly roundups including photos as well as at least one personal post per child a week. Friends with children the same age at different schools get something similar. Parents evening is coming up and I want to mention it but don’t want to be ‘that’ whiny parent. I understand it’s not the same as nursery and there are up to 30 children in a class (24 in my child’s) but this school seems to be the anomaly compared to other schools in the area.

If your child is in reception, how much communication do you get from the school about their learning and what they’ve been up to?

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PopcornKitten · Yesterday 17:14

My experience- reception class with 4 adults. Lots of ‘lovely but unnecessary’ posts home via whatever platform they use.
reception class with 2 adults. Hardly anything.

Moonnstarz · Yesterday 17:22

CoffeeThenMaybe59 · Yesterday 13:35

Personal as it not whole class. Might be part of a smaller group for example. We have 20 in each class with two adults per class though so I appreciate this may be unusual and not to the extent I’d expect from all schools.

I think this might be the difference. Our school has at least 30 per class with 1 teacher and mostly a TA (they might also be asked to help in year 1). There are several children with 1:1s so there will appear to be lots of adults, but they might not be readily available depending on the needs of the child they are watching
This means that teachers don't have time to stop and talk at the door as they need to be dismissing other children. Generally TAs hang on out of good will, but I am paid til 3.30 which is also when school ends so maybe your school has TAs who go when their time ends, so the teacher is not able to chat.
I don't know what our teachers do in terms of posts but it's definitely not a personalised message! They send out something at the end of the week to summarise what learning has taken place..photos became controversial as some parents complained if their child never appeared so maybe teachers feel is best not to add any.

BoredZelda · Yesterday 17:34

Careful what you wish for. They’ve been back two weeks since the October break and I’ve had 11 emails from the school. Thankfully she is in 6th year so not much longer to put up with the deluge.

OutOfTheOtherSide · Yesterday 22:58

Catza · Yesterday 12:45

Why do you need this?
There was zero communication when we went to school beyond a quick note to parents in a paper diary if there was an issue of some kind. All school news were reported by me during evening mealtimes. Pictures were taken once a year. Teachers' time was actually spent teaching.
Life was simpler for all concerned.

This! When I went to school, you had one Parent's evening and one school report (a single A4 sized page of a hand written report) per year. What else do you need? Surely teachers should be teaching not faffing around telling parents how brilliant/shit their drawing of a dog is.

It's no wonder teachers are working so many hours these days. It's utterly ridiculous. They'll tell you if there's a problem. No news is good news. Stop interfering!

zoeslim · Today 08:19

CoffeeThenMaybe59 · Yesterday 13:07

Nothing to do with praise. The ‘wow’ comment was based off of what their website states. Why wouldn’t a parent want an insight into their child’s week? It’s 30+ plus hours of their time away from you.

Teachers do not have time to send messages to every parents about their kid
They have lives as well

zoeslim · Today 08:23

CoffeeThenMaybe59 · Yesterday 14:45

Part of building that relationship is on the door yes. I also mentioned phone calls and messages sent home too.. or did we just choose to ignore that part and continue with your passive aggressive reply? And please tell me where I said “they must build a rapor”?? I said that it’s important to build a home/school relationship and have an example of what we do...
I have literally stated that this is what I know to be standard around here, hence why I’m posting.

You expect a teacher to visit your home to talk about your kid
And to ring the parents of 30 kids once week
and send emails
OMG
Entitlement off the Richter scale
Absolutely insane

PollyBell · Today 08:25

zoeslim · Today 08:19

Teachers do not have time to send messages to every parents about their kid
They have lives as well

Exactly, i wanted to know from my child how their day?or week is and fron the teachers if they had an issue or needed to tell me something

I want teachers to spend their time teaching as aint that the point of them? If parents want that much detail home school (or whatever new buzz word is being used these days) teachers are not parents PAs

SmashThePatriarchy · Today 08:27

Have you ever had to teach a class of 30 young people? Taking pictures and uploading them to apps is not a priority. Equally, some students will not have photo consent. I actually don’t agree that photos should be sent across an app to 60+ people to screenshot and send to whoever they want too. Children deserve privacy too.

CoffeeThenMaybe59 · Today 17:45

zoeslim · Today 08:23

You expect a teacher to visit your home to talk about your kid
And to ring the parents of 30 kids once week
and send emails
OMG
Entitlement off the Richter scale
Absolutely insane

Need to work on your reading comprehension. Never said this.

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CoffeeThenMaybe59 · Today 17:46

SmashThePatriarchy · Today 08:27

Have you ever had to teach a class of 30 young people? Taking pictures and uploading them to apps is not a priority. Equally, some students will not have photo consent. I actually don’t agree that photos should be sent across an app to 60+ people to screenshot and send to whoever they want too. Children deserve privacy too.

Yes, it’s my job.
Parents can opt out of photos. You have to sign to say you’re happy for photos to be taken so that’s up to parents

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Marycontrarygarden · Today 17:49

ratheralotofnonsense · Yesterday 13:03

I do drop offs and pick ups daily but don’t see the teacher beyond a brief glimpse in the playground.

Because they are busy!!!

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