I feel like everyone should watch her full interview.

https://news.sky.com/video/comedian-lucy-beaumont-i-offered-to-pay-legal-fees-for-woman-who-signed-walliams-nda-13610774

Bravo👏

My family (mum and her partner, my sister and half sister and their families) are due to visit and stay with us for a few days over Xmas. We live about 150 miles from them so we alternate spending Christmas in the two places, although we always go out for Christmas dinner. My half sister doesn’t always join us but does sometimes and is this year.

We all agreed on the restaurant for Christmas Day a few months ago and I booked it. My half sister is now saying she can’t afford it and wants us to host Xmas dinner at home. We really don’t want to do that as we look forward to going out for it, not cooking and just relaxing.

I’ve suggested that she comes before or after Xmas for a day or two instead but she thinks that’s unfair and doesn’t see why we can’t just cook dinner at home. My mum is siding with her and it’s causing friction. Are we being unreasonable to not want to change our plans and not want to have to cook dinner ourselves when we were looking forward to going out?

My hair is just past shoulder length and a mishmash of very light/warm-toned grey and blonde, all natural. I finished the grow-out from the deep red dye I'd been using for years about a year ago. I love how light it is and it suits my skin tone so much better than the red, but it's about a million different colours including much warmer blonde-toned at the ends. I'd love for it to be more even and I'm wondering if an all-over very light blonde tint might do this.

Going to a hairdresser is not possible so if I do this, it's going to have to be a box job. I've plenty of experience of dyeing my hair dark but none at all of blonde, or covering a whole head of mostly natural grey. Is this a good idea or am I heading for disaster? Has anyone else done this? Any advice at all - what to use, for example? Or should I just leave well alone?!

I often change into pyjamas when I get home. I find trousers/jeans etc so uncomfortable. But I'm looking for something comfortable that isn't pyjamas and more appropriate for day time wear. Can anyone suggest anything please? (Must be petite sizing as I'm 5ft tall).

Hello all. We (me husband and 2 children) are currently living in Temporary Accommodation which is a very small flat, no room for a table anywhere and really tiny kitchen. We are feeling a bit down in the dumps as we were recently offered a lovely new home and it unfortunately fell through and we back on the bidding list and playing the waiting game again. I do understand we are incredibly fortunate not to be on the streets, but because a big Christmas Roast Dinner is impossible for us this year, I'd like to do a special buffet to lift my family's spirits this year. I'd love a bit of inspiration to make something a bit special please. I know I could Google but I'd love to hear ideas with a personal touch. Thank you x

We don’t have the biggest house and our very small dining table is in an alcove in the lounge, we pull it out for meals but there is 6 of us squeezed around this 4 seater table with 2 extra chairs.
Last year we decided to do a cold meat buffet instead and just have our plates on the sofa and it worked so we’ve decided to do the same again.
This year ds has a girlfriend and has asked if she can come for Christmas and I explained it will only be buffet but he’s unimpressed and says she’s from a posh family and would expect a traditional roast dinner.

Aibu to say we can’t cater for anyone else? We don’t mind if she wants to come for a while or even for some of the buffet but I will not be cooking a Christmas dinner.
Ds is concerned about her reaction to a non traditional roast.
We have met her once and I did put on a similar cold meats buffet back in the summer but she didn’t eat anything.

Hi all. Here's our new thread. Giving Rainbow a break and until Reastie returns. Sorry there wasn't a more inspiring title, didn't spot any comedy typos this time.

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We have two pre school children, I went out on a Christmas work do and met a man. We swapped numbers and I left it at that. Months later, I felt disconnected with DH, we were arguing and I wanted an escape. I contacted the other man and we met for drinks, planned to have sex but I couldn’t go through with it, I felt too guilty. We ended everything, all communication and only recently I’ve told DH about it. It’s been a week and he is constantly berating me, asking in depth questions then still being intimate with me. I understand, but it’s constant, almost every conversation he points towards the fling. We are arguing more than ever. I’ve realised where I went wrong and I’m going to seek therapy for my issues but that’s not enough for him, he is constantly punishing me. Will it get better in time? I’m just looking for some advice.

Hi,
I’ve been using Medik8 serum for a couple of years but have to give it up because of a reduced household budget.
I went into boots thinking well, it’s just vitamin C, can’t be that complicated to manufacture, and bought a Number 7 one. It was actually quite expensive, more than £20!
Anyway, I’m not happy with it, it makes my skin feel like it’s been stuck together, and smells like Berocca.
any cheaper alternatives to Medik8 you could recommend?
thanks!

