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Husband wants us to move to Utah!

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Frenchcroissant · 16/09/2023 21:03

So, my husband has been offered an opportunity to move to Utah and work there 1 to 3 years. He's very excited about it. Me and two DDS ( 7 and 12) to and fro, sometimes excited sometimes nervous/reluctant. I'm freaking out!! We've literally just bought a house in May. I won't be able to work there. Is it an adventure/opportunity or a complete mad move? I haven't told anyone in real life, but I'm quite nervous/anxious about it. AIBU to freak out??

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MartinChuzzlewit · 16/09/2023 21:04

Where in Utah?

ZekeZeke · 16/09/2023 21:05

Where do you currently live?

Mum2jenny · 16/09/2023 21:05

Not a chance imo. Let him go on his own.

RhiWrites · 16/09/2023 21:06

That is alarming. Utah is alarming. It is full of Mormons. I would not go there.

JanesBlond · 16/09/2023 21:07

Are you into the outdoors? Utah has 5 national parks and they’re all stunning. You can ski in winter too.

Sounds like an amazing adventure and if you don’t like it, it’s not too long until you come back. What industry does your DH work in? I want mine to do this 😆

GladAllOver · 16/09/2023 21:08

As you know, you won't be able to work yourself on his working visa.
If it's really only 1-3 years, could you stay here and they pay for visit flights each way?

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Frenchcroissant · 16/09/2023 21:08

We would be moving to Park City, I think. We are in Dorset ATM.

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Noicant · 16/09/2023 21:08

I’d go, why not, you only live once.

meganorks · 16/09/2023 21:08

I don't think I would like to go to be honest. America is an absolute shit show! I dont' think I would like to go anywhere in the states to be honest, but the only thing Utah is famous for is Mormons! I'm not sure what is in it for you and the kids.

Iseethesilverlining · 16/09/2023 21:09

Fabulous opportunity, go for it! You can rent out your house and your children will have an amazing experience to look back on, and have a different view of the world.

AnotherCountryMummy · 16/09/2023 21:09

Could you short term rent your house out as a back-up and try it? If you don't like it, then come home? Could be fun. But equally could be shite.

JanesBlond · 16/09/2023 21:09

There are Mormons in the U.K. too. They are very polite.

terrichild · 16/09/2023 21:09

Go,go,go. America is a great place and anyway if you hate it you can come back! You won’t though. I’ve lived in the states due to a job and was very sorry to come back!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 16/09/2023 21:09

I don’t think I’d fancy Utah to be honest. Or going anywhere as a dependent spouse.

SunnyFrost · 16/09/2023 21:09

Are you LDS? That will surely have a LOT of influence on how you would find living in Utah. If you’re not, I would be very, very cautious.

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Frenchcroissant · 16/09/2023 21:10

Well the thing is that I'm not English, so I said to him that as long as I can go back home with the girls every summer as we do now it would be fine....but having second thoughts now as it is sooo far away..

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Frenchcroissant · 16/09/2023 21:10

Sorry, what's LDS?

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SaveFerris1 · 16/09/2023 21:10

Lived in park city for 2 ski seasons, had the best time and the Mormons were very polite and nice!

MartinChuzzlewit · 16/09/2023 21:10

We lived in America for a while to try it out, similar circumstances. Don’t be surprised at how different American culture is and how they really aren’t like Brits. I also worried about getting ill or being injured.

Park City isn’t far from Salt Lake City Which is gorgeous but has a majority Mormon community, I’m not sure about Park City but I think it would be hard to make friends in that community if you’re not Mormon

Cazzovuoi · 16/09/2023 21:10

America is not safe for women.

You couldn’t pay me to visit, let alone live there.

Gilead Lite.

MartinChuzzlewit · 16/09/2023 21:11

Frenchcroissant · 16/09/2023 21:10

Sorry, what's LDS?

Mormons

Ikeepmybumcheekshidden · 16/09/2023 21:11

Look up the laws in Utah! Or lack of laws. Very alarming. I've travelled across the US previously and I've lived there and to be honest, I won’t be setting foot there again until a LOT changes. My child won't be either.

TicTacNicNak · 16/09/2023 21:11

I think I'd be concerned about it disrupting the DCs schooling and friendship groups. If you're there 3yrs your eldest will be in her GCSE year on her return. Do they have British schools (assuming you're from GB) where they can follow the same curriculum?

JanesBlond · 16/09/2023 21:11

LDS = Latter Day Saints, the official name for Mormons

feralunderclass · 16/09/2023 21:11

RhiWrites · 16/09/2023 21:06

That is alarming. Utah is alarming. It is full of Mormons. I would not go there.

What is alarming about Mormons?

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