Away on a weekend with friends and the conversation was constantly turning to supplements… probiotic powders, protein, creatin, bone broth and so many more!!!!
I’m no paragon of health but WTF? Where has all this come from? I can’t afford the prices mentioned, but I am starting to wonder if I’m the odd one out for not using any supplements at all!!

My adult son has been with his gf for 4 years. She is from another country and is here on a student visa. They live together.

I've met her 3 times in 4 years , she is always invited to family gatherings but frequently refuses for various reasons. I feel like I don't know her and only recently learned her real name , she uses an English name due to pronunciation issues. The last time I saw her she was very rude , she shamed my son and mocked him about his job. He works ft and earns an average wage for a young man of his age.

They've asked me to sign a letter stating that they live together as a married couple for her new visa , as she's no longer a student. And put pressure on me to do so within a few hours. I said that I needed more information and asked her some questions , the last one of which was about how she sees the future with my son. She didn't respond and apparently phoned my son shouting about me being rude and throwing accusations at her. She then blocked me on social media.

My son sent me an apology message , but said that the pair of them have lots to talk about because of what has happened.

I'm confused and concerned. Has anyone been in a similar situation and what did you do?

I’ve lived in a semi for ten years next to neighbours who on paper are lovely and will do anything for you , but their teen son has driven me crazy for the last five years playing full blast music whenever his parents are out. The walls are paper thin so my poor daughter who is currently sitting her GCSE’s is driven to distraction trying to revise.
hes 19 now and doesn’t work do the second he gets up the sound system goes on.. full volume , drum and bass .. and doesn’t stop until his parents get home around six, then as soon as they go out , maybe to visit friends, it’s goes on.
we’ve asked do many times over the years for it to be turned down, the parents don’t see a problem and he promises to turn it down when I ask him then a few days later it’s back on full volume .
we’ve bought another house and are moving in August, the whole situation has literally made me ill , I can’t even hear my own tv for the constant thump thump, I’m counting down the months until We go - help me keep my sanity until then, appreciate light hearted revenge ideas 🤣 or just coping strategies

Everyone around me seems to be getting Botox, or other beauty procedures. I’m mid 30s and not keen to go down that route due to the ongoing cost. It’s not cheap! But then I wonder if I’ll end up looking miles older than my peers because of this?

Any other 30-somethings who are not planning to get Botox?

Does anyone know how to speak with a real person at the BA executive club member services?

I have spent three hours either talking to chatbot or on hold on the telephone trying to get through to the right person and when I did get through to the last person they cut the line!!! To get there, I had gone through several other handlers chat Butt and human and waited and waited and waited on hold listening to crap music.

How do I speak to a real person?

I need to do this because my husband has been arrested for domestic abuse and is bailed so I cannot speak to him (& do not want to anyway) to add our daughter to our household account so I can book flights for the summer for me and my two kids using my own air miles !!!!.

I spoke to a lovely lady on the way who told me what I needed to ask member services to do and she put me through. Of course I spent 40m on hold waiting and then they cut me off……

I cannot find a phone number to speak to a human being and I don’t think I can face another 2hours of this hunt.

please help!

If you have been diagnosed in mid or later life with adhd, please could you share any resources that have helped? Overwhelmed 😵‍💫

Does anyone have any recommendations for a body wash for my DC who is struggling with spots? Thank you

Anyone else like this …?

I’m realising this is why I’ve slid into a ‘uniform’ of old jeans, hoodies and shabby sneakers. Thus us what I’ve worn for over ten years.

When a wedding or event comes along, it turns into a monumentally stressful shopping experience where I panic buy items I find uncomfortable, unsure suit me, and likely never wear again.

I have two events: a funeral on Friday and a weekend in Paris next weekend. I’ve been browsing online for days and woke up at 5 am this morning to continue scrolling and discovered my panic purchase for the funeral won’t arrive in time. I then panic purchased a pair of shoes I think look nice for meals out and the funeral, but already have doubts.

