DS left due to bullying. I wanted to complain about it and have the panel complaint stage. However school say "complainants who are not parents of a current student" have to use a different complaints policy which doesnt have a panel stage or any governors/trustees involved. The schools policy does say this but I thought this was meant for neighbours complaining about noise or parking not for something that happened to a student at the school.

Is this correct use of the policy as I didnt want it covered up?

Just interested in this as I approach 50. I take collagen and a multi vit and am looking at my skincare.

wonder what else people do that I can take on too. I know I’m never going to look 20
again but if I can look as good as possible or for my age then I might be willing to
try it.

Looking for a new winter coat. Below the knee, dark pink in colour and military style - think big buttons, maybe the band around the cuffs type thing. Would love tweed if possible but has to be fairly thick as I live in a place with cold winters...

DD8 goes to a theatre club after school (at the school). A few weeks ago parents were asked if we can provide consent for children to perform after school at a fairly prestigious venue in the comimg weeks but we were given two days to give consent as they needed a yes or no ASAP to secure the place. Wasnt sure if we could make it after work so didnt provide consent and DD was really sad as she really wanted to go, especially as her friends would be attending.

Few days ago I got permission from work to finish earlier for the day of the perfomance so thought I can ask the school office if its still not too late if my DD can go. After they called the venue they confirmed yes she can attend.

Great! I thought I can suprise my DD and let her know that we can definately come to the performance and she can go!
Only for DD to say she doesnt want to go now.
Arghhh!! Now I have to ring the school and tell them she no longer wants to go. They will think I'm an idiot time waster.

Anyone got one ?
Would you recommend one ? I wonder if they're as powerful as corded.
My Braun has died - it's only 18 years old.

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Just wondering. Considering career change but would involve y2 and yR age children doing the above every day.

Me and my boyfriend are both 29 i'm 9 months post partum and had quite a traumatic birth which has taken me months to health from.
In those 9 months me and my boyfriend have hardly had sex, mainly because my libido has completely gone and my hormones are still not back to normal and i've only recently started feeling like myself again.
Yesterday we were talking about marriage and he said he'd been reading something about sexless marriages and that they always end badly and then he said that he hasn't asked me to marry him yet because we don't have sex and that he's not sure if he wants that for the rest of his life.
It obviously upset me because for the first couple of months he was really understanding about it but now it feels like he doesn't care, i've also tried explaining to him why I don't feel like it but it's like he doesn't understand. I really don't know how to feel about this and I don't know what to do. I love him a lot and want a future with him but I feel like I don't have much of a choice in this.

1. A penny farthing sitting on a landing of a mansion.

2. Lots of tiny feathers on the stairs of someone's house who didn't own a bird and in the same house I think they had a secret lodger as every time I went to the loo I heard footsteps run from one room to the next upstairs. I never mentioned either!

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Anyone surprised???

Here we go round the mulberry bush, the mulberry bush, the mulberry bush……..

when my kids started school i had just moved into a new area after an abusive relationship ended, i was pregnant and honestly looking back i was very depressed, my kids started school and i just put my head down didn’t talk to anyone and kept to myself, i didn’t realise how depressed i was at the time but it made me stay away from people and make no efforts or attempts to mix with people at the school. it’s years later now and i really regret not making friends or at least trying to at the school with the other parents, it’s too late now (many years have passed so i wouldn’t randomly just approach people now the same people that would remember me) i see the other mums standing and talking and feel so bad i didn’t try harder to make friends. it’s affected dd as well as she doesn’t get invited to things (probably because im not friends with the mums) other than a few parties at the start but those have stopped now. did anyone else regret not making mum friends?

I’m five feet 8 size 16 and want tights to wear with dresses and boots in the winter . However I can never get them long enough or they cut me in half round the waist . Any ideas of better ones i could buy !

Continuing the docky wock

don’t want to jinx it by referring to potentially Jaily Wail

Hi, I've short quite fragile nails (thank you chemo) and recently tried out short Kiss Core glue on nails from Boots. Amazingly they've lasted just over two weeks with a Amazon purchased gel like glue which I think has been the key. They've looked and felt natural like my own fingernails, just longer and pretty 😍

Not many colours or patterns though, so does anyone have any recommendations for any other brands that are quite thin near the cuticle end, have a short/rounded option and different patterns and colours please?

It's been a while since I had nice nails so it's a tiny bit of self care I want to continue 😘

My family have started calling DD Floater and I really don’t like it. It started at a family lunch a few weeks ago when she was playing with one of those little inflatable rings and my brother called her it as a joke. Now it’s stuck and everyone seems to think it’s hilarious.

