To choose glastonbury over my friends wedding

[Campingcarryon]

My good friend has just told me she is getting married the same weekend as glastonbury festival next year, for which I have tickets and have obviously by then waited 3 years to go, should it go ahead. I really want to go to the festival as getting tickets is incredibly hard and it’s the first time I have had tickets in 10 years. I love it there &
Post pandemic, I really want to just go and have some fun. I have a camper van so do it in a bit more luxury too.

I feel really bad but honestly I would rather go to the festival than the wedding but am I being really unreasonable? I can’t do both either as wedding is in a different part of the country. I don’t want to upset her either obviously 😬

[everythingcrossed]

Go to Glastonbury.

[NoYOUbekind]

As is often said on MN, it's an invitation not a summons. You can politely decline and go and do something else. Your friend will be hurt though, I think, but you're not doing anything wrong by not going to a wedding.

[Myusernameisnotmyusernameno]

Go to Glastonbury. If it was my wedding I would understand.

[Pinkdelight3]

YANBU. So she told you and I hope you said: "Oh shit, I can't come - it's Glastonbury that weekend and I've had tickets for years waiting for it to finally happen. Really sorry, but we can celebrate your wedding another time." And she said "What a shame, but totally understand, fair enough."

That's how it should've gone/should go. If you said nothing, then I'd follow up asap with a "Shit, I've just realised that's Glastonbury weekend..." etc etc. Rip the plaster off now so there's no confusion or false expectations.

[Hoppinggreen]

You booked Glastonbury first so that’s where you go

[Tlollj]

Go to her wedding.

[Campingcarryon]

It wouldn’t be such a difficult thing if I knew I could easily get glasto tickets again but they are like rocking horse shit and I might never have the chance in my life again. But obviously the wedding is a once in a lifetime thing too 🙈

[Myneighboursnorlax]

If you’d bought tickets to Glastonbury after she’d announced the date then I’d say you were being unreasonable. But an event you booked three years ago should definitely take priority. Just say straight away “oh no I already have other commitments that weekend”. Don’t leave it to the last minute to decide or she’ll wonder why you didn’t mention it sooner.

[Scrunchies]

Loads of my husbands best friends went to Glastonbury instead of our wedding. Slightly different in that we sent our save the dates before they bought their tickets, and they cancelled on us. I didnt care as they aren’t my friends, but I think dh was a bit upset. I think if you’ve already bought tickets that’s fair enough

[Campingcarryon]

I mean it’s true I got the festival tickets first!! But had the pandemic not happened, I would have been there last year

[IWasBornInAThunderstorm]

Just say you're sorry but you've already got something planned. She might be upset but she'll get over it or she might ditch you, in which case she isn't a friend.

[Tirediam]

Would you lose money by not going to Glasto? And honesty depending on the friend, I’d rather a festival too

[BigWhooper]

You're busy that weekend ie you have a prior engagement. It would be the same as if you'd booked a holiday. Even more so really because you can hardly rearrange. It's a shame but you can't do everything.

[overtherainbo]

I would definitely 100% go to Glastonbury

[Treecreature]

Wedding without a doubt.

[WIS76]

@Campingcarryon

It wouldn’t be such a difficult thing if I knew I could easily get glasto tickets again but they are like rocking horse shit and I might never have the chance in my life again. But obviously the wedding is a once in a lifetime thing too 🙈

The wedding is once in a lifetime for her! Don't give a reason just say you have plans already, it happens 💐

[BritishSummertime]

Prior engagement so you can decline the wedding. We didn't go to a wedding because we already had tickets to Car Fest, the couple understood

[Campingcarryon]

I haven’t paid my full glasto balance yet but honestly, I really don’t want to give up my ticket!! I think this has helped me decide once and for all!

[ItsNotMeAnymore]

You can go to Glastonbury guilt free if you want. I would. I guess there may be some scope to go to the wedding if it happened to be the first day of Glastonbury and there was nothing decent on at Glastonbury

[MondeoFan]

Glasto as you've already bought the tickets - sorry I'm upset I can't come and it's a shame it's the same weekend but we'll have to celebrate another time. Maybe go to the hen even though you aren't going to the wedding

[Campingcarryon]

@WIS76 I’ll have to tell her about glasto as she’s is really close friend!

[tigger1001]

You've already got the tickets for Glastonbury, so for me that's where you go.

You just say sorry I will miss your wedding but I already have plans that weekend

[Campingcarryon]

@ItsNotMeAnymore wedding is on the Saturday, main headliners day!

[seaandsandcastles]

I think YABU and selfish. Barring a pandemic, Glastonbury happens every year. This wedding will only happen once and she’s your friend.

[IWasBornInAThunderstorm]

@seaandsandcastles

I think YABU and selfish. Barring a pandemic, Glastonbury happens every year. This wedding will only happen once and she’s your friend.

She might cancel it or get divorced and have another one