I wish I could break this cycle and be confident in what I wear.

I recently had a haircut I love and it inspired me to try hard again to ‘raise the bar’. But I’m hitting a familiar wall now and dreading the events, and just feeling tired and down about it. My DH just doesn’t have this …

Uuuugh!!

...I think it's finally over.

Just a vent really. I don't even want advice or recs since I don't trust anywhere any more.

I have been searching for new pj's now for over 2 yrs, and can't for the life of me locate the fit, quality or value of what used to be in stores.

I only wear cotton for nightwear, so used to purchase from White Co, John Lewis, sometimes Fatface, etc. Back in the very long ago, I used to get them from Next, they were superb and very high quality.
The last time I managed to find a good quality pair was in 2021 from White Co.

Most now are all too long, too wide (so flap around, leg me up on the stairs and ride up when I am sleeping, aaargh!), with a whopping low crotch and reams of unnecessary fabric around the hips. Many, and I mean most, are so thin they're transparent. I am 5'5 and most of the legs are billowing, almost a foot wide and a yard too bloody long. How do petites even find any?? I ain't buying a £12 pair from Primark, even if it's cotton, only to spend another ton having them altered to fit. It's insane.

This is a problem across the board tbh, with most stuff having plunged in quality and fit over the past few years. That in itself is a novel I ain't gonna write here, but I am really getting fed up with it now. Even White Co's PJ's are thinner, baggier, wider and too long, with waists so high they make me look like a clown, yet they are still retailing at £70+ and even higher on Ebay .

The only one's that I haven't yet tried are at Toast, and I really don't want to have to pay over £130 for nightwear. And even then, I don't trust it. Everyhting everywhere is elasticated, oversized and badly proportioned. It isn't just 'fashion' or trends anymore, it's scraping the proverbial barrel.

I suppose I give up. It isn't going to come back, like a lot of stuff isn't going to come back, no matter where we shop or how much we spend. I don't even think we have choices now, whatever the price-point, to a good extent. It seems to be solidly sinking across the board.

I am adding a pic of one of the older styles from White Co, the very last that offered a regular shaped leg, waist and length. Just why oh why can't I have a regular shaped pj with a shirt that isn't cropped, 10 feet wide or with sleeves down to my knees???? Just bollox bollox bollox

Georgian terrace in London. It'd been for sale confidentially for about 3 weeks and has been publicly on the market another 3.

I am thinking of starting 6% under, hoping to agree on about 5% under. Does that seem reasonable?

DH and I are at an impasse about his drinking and I really need some perspective.

DH has 1-3 beers every day without fail. I’m not too worried about the amount, it’s not excessive but it’s the how he’s drinking and the background.

For context, we don’t live in the UK, culturally it’s similar in many ways but there are way less pubs and alcohol is less present in everyday life. We are later in life parents, I’m mid forties and DH is 50.

My issue with DH’s drinking is that it’s always in front of our 7 year old boy, who idolises his dad. He will often crack open a beer at 3pm on the weekends, and have two or three as he’s pottering about the garden with DS.

When he gets home from work he’ll have opened a beer by 5pm, and have a couple of beers before DS goes to bed.

There have been a couple of weekend afternoons when DS’s friends have called in (with their parents!) and he’s been having a beer. That would be unusual here and I felt a bit uncomfortable.

He gets very defensive if I try broach it gently with him and says I’m being judgemental. His dad is a hardcore alcoholic, his brother was an alcoholic who died an alcohol related death two years ago and his entire family are heavy drinkers. I feel like he just doesn’t see how unhealthy it is for DS to see alcohol as part of his daily routine every single day. That dads always having a beer while he watches tv with him of an evening. He thinks I’m super controlling and uptight.

I genuinely would not care if he drank after DS went to bed at 7pm. Or it was a couple of times a week, a in the evening the other times. But he just won’t hear it at all.

