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A Covid One

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Goldengirl123 · 05/11/2026 18:32

AIBU to expect people to still test for Covid? We saw some friend's at the pub who had bad colds. I now have Covid. They didn’t test because they believe that Covid is just another cold. They didn’t mention that. I have low immunity and I’ve been really unwell with it all week. I’m annoyed with them. I feel it’s inconsiderate. They were selfish to go out. Other people are now getting it. One of our friends is having chemo.

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WhateverMate · 05/11/2026 18:34

Did you kiss them, hug them or share the same glass or did they sneeze on you or something?

I manage to work every day with the general public who have all sorts of ailments, and manage to rarely catch anything.

littlefriendsausage · 05/11/2026 18:36

You'll get no joy on Mumsnet. Majority are in the "it's just a cold" camp.
I'm with you but we're a dwindling group.

Coffeekat · 05/11/2026 18:36

Tbf if you have a problem with your immunity then even a cold has the potential to make you very ill and you need to protect yourself when you go out, because nobody else will, and I speak as someone who is immune compromised.

moonraker0 · 05/11/2026 18:37

There’s all sorts of viruses going around at this time of year so if you are immune compromised or having chemotherapy you risk catching something if you visit places such as pubs.

JulietteRoche · 05/11/2026 18:37

Good luck with that. I don't know anyone who has tested since 2021.

JulietteRoche · 05/11/2026 18:38

littlefriendsausage · 05/11/2026 18:36

You'll get no joy on Mumsnet. Majority are in the "it's just a cold" camp.
I'm with you but we're a dwindling group.

If you're worried, the onus is on you to wear a heavy duty mask or to limit socialising. You can't expect people to still be fussing five years after the fact!

bababamama · 05/11/2026 18:38

i don’t think people have tests these days unless they are very vulnerable. I have a cold, I’m still going to work, going out and about. I get a lot of colds, life doesn’t stop.

BIWI · 05/11/2026 18:40

Have you kept your vaccinations up-do-date if you have low immunity @Goldengirl123?

moonraker0 · 05/11/2026 18:40

littlefriendsausage · 05/11/2026 18:36

You'll get no joy on Mumsnet. Majority are in the "it's just a cold" camp.
I'm with you but we're a dwindling group.

OP says herself that her friends had bad colds so what’s the other camp that is the opposite of “it’s just a cold”?

SquirrelGG · 05/11/2026 18:41

JulietteRoche · 05/11/2026 18:37

Good luck with that. I don't know anyone who has tested since 2021.

I have a bad cold and did two tests last week.

Coconutter24 · 05/11/2026 18:41

If they had bad colds when you met them and you have low immunity, wouldn’t the onus be on you to remove yourself?

PaisleyElephant · 05/11/2026 18:43

Maybe not necessarily test for COVID, but it's bad form to go out with colds/any infectious illness to socialise with others and spread their germs all around.

I am in the camp of if you are ill (infectious) you stay away from others. I WFH, don't socialise, but will do outdoor things like walk the dog if I am unwell. It's just basic consideration for other people.

CurdinHenry · 05/11/2026 18:43

I think it's shit to socialise when feeling sick - a cold can kill someone on chemo. Sadly we didn't learn anything during COVID it was all smug masks and shouting two metres.

Italiangreyhound · 05/11/2026 18:44

@Goldengirl123

I am so sorry. i think people should still be testing and the NHS should still be offering the vaccine free to all.

Sadly, as a country I feel we do not learn.

I hope you get well soon.

WhateverMate · 05/11/2026 18:44

Anyone with low immunity or having chemo would be mad to go to a pub at this time of year.

Not so much in the Summer with outside seating.

Especially considering Covid and many other illnesses are infectious before symptoms even appear.

NestofVapers · 05/11/2026 18:46

I don't test but I wouldn't go out with a bad cold either. Especially if I had a friend going through chemo

HappyViewer · 05/11/2026 18:46

You could have caught it from anyone? Are you wearing a mask?

Mumsntfan1 · 05/11/2026 18:46

I think it's on you to let friends know you don't want to meet up when they're unwell. I'm sure they will understand. I don't think you can tell them not to go out or make them do tests.

DirtyGertiefromno30 · 05/11/2026 18:46

The nurse in the surgery told me she had COVID when she took my blood this week. She had a mask on and washed her hands , she offered for me to cancel but l just carried on . My Dd2 had a cold last week then she tested and was positive to COVID . None of us have caught it so far, so good. Ppl seem to be carrying on working and going out as you would with a cold tbh.

Arbourimage · 05/11/2026 18:47

Yes YABVU.

PurpleLovecats · 05/11/2026 18:47

It was unfair of them to go if they know you are immunocompromised and didn’t warn you.

I didn’t even know you could still get
tests though!

LibraRising · 05/11/2026 18:50

Did you leave the moment you realised they had colds?

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Goldengirl123 · 05/11/2026 18:51

BIWI · 05/11/2026 18:40

Have you kept your vaccinations up-do-date if you have low immunity @Goldengirl123?

Yes I have so it could have been worse

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enamel200 · 05/11/2026 18:51

JulietteRoche · 05/11/2026 18:37

Good luck with that. I don't know anyone who has tested since 2021.

Agree.

No one tests for flu, which can also be a killer.

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Goldengirl123 · 05/11/2026 18:51

Coconutter24 · 05/11/2026 18:41

If they had bad colds when you met them and you have low immunity, wouldn’t the onus be on you to remove yourself?

They came in with colds

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