@NotAGentleReminder
I agree that grooming is involved, but I understand grooming to be the development of the trusting relationship so that, after such trust is developed, those acts can take place.
I’m talking here about the single intimate examination with an unconsenting adult. No long-term manipulation of trust beforehand at all.
It’s that. For those few minutes.
(And yes, of course I can imagine what is going on in his mind. And maybe he is giving enough clues about that to the average person after NC’s questions 🤞)