AIBU?

I visited my 23 yr old Son over the weekend. I live 2.5hrs from him. Parked on his driveway and we headed straight out to lunch, shops etc. At the end of my visit I said I will use your loo before I leave and he said I couldn’t. Apparently his GF was in his home and she wasn’t ready to meet me due to anxiety. I said I only need a wee, I actually thought he was joking but he wasn’t. I left close to tears that he would do this to me. So I just left. I found a garden centre 25min into my journey home to stop off at. I’m still in disbelief that he treated me this way. I’m really hurt by this. I do have some medical issues at times which mean sometimes I really do need the loo urgently and he knows this. On this occasion it wasn’t to urgent but he didn’t know that. I don’t know how to move forward from this. Am I being unreasonable to feel so upset by this?

We're buying a house and when viewing (viewed twice) the sellers said all fixtures and fittings in the kitchen will be included in the sale. We had a list of questions and specifically asked about the range cooker which they said would be included. We had our offer accepted which was under the advertised price. Just saw the F&F form and they have excluded not only the Stoves Richmond range cooker but also the kitchen pendant lights. They've also excluded a chandelier overhanging the staircase. They're also taking the shed, thee toilet roll holder which is screwed into the wall, and a host of other items. We don't really care for the shed and lights although a bit annoyed/confused as they said these were included when we viewed but are now excluding.

Just wondering what people's experiences have been? First time buyers so not entirely sure what is the norm re. the stove. On reading online it seems they can take the cooker. Wondering if they thought they would sell for higher and therefore are trying to make a point/recoup costs.

Feels like I'm searching for something that doesn't exist.

My mobility and chronic pain has come to a head, and I can no longer wear my usual Birkenstocks or wedges that I'd wear in the summer. I need wear flat sandals, with a bit of structure over my toes and a heel strap, and can't have a chunky or thin sole. Can't tie around my ankle as sometimes one of my ankles swells from oedema. I also have a very high instep, so can't wear ones that cover my full foot.

I want ones where I can pull the ankle strap over my ankle, or a velcro strap so that I don't have to bend down too long to get them on.

All the ones I've found look like what my nana wears, with elasticated backs.

I liked these ones https://www.office.co.uk/view/product/office_catalog/2,60/5346085216 but DH laughed jokingly and said his mam would wear them, so didn't get them.

Budget is around £75 a pair. I'd like an everyday pair and a pair I could wear if going out to a beer garden or to look a bit fancier.

Did you change the way you dressed at 40? My Mum was a young Mum so I remember her at 40 but she always seemed older to me than I feel now at nearly 40. She would often talk about the fashion rules for over 40's and stopped wearing certain things, like vests, cap sleeves, shorts, skirts and dresses that were above the knee. This encompasses most of my clothes and I don't feel the need to change them but should i ve heavily modifying my wardrobe for 40? My Mum is very judgemental and will often comment on what I am wearing if she dislikes or disapproves.

I just want knee length denim shorts. Which appear to no longer exist! Instead it’s Jorts.

Our landlord has put the flat up for sale and viewings are due to start soon. Yesterday we were told that we’re expected to leave the property during the viewings.

This would be quite difficult for us. I work from home in the mornings, and in the afternoons my child is back from nursery, so leaving the flat so regularly would be a big problem for me. This is in addition to getting the place ready for each viewing, which already takes quite a bit of time and effort. And to be honest, I’m also not comfortable with people coming into our home while we’re not there.

We’re happy to cooperate with viewings at reasonable times, but we’d prefer to stay in the flat while they take place. What do you think?

Would you buy a 5 bed house with a 10ft kitchen?
We're trying to sell our house and to date have had no luck. It's a modern house.

We've been quoted silly money to take down a supporting wall between the kitchen and the breakfast room. A new small kitchen would cost us ( due to family contacts) £5k. The wall plus new flooring and moving gas/electrics £25k.
I do need a more accessible kitchen due to my disability but I also need to downsize.

