Great. Son now says he’s trans.

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I am doing my best non judgemental listening but oh my god.

Middle child is “non binary”. Eldest today says the reason he’s not eating properly and why he was unhappy 4 years ago is because he’ll never be happy as a man, and he wants hormones surgery the lot.

I have been clear about my opinion re gender throughout their lives. I am glad they feel able to speak to me but I don’t know what to do. I’ve said I’ll book him a dr’s appointment, and suggested counselling. I feel it’s a case of too much internet but it’s hard to control that- they find old devices if you put restrictions on, and everything works off the internet these days.

My children clearly have their struggles but I feel a failure as a mother as I don’t feel strong enough to deal with them. I’ve already had time off work with stress this week. I feel I just cannot cope with anything any more. What the hell can I do?

They are about wishing trans people out of existence.

No.

The people on this board want what now even the surgeon who operated on Jazz Jennings now says, to be rigorously assessed and hard fast safeguarding practises to be in place.

Bowers, a TW, now says that PBs are inappropriate, partly as they deny a male patient the ability to ever orgasm as an adult and that media influences do affect young teens, especially females, and can therefore lead to mistake making.

Commiserations. See the following links. GDSN has group support:
Genspect genspect.org/
Gender Dysphoria Support Network (GDSN) genderdysphoriasupportnetwork.com/
Gender: A Wider Lens podcast gender-a-wider-lens.captivate.fm/
Transgender Trend www.transgendertrend.com/
Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Transgender pitt.substack.com/
Partners for Ethical Care www.partnersforethicalcare.com/
Society for Evidence-based Gender Medicine (SEGM) segm.org/
Stats for Gender www.statsforgender.org/
Bayswater bayswatersupport.org.uk/
Gender Dysphoria Alliance www.genderdysphoriaalliance.com/
TReVoices www.trevoices.org/
Parents of ROGD kids www.parentsofrogdkids.com/
Post trans post-trans.com/
Detrans Voices www.detransvoices.org/about/
Gender Health Query www.genderhq.org/

Trans activists - you will not win arguments here. Just give up in this forum. There are thousands of smart women here.

Glad I read this thread. A few posters back someone explained that practically all GP's and counsellors are now being told to be affirmational. I didn't know this. This change is subtle, but very toxic and I only see this as bad.

Also that the old reports and medical investigations are now outdated, because this new trans phenomenon which is all the rage / trend, is slightly different to the old one, so atm they don't have any data on how successful it is, how many will de-transition.

AgeOfReason99. What a great set of resources all in one place. This will be so helpful for my job. I'm going to make a note of those and pass them round to colleagues. Thanks so much for bumping this old thread and helping kids get the right support, instead of just reaffirming support. terfsarewrong.

What a great list @AgeOfReason99 - that will be useful as I prepare to submit my response to the government consultation for conversion therapy.

So will this

The Call Is Coming From Inside The House - short film www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4456148-the-call-is-coming-from-inside-the-house-short-film

That's great HolyJesus. Thats an informative video too. Our poor children. Thanks for posting. I'll share that with my work colleagues as well. And also use it to submit a response to the government consultation. Thank you 👍

@MrBlobbyLivesNextDoor

That's great HolyJesus. Thats an informative video too. Our poor children. Thanks for posting. I'll share that with my work colleagues as well. And also use it to submit a response to the government consultation. Thank you 👍

No worries Mr B, the deadline was extended until 4th Feb so there's still time.

Transgender Trend have some great advice on how to complete the survey if it helps.

That's good news that the deadline been extended. Plenty of time to make people aware of it. This is so important. I'll take a look at transgender trend.

@YearsSinceISawYou

John. You are a boy. Jane you are a girl. You might be gay, that's fine.

You cannot change sex or species.

Get on with life.

I am puzzled that someone would refuse to engage at all with discussions of gender in the sense that most people on this thread understand it –the wide sense of how gender roles are stereotyped etc.

If a boy asks 'why do my friends laugh if I say I want to play with Barbie?' or a girl asks why there's no rugby team for her at school, why (how) would you not discuss that?

Thanks @AgeOfReason99 for that comprehensive list of support organisations and inspiration for who to donate to next