My family have always had daft nicknames for each other tbf. I’ve got one my brother still calls me which I’ve never liked, but it’s just what he’s always called me. This feels different though because she’s only little and I don’t want it turning into something people say about her when she’s older.

My brother says it doesn’t mean anything and keeps going “where’s our little Floater then” whenever he sees her. My mum and sister have started saying it too now. I know they aren’t trying to be nasty but it just sounds like they’re taking the piss out of her appearance to me. She’s got quite chubby cheeks at the moment and I can imagine other kids picking up on it when she starts school.

At the weekend we were all at my mum’s for lunch and he said it about four times. I asked him to stop calling her that and he just laughed and said I was being ridiculous. My mum then said I was being precious and that DD won’t even remember it. I felt a bit stupid because everyone was looking at me like I’d made a massive deal out of nothing.

DP thinks I’m overthinking it as well. He says she’s too young to understand what it means and it’ll probably just stop being used eventually. I said that’s not really the point though, I don’t want it becoming her nickname in the first place. He thinks I’m making it into something it isn’t.

I’m not against nicknames generally, we call her Flo most of the time anyway and she has a few other little ones that are just cute things she’s done. I just don’t like this one and don’t think it’s particularly nice.

My sister messaged me afterwards saying I should just let it go because it’s affectionate and nobody means anything by it. I haven’t replied yet because I don’t really know what to say without sounding like I’m having a go at everyone.

AIBU to ask them to stop calling her it? Would you actually mind this or am I being a bit precious?

Here we go….

Meant to be 6 weeks today, started bleeding last Saturday and have been on and off since. Had a GP apt and they’ve booked me for an early scan on Monday, clear blue was showing 2-3 weeks but has now dropped to 1-2.

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And it’s lovely - I think anyway.

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I think this may be my first ever post... I'm wondering if anyone else is feeling absolute dread at the state of the job market, at local, national and global levels?

In South Wales, you have Legal & General (1000 jobs), Admiral (500 jobs) and I'm sure I've seen posts from employees at Principality Building Society too. You then have the big Welsh universities who have been through multiple iterations recently.

More broadly, you have Canva announcing this week a 22% reduction in their global workforce which includes many UK employees. Microsoft reducing 60k global workforce, and Virgin Media 02 also announcing cuts this week. And I'm sure many many more across the UK that I've not yet heard of.

I worry about so many people entering the job market at a really difficult time, where the job market is already so tough when competing against AI screening tools, and now lots and lots of talented people are all looking for the same few jobs available.

When I mention this to my peers they all seem non-plused and that I am worrying about nothing. Am I over reacting?!

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I love style, clothes, it's one of my favourite things. In the 80s I abused my feet by constantly wearing 4in stilettos and I'm paying the price now! My feet are arthritic and so, so painful.
Ive just returned from a 4 hr shopping trip, wearing really nice Heavenly Feet ankle boots and I'm in agony.
Im going away for a week tomorrow.
Crocs don't cause me any pain so I wore them all summer. Now I need warm and waterproof footwear!
Am I totally unreasonable to wear my Crocs/SahleBembrey boots with skirts and dresses for public lunches etc? I will wear Heavenly Feet to posh restaurant!
I don't want be thrown out for unforgivable transgressions. Echo boots are for yomping on dog walks.
(Please don't be too horrible!)

Looking at buying this pouch are they worth it?

www.fortnumandmason.com/es-exclusive-2026-christmas-fortnums-finery-everyday-pouch

I am part of a group of about 10. (Hobby)
One member of the group is having a very extravagant party at her villa in St Tropez in April next year. She has just sent out a ‘save the date’
i am on friendly terms with the group. No falling out. I am particularly close to one person who I would call a friend. Not much in common with the others apart from the hobby.
But I really don’t want to go to this two day party.
I just really don’t want to spend money on a holiday with people I have little in common with.
I cannot think of any plans I could have that would be that far in advance.
WWYD?

My husband is desperate to call the baby Lucy after his deceased mum but I really dislike the name - probably because I had a best friend for years and we had a terrible fall out with that name
Anyway - how can I make it better?
I won’t know for a while if we are indeed having a girl - well about a week as I’m having a private blood gender scan for this exact reason but it’s all I can think about!

Can anyone tell me nicknames other than the normal Lulu, Luce or a double barrel that works well that I could maybe use alone?

I can only think of Lucy-Matilda and call her Tilly for short but husband said that’s basically scrapping Lucy entirely which I guess is true!

thanks so much xx