We’re both in our 30s and have been friends for around 15 years. I have a 1yo son and am a SAHM. My friend doesn’t have children and doesn’t want any for the foreseeable future, if that’s relevant.

Since having my son, he comes pretty much everywhere with me: shopping, errands, meeting friends, museums, restaurants, family visits etc. He’s a fairly calm child and I enjoy having him around. I have plenty of family who could look after him, but unless there’s a reason he can’t come, I generally just take him with me. He’s also happier with me than any other caregiver so I really don’t see a reason to leave him. Obviously, my social life looks a bit different now. I go to fewer bars and fancy restaurants and see friends less often (because long journeys and child-unfriendly venues aren’t always practical), but I’m genuinely not bothered. It’s just a different season of life and I’m enjoying it, probably more than I enjoyed pre baby life.

This friend has seen me 3 times in the last year: once at my house when DS was 2–3 months old, once for a walk in the summer and once at a pub to celebrate a milestone of hers, where I stayed for about an hour with DS asleep in his pram. She recently messaged saying she missed me and asking if we could go for coffee or lunch. I said of course and asked when. She suggested a day and then asked, “Do you have someone to leave DC with?” I was a bit taken aback. Why would I need to arrange childcare for a casual coffee or lunch? If we’re going somewhere child-friendly, I don’t see why he can’t come. Honestly, if it’s just a social catch-up and he can’t come, I’m not particularly keen to go either. I’d obviously make exceptions for things like weddings, funerals or medical appointments, but I don’t feel the need to leave him behind just for the sake of it.

AIBU? Should I make more effort to see friends without my son, or is it reasonable to expect casual daytime meet-ups to accommodate him?

Thinking of booking it for DH's pressie ... which will also benefit me 😃

Good reveiws online, but wondered if anyone on here had done it, I'm looking at London but would be helpful to hear about any city.

Mine is I buy a boned, rolled and stuffed turkey. The white and dark mean is in separate rolls and it takes an hour to cook. Fits in the oven easily with room for all the other stuff. Anyone else got top tips to make life easier?

I'm in my 50s. I always found Russell Brand to be utterly awful but he seemed to be just an extreme end of a whole bunch of awful men with awful behaviour which was, when I was young, taken for granted and laughed off. If you didn't laugh off you 'didn't have a sense of humour' or lost your job.

I remember, for instance, as a student, working in an Italian restaurant in the kitchen with an Irish chef, must have been in his 30s/40s (he seemed ancient to me at the time) and he'd talk to me about 'the smell of pussy' all evening. How long it had been since he'd had the smell of it on his fingers. I had no idea how to reply, I was only 18. I felt totally disgusted by him and I think just kept my back to him and kept on working. I remember trying to tell the restaurant owner and he laughed it off and said something like, 'welcome to working in kitchens.' Then my shifts got cut.

That's just one thing but there have been so many over the years and, even now, sometimes I feel like I'm expected to put up with and shut up about quite a lot of everyday things by the men in my life.

And, maybe more than anything, I'm wondering why I did put up with it and never really either stood up for myself or spoke out.

I'm sure this conversation has been started many times but I'm just feeling quite sad and stirred up by it this morning.

For the first year we were dog friendly all year round. For the last two years we’ve only allowed dogs 1 April -1 October.

It’s just so much easier , cleaner, less upkeep etc that I’m thinking just to not revert back in April ?

my friend (dog owner) thinks I’m being ridiculous and said that it will annoy a lot of people. My staff agree with me as the cafe is so much nicer when we are dog free .

Can anyone recommend something for either?

For poo bags, I was thinking something that could fit over the loo to catch the poo so we can bury it in the garden - does such a thing exist?

And I'm after a little camping stove that we can keep in the shed just in case we need to boil water or cook for a few days (our oven and hob are electric).

NB I'm not a full on "prepper" and don't want to spend loads

At least they won’t have to complete the AL course work for George!

