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Why people smell bad

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Curiouscat101 · 01/09/2023 14:08

I was in town and the smell of BO from the couple standing in front of me in a queue was unreal. I then went into another store and the exact same thing with another person.

These people didn’t appear as ‘down and out’ types. I know you can never tell with people, but surely in this day and age most people apart from the homeless have access to running water to shower or at least wash themselves.

It isn’t a hot day and these people smelled like they hadn’t washed in a week

Why are there people not washing or concerned with how they smell 🤢

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LuckySantangelo35 · 01/09/2023 16:44

teatimenow · 01/09/2023 14:39

I'd rather this than a person stinking of a can of deodorant or aftershave. Why do people put SO much deodorant on ??

@teatimenow

soz you’re on your own there
most people would prefer deodorant smell over BO

D1nopawus · 01/09/2023 16:45

Yep. Washing and drying clothes uses a lot of power, as does heating a house. Damp, unheated houses start to smell.

I agree with this, but as per my earlier post, the culprits are often people who could afford it, but think they are helping the environment.

Mojodojocasahaus · 01/09/2023 16:48

I also think cheap fast fashion is to blame - all those man made plasticy fibres just cling onto smells

Whichwhatnow · 01/09/2023 16:50

I'm pretty sure it's washing clothes at 30 degrees so the BO gets ingrained... plus cheaper clothes are more likely to be synthetic which seems to hold the sweat way more than cotton etc. I used to be a bit stinky sometimes as a teen living at home with a really rubbish washing machine, a mum obsessed with saving water/electric and cheap clothes, despite washing daily. I know it's terrible for the environment etc but since moving into my flat with communal washing machines with a 60 degree setting I have never had any issues

Thepeopleversuswork · 01/09/2023 16:53

Oddly enough, I think well meaning middle class people are often the ones misled as they want perceive themselves as green.

There's definitely a competitive under-washing thing among certain sections of the chattering classes (from which I was raised so I know that of which I speak).

I have some friends who make a point of washing very sparingly supposedly for environmental reasons and not using deodorants or antiperspirants. And claiming that "natural" body smells are not offensive as long as people wash regularly. But then don't bother washing that regularly. Ho hum.

That's quite different from people with problematically poor hygiene due to low income/depression/chronic illness though. That's more the "great unwashed" small of poorly washed and poorly dried clothes.

SummerDawn2000 · 01/09/2023 16:54

When I worked in a college with young people who had various SEND. Some didn’t regularly wash due to sensory overload of water in their skin

there are also people in this country who literally can’t pay their water bill or have to severally limit their water usage.

just think.

Gettingbysomehow · 01/09/2023 16:55

God yes. I recently joined a club to do with my hobby and two of them stink so badly I've had to stop going because it's unbearable. They smell of sweat and unwashed bottoms. Then I have to work in a room with no windows at work with someone with such horrible breath I almost fainted. I had to complain to her manager and after that she didn't have bad breath any more. It was clearly laziness. Couldn't be bothered to clean her teeth in the morning.

Gettingbysomehow · 01/09/2023 16:57

I'd go and plunge myself into a freezing river rather than stink quite honestly.

Oblomov23 · 01/09/2023 16:57

I've noticed it more this year. Even I smell different but I can't work out why.

ohhhhfffsss · 01/09/2023 16:59

drearydear · 01/09/2023 16:35

I think it's to do with trolls with weird fetishes wanting people to describe their BO experiences in full detail.

There's a BO troll? Shock

How bizarre

It's amazing what floats a weirdo's boat.

80skid · 01/09/2023 16:59

My brother in law stinks and I believe he's aware of it and strangely proud of it. He has a manual job and doesn't change his clothes terribly often. He wears more than 1 pair of socks in his work boots and I think they stay on a long time too. He also smokes, so it's BO, stale smoke and dirty clothes. His wife laughs about how bad he smells. She is better but I don't think her personal hygiene is what I would consider a normal level. I sniff their kids occasionally as I'd hate for them to be bullied, but I think grandparents get them in the bath fairly regularly and their clothes are changed much more frequently than parents' are.
I think a large portion of the problem is changing/washing clothes regularly

Ginmonkeyagain · 01/09/2023 16:59

@SummerDawn2000 there are water social tariffs for low income people. Also you cannot get disconnected for water debt so people should just crack on and use the ater they need. The much bigger issue would be affording the gas or electricity to heat the water.

justasking111 · 01/09/2023 17:00

Last year DC university student caught covid for the third time. His sense of smell taste disappeared. He would get his girlfriend to check that he didn't whiff.

Last winter when we were slammed with high energy bills posters were trying to dry clothes indoors without heating, they all moaned about a musty smell after a couple of days attempting to dry clothing. I monitored our energy use re two showers a day. It cost 60p for all hot water plus the standard charge of 40p so £1 a day.

OH insists all his clothes are washed at 60c because he's a busy person in a physical sense.

