And again, this is the entirety of the terrible aggressive changing room incident which was so threatening that it gave DrU panic attacks and had to go off sick for 2 months:
DU - when I opened the cubicle door I saw just C
JR - then?
DU - went to sink to wash hand.
JR - C initiated conversation.
DU - C was standing at the end of lockers closest to sink
JR - body position.
DU - standing, looked comfortable facing me.
JR - how sere you feeling
DU - when I saw her and not my other colleagues I was anxious. ANy other time I had been in the CR she had left, so when I was alone with her I was anxious. The usual pattern is she knows I'm in CR she leaves. The way she was sat looking gave me the
DU - impression she was waiting for me.
JR - what did she say
DU - this is the women's CR it was inappropriate for me to be there, that she was intimidated and I shouldn't be there. That others felt similarly intimidated and I shouldn't be there
JR - what was the tone?
DU - clear, direct, maintained eye contact at all times, almost rehearsed sounding.
JR - what was her demeanour
DU - calm and ready to say something and she came out with that.
JR - your response?
DU - finished drying my hands. Apologised that
DU - she felt intimidated
J - repeat
DU - I apologised I explained I'm a woman and allowed to use the CR, there are channels she can use and this isn't an appropriate time or place to do it.
JR - the end?
DU - no it continued.
JR - who spoke
DU - she did
DU - she repeated it, that she understood I was undergoing some kind of process....
J - hang on (making notes)
DU - process but as a man I can't be in the CR. I said I'm not a man, this isn't appropriate and she should speak to someone more senior.
J - asks for pause.
DU - she said it wasn't safe for me to be there, asked what my chromosomes were, said it was analagous to the recent case, I assumed Isla Bryson...
JR - hang on please explain exactly the prisons comment
DU - she said it's like the situation in the prisons.
JR -what did you think
DU - I assumed she meant Isla Bryson, that she was comparing me to a sexual predator, there was an argument over men and women's estates
JR - she said you were a man, asked about chromosomes and prisons, how did you feel?
DU - awful, really really upset. I've never been spoken
DU - to like that. It was awful to be compared to someone like that. Someone casting aspersions on my people. I was upset and afraid actually I didn't know what it would mean going forward, would have to raise it but just wanted to extricate myself.
JR - why were you afraid?
DU - away from others, unlikely to be overheard, comparing you to someone who has committed terrible acts and they are confronting you and saying things about your community I was afraid. It was hurtful
JR - when did you write the note?
DU - maybe 25mins
DU - later.
JR - refs note. please read. you describe her cutting you off. describe from just before that.
DU - as in the note, she said others had similar concerns, I said I'd heard none, she said she was the only on who would speak up. Said didn't want to change
DU - in front of men. Bad experience with men. I sympathised and she cut me off saying you don't, if you did you wouldn't be changing in here.
JR - why did you say you understood/sympathised.
DU - didn't know her experience. As a woman I've also experienced everyday misogyny
DU - and patriarchy. I've been catcalled, touched on knee without consent, men have tried to hug me, made comments about my clothes. I empathise with that. Trans women and cis women are at risk. May not have same experience, but I was trying to understand based on my experience
JR - where were you when this happened?
DU - dried my hands, after first couple of sentences, stepped around C to the in
JR - ref picture, where was claimant?
DU - here she looked at me the whole time.
JR - what wa syour body position
DU - bent to pick up bag
JR - dressed?
DU -
DU - clothed the whole time
JR - you ref'd process of complaint?
DU - yes 3 or 4 times, every time she said something new, I would try and be calm and say I'm sorry you should raise this somewhere else.
JR - what was her response?
DU - carried on with comments, I'm indimidating
DU - shouldn't be here etc. eventually she agreed to raise it higher up and I left.
JR - you wnated the conversation to end why?
DU - it was deeply upsetting to have people say these things, I was upset and distressed.
JR - who ended the conv?
DU - hard to say. C said she would
DU - raise it, I may have said OK, it mutually ended like that.
JR - who left first?
DU - I did
JR - went where?
DU - tried to find consultant on call, overnight on A_E there's a registrar in charge and a consultant on call. If not busy consultant would be resting.
DU - so I knew likely Elspeth would leave a couple of hours after starting shift.
JR - where did you find her?
DU - went round whole dept at least once, asked registrar, found her eventually and asked for a conv.
JR - where did conv happen?
DU - well being room in A+E