I’m looking for some objective perspective because I am in a flux.
A few years ago, we bought our family home. I put down 100% of the deposit from my own savings/funds, and my husband contributed nothing towards the purchase at the time. My contribution was put in trust.
Soon after, he received a substantial inheritance. The agreement was that this money was earmarked for developing and extending the property, which would build equity for our family and improve our living space.
We recently made concrete plans to get the building work underway. It was only when I asked for funds to pay for initial works that the truth came out. The money is gone. He has spent the entire inheritance and yet there is nothing to show for it. He has actively hidden this from me and lying about the money still being there whenever the subject of the house project came up. He has no clear explanation for where hundreds of thousands of pounds went, other than general mismanagement. He has also run up substantial debts and now cannot afford to contribute to the household management.
The level of deceit and financial betrayal has completely shattered my trust in him.
Because of the systematic lying, I have asked him move out of the family home so I can figure out my next steps.
He thinks I’m overreacting, throwing away a marriage over money, and being cold-hearted.
So, AIBU?
YANBU He lied for years and blew a life-changing sum of money. (we could now be mortage free!) The trust is gone.YABU – You shouldn't kick him out of the family home; try counselling first.

Do they exist? Just something warmish, easy, plain, reasonably flattering.

Aged 70, short, size 14.

Thanks!

It's not going well, what an awful situation.

title speaks for itself. at what point in his life do we tell him, if ever? i feel like he has the right to know he was a twin, but i also don’t want him to feel the grief the way his dad & i feel it, or feel like hes not enough for us. he’s almost a year old so we have tons of time to figure this out, but what would you do? we talked about waiting until he’s in his teens so he can understand it better but i dont want him to be upset that we’ve kept something from him later down the line. how do we navigate this? how would you navigate this?

Can I ask for advice on how to handle this situation

I’ve been in a relationship with a man for 3 years , living together for 1. No kids (I’m mid 40s, he’s mid 50s). He was with someone for 20 years, 1 university aged child, she seems fine with him so no red flags there (she left him for someone else)

For the first time ever he shouted at me today … the reason was I heard a noise (worried it was a rat) and shouted for him to come down quickly (in case he could hear)

Apparently ‘being asked to drop everything’ is annoying to him. I explained that it was urgent…
This is v out of character- he’s usually v mild mannered

For context we are due to get married in a few months - I am the high earner in the relationship and it’s my house (he does a bit of freelancing)

Im concerned as I’m a bit vulnerable at the moment having lost my job 2 weeks ago (so now at home in the day focusing on my job search). I think he misses having the house to himself in the day & may be worried about money (he has serious savings from his earlier working life & inheritance)

I left & went back to my home office

Planning to tell him I won’t be yelled at (it might be overkill to say ‘so that again & the wedding is off /you need to leave’ - or maybe not?)

Anything else I need to do? Like refuse to spend time with him etc..?

Wary as my cousin’s (now ex) H started becoming abusive after marriage & ramped it up after pregnancy…

I can manage financially alone & fund most things including mortgage anyway

WWYD? Any advice for me please?

Welcome back everyone. New thread just in time for Black Friday.

How is everyone's self restraint looking? 😂😂😂

Fingers crossed for some good bargains this year especially all those advents that haven't sold out. We've probably bought some of those already but let's ignore that.

Happy bargain hunting. 😍

I am attending a wedding in December. I've decided I want a mini dress as my legs are my favourite asset. For context, Im early 30s, short, size 14 and suit strong colours or black over paler colours. Anything Ive seen is a bit too informal. Has anyone seen any that would be suitable? TIA

I know this is a controversial subject but I WILL be getting my daughter one. Can I afford it? Not really? Would she be the most appreciative and really value and love it? YES? So I am treating her to one.

but there are so many! Help me decide or give me ideas links welcome 🙏 I keep seeing them everywhere

Ideal budget 50-80 no more than 80

im not going to justify why I’m getting her one
she basically just deserves it and spent so much time and appreciation on her one I got her last years which was a Sephora one - can’t find the link but it was around £50 I think

she’s a 15 year old girl teen

I’ve noticed that when you’re considered an attractive woman, simply being around certain couples can create unnecessary tension. It’s almost as though some women assume you must be interested in their partner or that their partner must be interested in you, purely because of how you look. I’ve experienced this sort of thing since I was a teenager and I find it incredibly irritating.

I’ve never pursued another woman’s partner, never had an affair with someone else’s partner and never behaved in a way that would suggest I was interested. Yet sometimes it feels as though your mere presence is enough for people to make assumptions about your intentions.

AIBU to think it’s unfair to treat other women as potential threats simply because you find them attractive?