Do you ever just get paid and think seriously is this it… I got paid this morning 3100 was put into my account, I transferred 1400 to the joint for bills and household expenses. And I’m left with the rest, but when I look at it, I just think, is this it? Anyone else? Just feeling a bit defeated today! I know to some people this is a lot of money. But these days it really doesn’t feel like it. Come and join for a moan

My mainecoon had 5 kittens 6 days ago. They are very cute well I think so anyway. I have added pictures. I don't have a reason for posting i just want to 😊

I’ve heard from one of my friends that DP is going to propose soon. (She apparently knows this as she is married to one of his friends who is in on the secret). DP and I share two DC together and are very happy and I would definitely want to get married. However, my question for you all… he went through a messy divorce before we met, and apparently doesn’t really want to get married again for a long time. As well as the emotional impact, he lost a lot of his long standing family money in the divorce and seems quite scarred by this. Despite this, he is supposed to be “desperate” to show his love and commitment by proposing and getting engaged, but only with plans to marry a long time in the future. (1) I feel this level of knowledge seems rather detailed and I wonder if I’m being sounded out to see how I feel?. (2) I can’t decide whether I want to be engaged in that way. I’m curious on others opinions please?

So our house has been on for a while and has dribs and drags of viewings.
I know it’s a bad time to sell but it’s in a great area and in the south east and we’ve reduced by 25k already. The EA has told us not to reduce anymore and the right person will come.

So I’m being brave and going to ask for thoughts on here!

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/171848261?utm_campaign=property-details&utm_content=buying&utm_medium=sharing&utm_source=copytoclipboard#/&channel=RES_BUY

i dont even know if im being harsh or not tbh but im really annoyed today

my mum has just dropped my little brother (he’s 3) on me again with barely any notice, like a text this morning saying can i have him then just turns up anyway. ive got my own dc to sort out and its not like im sat doing nothing

bit of background, i mostly lived with my dad growing up so me and my mum arent super close anyway. she had my brother with her ex and that whole situation was messy, he had a drug problem and shes not exactly stable herself if im honest. my brother has no routine at all, not in nursery, stays up late, eats whatever, its all over the place

she also doesnt speak to him very nicely which i hate, calling him names and stuff and hes only little. i end up feeling bad for him which is why i say yes half the time but its getting too much now

i have reported concerns before but nothing came of it and she found out it was me which caused a massive fallout and we didnt speak for months

now its back to this again where she just expects me to have him whenever. i do love him obviously but i feel like im being taken the piss out of a bit

aibu if i start saying no or telling her she actually needs to sort childcare instead of just assuming ill do it?

I don't know to feel about it.

Both myself and my husband work in an office with 'Jane'. I have always thought we got on well together and we have become friends outside of the workplace, socialising together.

Jane is getting married in a few weeks and has invited my husband to her wedding but not myself. Husband was given an invitation with his name only on and when he queried he was told it was only for him.

If she had come to me and said it was because of costs or if she invited me she would have had to plus one others I would have understood but it is all just a bit weird!

My husband is attending and that is fair enough but it has left me feeling so awkward.

Would you invite just one spouse to a wedding?

SW 128kg
CW 91kg
TW 75kg

I went out for dinner with some colleagues last night and a couple of people commented on how ‘good’ I was being with just a salad and kept offering me things and sharing side dishes.

I politely declined and said I hadn’t lost 30kg without avoiding some things.
Ive actually lost 37kg but rounded it down.

My colleagues were obviously shocked at how much I’d lost and I felt embarrassed at how large I’d been.

One really lovely colleague said “that’s half of me” 😳

At work today my boss asked if she’d heard right that I’d lost 3 stones and I and I had to correct her.

I wish I’d kept my trap shut, I looked at a photo of me in my work uniform last May, just before I started Mounjaro, and I was enormous! I’m so ashamed.