Fruitynutcase · 01/09/2023 17:00

DupontsYellowDressingGown · 01/09/2023 14:18

I've noticed that more people seem to have more of an odour to them within the past year or so and put it down to saving money by not bathing daily so I've stopped being so judgemental.

But people can have a strip wash everyday.

ArabeIIaScott · 01/09/2023 17:00

D1nopawus · 01/09/2023 16:45

Yep. Washing and drying clothes uses a lot of power, as does heating a house. Damp, unheated houses start to smell.

I agree with this, but as per my earlier post, the culprits are often people who could afford it, but think they are helping the environment.

If they're using less power then they are helping the environment.

Fruitynutcase · 01/09/2023 17:01

hylian · 01/09/2023 14:21

There are lots of reasons for this and I would try not to judge. There are a lot of people around who are really on the breadline and trying to save money - this likely affects buying cleaning products, clothes washing and energy for hot water. If you have a choice between eating and washing you will choose to eat.

As for cleaning products cheap bleach for the loo and washing up liquid takes care of the rest

stbrandonsboat · 01/09/2023 17:03

I've noticed that it's getting harder and harder to buy bio washing powder that actually works. I always used to use Persil bio powder but then my clothes started to smell, so I added in Dettol laundry disinfectant. Then Persil got so bad that I was rewashing clothing so I've switched to Ariel Powder and am adding extra enzyme powder and the Dettol disinfectant. Clothes no longer smell.

Ingredients in shower gels, shampoos and other products have become harsher and they're using cheaper stuff in them which is causing people skin irritation and allergies. Lots of people that I know are complaining about this. I'm on a daily antihistamine now so I can use antiperspirant again.

I think people may be cutting down on washing their clothing and perhaps showering due to the cost of electricity.

AInightingale · 01/09/2023 17:04

BO is pretty hard not to smell on yourself, but apparently many people have been left with anosmia (think that's the name of it) after a bout of Covid. I tested + for Omicron and the only symptom was a burning sore nose and a reduced sense of smell, which I think is still affecting me actually. Though I do, I hasten to add, still bathe and use deodorant and perfume.

TripleDaisySummer · 01/09/2023 17:05

Dad used to complaining his parents smelt slightly - it was their sense of smell declining and washing hanging around to dry rather than using driers - though they had the money it was fear of cost.

Now my DP are the same vaguely off smell - my DMum washes and dries regularly - does put drier on and line dries - and they wash everyday and they have the house heated quite high due to Dad's health - so I've no clue what causes it .

River87 · 01/09/2023 17:08

I was in a supermarket recently and overheard some posh students talking. They smelled unwashed.

I guess they don't prioritise it.

Even as a depressed teenage goth I showered before going in public.

AInightingale · 01/09/2023 17:08

TripleDaisySummer · 01/09/2023 17:05

Dad used to complaining his parents smelt slightly - it was their sense of smell declining and washing hanging around to dry rather than using driers - though they had the money it was fear of cost.

Now my DP are the same vaguely off smell - my DMum washes and dries regularly - does put drier on and line dries - and they wash everyday and they have the house heated quite high due to Dad's health - so I've no clue what causes it .

Yes that's called nonenal odour - it can occur in old people and is a chemical reaction on the skin. An odd smell, and I suppose the difficulties some old people have with bathing/ showering etc in an unsuitable bathroom mean it isn't washed away often.

FatBurger · 01/09/2023 17:08

DH smells. As do his parents and siblings. I think it's genetic as DH is a fastidious washer, his personal hygiene is excellent and he changes his clothes daily, they're washed well etc. We don't know what it is. I don't smell, our kids don't smell, our house doesn't smell. Just DH.

Notcontent · 01/09/2023 17:09

FoodFann · 01/09/2023 14:28

I’ve had parents tell me they only bath the kids once a week now to save money. So by Friday, the smell is unbearable. The parents are nose blind. The teachers aren’t!

Maybe adults are doing the same

The thing is that you can wash without using heaps of water and expensive products. Get a bucket of warm water and soap - job done. I have done this so many times when I didn’t have a bathroom or working boiler for weeks at a time.

TripleDaisySummer · 01/09/2023 17:09

I've noticed that it's getting harder and harder to buy bio washing powder that actually works. I always used to use Persil bio powder but then my clothes started to smell, so I added in Dettol laundry disinfectant. Then Persil got so bad that I was rewashing clothing so I've switched to Ariel Powder and am adding extra enzyme powder and the Dettol disinfectant. Clothes no longer smell.

Due to eczema we have to use no bio but I get told on here that even low temp washes should mean clothes smell clean - well sometimes the teen stuff come out still smelling which is apparently impossible - and gets put on again at a hotter wash.

So perhaps poorer washing powder and lower temp washes and more cheap synthetic clothing is having an effect.

needtofatoff · 01/09/2023 17:09

Its usually depression op. I hate all this stuff about can't afford to wash. Its BS. But people can be depressed about their financial circumstamces and stop taking care of themselves as a result.