Christmas Gift Rejection

Pretend that you seriously misunderstood - apologise to her for getting her cinema tickets that she didn't want and give her an envelope instead... containing tickets for the Royal Edinburgh Military Tattoo

Because the 'higher ground' can protect your own arse from the fire.

Anyone with a dysfunctional family knows this. Even if your right its not hard for the drama queen to make life so uncomfortable for everyone that they will turn on the innocent scapegoat.

If they have a 'legitimate' sounding claim to being a victim like 'ellie bought everyone but me a Christmas gift' then you open yourself up as the easy target because people will see you as bad as each other and will be less likely to have your back, you'll likely get 'why didn't you just give her the voucher, why rock the boat' etc...

However if you buy a poundland box of chocolates and they are like 'ellie bought me a gift I didn't like, I told her I didn't want it and wouldn't use it so she just gave me cheap chocolate instead' then its much harder to turn people as she just sounds incredibly rude, childish and ungrateful and you are the wonderful person putting up with their insanity.

I'd cellotape a pound coin into a Christmas card and say "For your tattoo, Merry Christmas".

God OP she sounds so ungrateful and rude, keep the vouchers for yourself and give her absolutely nothing, I would be livid if either mine or my partner’s sibling reacted like this (they wouldn’t in a million years) and they wouldn’t be getting a present ever again!

How rude. Your sister clearly doesn't understand that gifting isn't an ordering service. I'd give her her gift as you had planned as you've already bought it and not bother going forward.

Don’t give it another thought, except to decide you are keeping the voucher. Rudeness like that is beneath contempt and need not bother your conscience at all.
I certainly wouldn’t spend five minutes in her company at any Christmas bash this year. Who needs that negative energy, any time of the year?

Give her a pack of temporary tattoos and a kick in the bracket.

A prime example of how giving presents needs to be dropped.

Oh please…it’s Sunday evening…can’t I end the weekend I am light note!

Right well then she gets no gift definitely use it yourself. If someone is going to look a gift horse in the mouth then they do not get to have anything.

This is what happens when people see themselves getting a gift as a given and not, well, a gift! The meaning of gifts has been lost to many… they don’t consider a world where they don’t get any if they’re an arsehole

I'd give her nothing. And if she asks you why, tell her to fuck off!

YANBU, your sister sounds rude and incredibly ungrateful. I’d love cinema vouchers - what a great present idea!

Don’t get her anything else.

’Tramp stamp’ made me laugh. Chill out…

Id be sending a message to all siblings. That after X attitude over gifts, you wont be buying siblinga gifts anymore.

I think it was a nice gift and your sister is being very rude. It is up to the giver to choose the gift!! Well done for opting for an experience they can share!
We had cinema vouchers from a relative one year and we were delighted.

Yep! I’d like to see them but it doesn’t happen. Maybe I just stop trying

@ellie09
I'd ditch the bitch
And give her absolutely nothing at all
She's an ungrateful greedy moomoo
And deserves nothing for her ingratitude
Also would announce that from now on
I'm not doing presents as far as she's concerned anymore and
Let her buy her own tacky tramp stamp
But one thing I want to know
Is why did your mother say anything??
I'd be having a word with her too

@ellie09 absolutely have them for yourself and DH. There’s always some releases over the festive period, so you should now look forward to a night out just the two of you, courtesy of your ‘ungrateful’ sister.

Tell her to buy her own fecking tattoo. Piss taker!
And have a word with your mum too, big mouth!

Sister wanting a tattoo tells you all you need to know, she's a chav, give her nothing.

I'd give the pair of tickets to her partner and in the Christmas card tell him that he should feel free to take whoever he wants with him as your sister says she's no time to join him!

Yes, I'd use this as the perfect opportunity to end gift-swapping with your incredibly rude sister. As a PP said, tell her you'll just use the voucher yourself and she can spend whatever she'd have spent for you and your partner however she sees fit. Life's too short for all this drama, and I'd wouldn't feel like she's worth giving a gift again, so I'd suggest simplifying life by just stopping the gift exchange altogether.

Perfect 👌

What's the point of adults gifting each other cash? You give her £25 and she gives you the same back is just pointless.

TBH I see quite a bit of it on here, especially with presents for Grandchildren. and pps saying the grandparents are being "passive aggressive" by not following the approved lists for gifts.

Actually yeah..... maybe just the chocolate Santa for the partner. Why should he miss out on a pressie 😂