Christmas Gift Rejection

That's a great Christmas spirit your sister has there.

I'd give her sweet FA.

Thank you. You've put my exact thought down very succinctly.

Christmas gifts are the givers choice. Not an ordering service.

It’s been a difficult few weeks ( very sick dog) and my grown up twins birthday was this weekend. I ordered my daughter a birthday cake and her response was a text saying a strange gift as she doesn’t really eat cake.
my son ( with some justification I guess) told me he’s not keen on cheese but his partner would eat the gift from a deli.
i feel like saying just swap now and I won’t bother next time.
i don’t live close by and don’t see them often.
I really tried to send something at least to show I cared.

If your sister is so busy during the next 18 months, get a packet of permanent markers and note saying - save yourself some time and money. Drawn your own tattoo

I’d love that gift. She’s ungrateful. Get her nothing!

I have a ‘tramp stamp’ and I’m not offended by that.

Of course it is normal to try to get someone something they like - and I think your idea was really thoughtful op - but I find it super weird these days the way people seem to think they are "entitled" to stipulate what they want.

There are often threads with ops saying their MIL has not followed the instructions for what to buy the dc and gone totally off piste (basically giving what they had chosen for the child).

That is how a gift works: the giver chooses and you get given what they choose. For lots of reasons they might not want to get what you have instructed them to get; you get to spend your own money on that!

I recently bought a wedding gift for a couple - really thoughtful I felt - and gave it to a family member who was travelling to location of the wedding quite some weeks in advance to make a holiday of it. After I had bought it and sent it off with them, the couple announced they wanted cash for their honeymoon. I just thought oh well, the gift is en route now and took no notice, but they actually commented when the family member handed it across that it was disappointing to have a gift not the cash. I never got a thank you! I think it is super rude - luckily so rude DH and I were able to laugh about it!

Good grief how old is she, 12? She deserves diddly squat, for ever 🤨

Your mum is at fault here for opening her mouth. I would certainly not be buying her anything and would tell her I dont
expext anything from her either. Her DP
can get her a tattoo

I think its a lovely thoughtful gift and your sister is incredibly rude and entitled.

I would split her share of the vouchers between your other siblings and gift her a pack of stick on tattoos. 🤣

People’s behaviour disgusts me. What an ungrateful and rude response.

How are their finances set up? Perhaps he pays for the cinema and she doesn't have a lot of personal spending money?
Before you said that they go on date nights to the cinema I would have said YABU, there very little that I want to see on the big screen and other people spoil it. I don't understand giving vouchers, instead of cash.

Very rude !
I was given a set of steak knives (DH and I are vegetarian , the gift giver knows this !)
They were possibly a recycled gift .

I did wonder if they were angling for a dinner invitation or just wanted to offload something .
They were recycled to the Charity Shop but I wasn;t rude enough to say WTF - can you buy me a box of Hotel Chocolat instead?

Keep thr tickets , enjoy a film.
Maybe a bar of (carbolic) nice soap to wash her filthy mouth out !

I'd send her a photo of yourself in the cinema with a box of popcorn. Enjoy your date night OP! Even as a toddler I learned if kicked off like this I ended up with nothing.

Lol, apart from being a vegetarian, who on earth thinks steak knives are a present?! What next, a new laundry basket? :)

New laundry basket would've been more useful TBH

😆😎!

Yeah tell her not to get you anything and she can spend that money on her tattoo. You use the cinema vouchers.

Perhaps the latest John Lewis ad is being so heavily criticised because it’s so near the truth it hurts.

Why would your mother tell your sister your Christmas gifts though - perhaps you should give her a “chocolate coated wooden spoon”

Well, she has been clear about what she wants. Has she not been coping with life lately? Is this some sort of cry for help, or is such bluntness usual?

Would calling her bluff work? Can you explain you are pretty devastated she doesn't want your gift when she knows you can't afford to change the gift? So, does she want to make it her gift to you, and she can keep the cash she planned to spend on you and call it done? Credit to my mum for that idea.

I wonder if she would still want the gift if you made her wait until you can afford it? I cant wrap my head around it. (sorry for edit hit enter too soon)

I suppose if you saw them more often you'd know which doesn't like cake and which doesn't like cheese.
At least you tried! Maybe next year a balloon!

Hope the doggy is on the mend? Fingers crossed.

Far too generous !

What a rude bitch. Give her nothing, ever again.

So rude. No-one in my life would be openly that rude, so it’s not a society thing. Use the vouchers yourself and get her nothing.

OMG please do this!!! 😂