Non fatal strangulation and choking during sex

[ArabellaScott]

Grim read.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c62zwy0nex0o

Why do you have sex with him? That would have stopped the first time he did it.

Thanks for your input.

You don't care, therefore you can allow the rest of us to try and work out how best to minimise the risks to girls and young women.

Somebody in the room should be CPR trained.

Hopefully not the person being strangled🙄

Do you feel safe to tell him to stop it ?

It's not worth the risk - and it is definitely a kink and a power trip.

Heard an item on the news saying this is to be made illegal.

Hard agree. A particularly awful misogynistic trend spread by (anti)social media.

No one should accept this. Ever. It is NOT normal to want to choke a woman, ever.

Leave and divorce.

If you don’t like it, I don’t understand why you don’t just tell him. Perhaps he’s been conditioned by porn to think it’s what you expect.

Should we outlaw all non vanilla sex because some ott feminists have decided its too much for them to hear about, even if they don't participate? It's a bit much

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Nice.

My DD is 16 and still a virgin and has told me that she will stay that way until boys stop expecting this and anal as the norm. She's actually quite frightened that this is a possibility. So you could say she's pretty vanilla.

I'll continue to be an ott feminist if it raises awareness amongst our young people that certain practices are dangerous and disproportionately so to girls.

Calling it breath play and mocking others for their concern of the impact normalising it is having is really not a good look.

I'm just highlighting and reiterating this:

'... there is no safe way to choke somebody. As soon as you restrict the airflow or blood supply to the brain, you’re at risk of causing neurological injury. '

Whatever people's feelings on choking and strangulation, whether you feel it morally wrong or a daring way to 'empower' yourself, this is the crucial information that should be shared and understood by everyone.

Restricting blood supply or airflow can enhance orgasm. It can also cause serious injury or death.

I hope they hurry up. You cannot have young people growing up thinking this is acceptable or normal or worth trying even once.

I hope this will be the case, too. Unfortunately, casual sex has been sold to women as 'liberation', when it isn't at all, it's making oneself exploitable by men.

So who pick up the tab if it all goes wrong?

Should the hospitals and courts ignore that someone ended up with brain damage?

Put it into a box labled its just like boxing maybe a little more risky with a little sex on the side?

Tell him now - or leave him. I hope you don't have DC with this thoughtless, dangerous man.

It's amazing how women's empowerment and liberation intersects with male fantasy, isn't it? Who knew.

Lib femmery, ladettes, and girlpower - how much harm has that done to young women?

The same as when Women were told the lie that they could have it all, and for many it resulted in work not only in the home, but outside of it as well, and burnout, and a reliance on ADs.

No. He doesn’t squeeze really hard or anything like that and if I pull his hand away, he stops. I don’t particularly like it but never really thought to say no.

I don't believe women actively enjoy it. I think they do it for other social reasons.

It is not normal but men will do it if they get gullible women to fall for it, it's sickening but people choose to do it but there are women who will refuse to listen so nothing will change

Completely different issue, obviously. No-one’s suffering loss of oxygen to their brain and risking death or actually dying just from engaging in anal sex.

There is no ‘safe’ way to deprive the brain of oxygen. Slapping a twee name on strangulation doesn’t change that.

If you think it’s safe then you know fuck all about the brain.

I think any man that wants to do this to a woman has serious issues and this is a huge red flag. I've never come across this in my life and it's worrying as a trend.

I get that it can feel strange to say you don't like something that your partner has done for 15 years. But do you want this for another 30 years? That's the best case scenario.
The worst case scenario is that he accidentally kills you.

And here she is! A woman who is telling us it can be safe and it's something you can be 'into' - it's fine and enjoyable.
@WavyRavey , it's not fine and it's never safe. It's not exciting or fun being strangled, it's frightening and terrifying. Sex is about loving someone and pleasing them with pleasurable acts, not half-killing them in the pursuit of your pleasure - and it will be his pleasure (rape, dominance fantasies) not yours.

This is so scary! I worry so much for young women. I have noticed that a lot of young women who thought of themselves as straight are now having relationships with other women and finding other routes to motherhood outside heterosexual relationships.

My violent exh tried to strangle me. I am lucky to be alive and that I didn't experience brain damage (at least I don't think I did) because I felt myself losing consciousness as he did it. I have been single ever since I escaped the relationship and absolutely love my life. I couldn't have it any other way. I know it isn't all men, but I just can't risk it.