As for comments about 'hovering', I'm clearly getting very confused and misreading this:
The quote I've read upthread says:
JR: p262 in main bundle. This is re 24/12 incident. You say colleague leaves, you go to bathroom, other colleague leaves, you say 'she's still hovering' - can you describe where this means you and she were standing?
Now maybe I've totally lost the context, and I'm trying to understand it fully, but
If I was a woman who had been put in a position by a male that had made me feel uncomfortable, I'd expressed it made me feel uncomfortable but this male understanding how it was making me feel was still persisting on behaving in the same manner
...I think I'd be in a place of waiting around to ensure this male had definitely gone before I went somewhere or did something to ensure I really wasn't going to 'accidentally' get put in the same position again in a not so subtule demonstration of power.
And thats what I can't get my head around, because the quote states that Upton had ALREADY USED the shared facilities and therefore theorectically had no need to use them again for any time soon.
So my question is why was Upton was paying so much attention to where Sandie was all the time in this context. Thats not normal. Sandie's position is irrelevant at this stage. Why be so bothered by it? Sandie wasn't a threat - physically, verbally or otherwise. Sandie simply wanted to AVOID Upton and a difficult situation and thats what Sandie had expressed. Sandie did not want a conflict. Absoluetely nothing here says she wanted to provoke conflict - she just wanted privacy and dignity.
So why was Upton acting like SHE was the threat? Sandie really should have been invisible at this moment, especially if Upton saw 'all women' as equals and exactly the same. What was it that was problematic here if biologically they were all women? And what would Sandie make an allegation about??? On what grounds? It makes no logical sense as an argument.
Indeed if Upton really thought she might make these imagined erronenous allegations, then Upton's actions of self protection should have been to also avoid using the facilities at the same time as Sandie; not make comments about her hovering AFTER Upton had already left and used the facilities.
It does not make any sense to be monitoring Sandie so closely AFTER THE FACT.
Apart from in one scenario:
Upton was planning to make Sandie feel uncomfortable again and was pissed off that Sandie had Upton's number and was reading the situation enough, not to put herself into that potential scenario.
As I say, it really makes no logical sense to be worried about Sandie's location AFTER you've used the facilities for their intended purpose, if your concerns are all about Sandie making potential nefarious allegations and using them to oust you. You only might concern yourself if you were GOING to use them.
Unless of course its got nothing to do with using the ladies toilet or changing room at all. Its just a room after all. And instead its got everything to do with using the women who frequent them in some way whether it be validation, a power trip or for sexual gratification. (or a combination of the above).
Its another angle that I'm struggling to wrap my head around. I've tried to work out if I've got the context or understood the quote incorrectly, but it still makes no sense in terms of relevance. I can only assume I've got completely the wrong end of the stick or I can only draw the conclusion that this exchange is another weird own goal.