Jm strikes me as young. Not in a bad way or good way just in that awkward uncomfortable way we all are at some point. She seems to care alot & come accross as an over eager puppy when it comes to social justice. I willingly admit that would have been me too. Young people live their lives on sm & that's normal to them in a way it isn't to me. Probably more so for semi-celeb figures. So I don't particularly care either way & I don't know enough about some of the other irritating or offensive shit she may have done to be annoyed by her. I like the reciepes & food bank campaigning.
She strikes me as vulnerable. And there can be strength in acknowledging vulnerability but I guess I don't see that in her yet. Maybe that's why she seems so young to me.
But reading what she says here about her son is what stands out. The list of reading books etc as if that's evidence of his stability & her identity dysphoria not effecting him. This is what doesn't make sense. I do all of those things with my kids. Yet they are not stable. In part because they inherited my disabilities plus extra ones of their own and in part because I allow them to be unstable, because vulnerable children often are. And children are vulnerable. Some are much cannier than others and I wouldn't doubt that carefully, appropriately explained a child could cope with a parents lived experience of dysphoria. But equally there are those who would be greatly confused by it. And carefully, approproriately explaining it to him is not what she communicated here. She didn't need to justify herself at all, she didn't need to mention her son, but if she wanted to communicat how to help a kid understand this would have actually been really useful. The list of parenting merits seemed more virtue signalling more than anything. She seems very loving and nurturing and knowing how she helped him navigate this while she was struggling with that herself would have been informative. Being stable doesn't mean it didn't effect him. Many children appear stable but are effected negatively and it only comes out as adults. And being effected negatively doesn't mean she's not a great parent or that she doesn't love him. It's just that children are effected by what their parents go through. Ime all this kids are resilant & stable etc is just kids demonstrating back to their parents what they see their parents need from them. Because kids are confused about life an awfull lot without adding in parental instabilities (not knocking her, plenty of us have different struggles, through zero fault of our own) and the he's so super stable stuff just doesn't add up to me.
So just 2 pense worth & all. On an oldish thread.