To correct them everytime over DDs name?

I think traditionally the name was Esme (Es-me) and in recent years it has become more popular to 'frenchify' it, with or without an accent.

Oh, I don't dispute that. I think someone being nasty about an initial mistake is quite unpleasant. But if someone keeps mispronouncing when intiially corrected....

My mum is on a patient feedback and research group, and one of the frequently reported issues between staff and patients is the patronising lack of respect shown by giving pet names.

My mum's experience is that she gets a very patronising response in NHS settings - until they learn that she's part of the research group, not a "doddery old lost patient".

If they can switch manners on and off, they can do it for patients.

@EsmeSusanOgg not the standard way of saying the name though, nicknames and diminutives tend to have all sorts of pronounciation made up on the hoof. There's no way that someone would be expected (as that PP was) to assume that the default pronunciation was es mee.

There can't be enough Esmeraldas knocking about the UK to make it a common nickname to come across and know already like Becky or Suzie.

Beth and Eliza are completely different names, even if they could be nicknames for Elizabeth I know girls who have those as their given names.
My daughter has a 'nickname' as her given name. Occasionally some one will use the long version and she either smiles if it's someone she is unlikely to see again or says her name.
Your daughter, or you, should just say her proper name when someone calls her something else. And repeat if you have to.

Esme, without the accent, is a diminutive of Esmeralda and can be pronounced Es-Mee not Es-May.

I note in this 2014 MN thread on the same subject,

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/baby_names/2259330-Esme-Esm-or-Esm-e

it was mentioned that: If following French language rules, then 'e with accent' for a boy and 'ee with accent on the first e' for a girl.

So, perhaps, Esmée (adj/ 'esteemed') for a girl, and Esmé for a boy (really?) if you want accents. But 'Esmee' is too tempting for les rosbifs to say their way.

Just throwing a bit of mischief in 😀

You do run the risk that people (not me!) will think that sprinkling acute (or grave!) accents, diareses, circonflexes, etc, on your kid's name for the purpose of poshing it up is a bit, kind of, precious. or insisting on a 'correct' pronunciation that most people haven't heard of. My little Hermes, for example. No matter how many times I tell people he is Her - mays, they insist on calling him Her-mees. He makes things worse by telling his little pals to call him 'Harry' and rolling his eyes v. expressively when I put them right.

Is it really an issue for your dd or is this your issue

my name is often mispronounced to the English version. It really annoys my mum I don’t care and never have or my name being shortened though I do correct it now I was too shy as a child

Alright then, Bob. Just cos you think you wouldn't mind people using the incorrect form of your name. Why bother having names at all, eh?

Absolute non-problem. Good heavens.

I think at 8 she needs to start correcting people herself.

She's the one who actually cares about it - you say you don't. So step back and let her stand up for herself. It shouldn't be a big deal and she can be polite about it ("oh, can you call me Elizabeth please").

I have a name that can be shortened in different ways and one of those is my preference (think Elizabeth/Ellie). Some people - who don't know me well - have tried to shorten it to another version (eg Lizzie). I find it very over-familiar and have been correcting people since I was primary school age.

If she really wants to be called a certain thing she's going to have to get used to telling people and not relying on her mum to do so.

I have a colleague who is Christopher and dislikes Chris.

I know this because the first time I met him (I knew his name already from an email) I asked him which he preferred.

If I hear another colleague refer to him (in his absence) as Chris I do tactfully say "actually he told me he prefers Christopher" kind of in a "you weren't to know so I'm just letting you know now" sort of a way. I think it's nice to help people in that way if you can, it saves the person themselves having to have the awkward conversation, or put up with it.

It IS pronounced Es-MAY. That's what the é signifies.

If they spelled it without the é they've just made up a name that sounds a little bit like a real name.

Like if someone called their son Roobert.

You were correct. Even if you weren't, that child needed a talking-to about rudeness.

I have a 'posh' aunt by marriage who named her child Daniella-Marie and insisted on her not being called 'Danny'. Had to be said in full. She always used the name in full when addressing the child in company. Also insisted on 'talking proper' - no dropping aitches or terminal 'g' on -ing words, etc. The family she married into was no-airs-and-graces London. Our side of the family took extra delight in saying 'Wotcher, Danny. 'Ow are yer doin'?' She's still Danny to us 50 years on. And that's what she calls herself on the phone, actually. Names changed.

I know the name is not actually Elizabeth but for any name with multiple options for a nickname it's rude for anyone to presume one let alone in a formal setting, especially where your daughter might be more vulnerable such as a medical appointment or hospital.
Correct them every time.
Teach your daughter polite but firm ways of correcting people.
So rude.

Imagine they are getting her pronouns wrong and act accordingly.
They can't just give your daughter a new name, shortened version or not.
They need to ask for her preferred name and use it every time, especially for a name like Elizabeth which has so many nick names, how dare they just pick one, like her whole name is too much effort or not good enough.
My god daughter is Isobelle, she doesn't mind being called Belle or Issy but they seem to have a hierarchy and only closer people get to call her Belle, it's her name she can choose.
My niece is Amelia and goes by Ami, Mela, Mia, Mils, if she insisted to be called her full name we would respect that, they are nicknames, I wouldn't expect anyone in a formal setting to just pick one and hope it's acceptable.
I've got a short name that's a diminutive of a couple of other longer names, can only be shortened one way which only family and close friends would call me, some idiots think it's funny to call me the long versions which of course I never ever answer to as they're not my name.

Yes do it - a smile takes the sting out but you can be concise, firm and unapologetic.

My Son is a name like Thomas and for years I shortened it to Tom until he finally admitted when he was about 8 that he really didn't like being called Tom. From then on I've never used it and and I've corrected others. Now at 13 he feels comfortable telling people not to shorten his name. One of his teachers even commented on it at a parents evening how she kept calling him Tom so he approached her at the end of class and mentioned it. She was so happy he'd felt confident enough to correct her.
That time will come with your daughter but for now I would correct everyone, every time. Some people say let it go but I don't see why she should be called a name she doesn't want to be called.

I'm completely with her. I hate my name being shortened by anyone but my sister who has done it all my life and is literally the only person I wouldn't ask to use my full name. Any interaction should use the name she gives not a version someone else wants to use. Continually getting someone's name wrong actually devalues them and in a health care setting it is arrogant and belittling. It's not a trivial thing at all. I would formally complain.

@Sissynova because I would want to teach my 8 year old to speak up if they didn't like it. I understand she is shy and may not be keen to do so but I think the staff may pay more attention if she said it herself and it is a good lesson to learn to be politely assertive.

Why is it not appropriate? It’s not a simple mistake like a mispronunciation. It’s quite a conscious choice to refer to someone as ‘Beth’ when you’ve only ever heard them and their parent say Elizabeth and all the paperwork says the same?

If I was called Jane and someone insisted on calling me Sarah instead i wouldn’t be cooperative either until they could give me a little respect and use my name.

To be honest if it’s friends and family I’d correct them but it’s always harder with other people. You never know if they know an Elizabeth and they call them Liz or Beth etc and it’s just a habit. I completely understand where you’re coming from but I think there’s bigger things in life to stress over. We shorten DD’s name but she doesn’t like others using it so will correct them herself. Ultimately it’s going to be up to your DD what people call her so this might be a good thing for her to experience early on.

Would she be happy to wear a sticker with her full name on, for these appointments?