On the verge of kicking her out eldest DD16

[Pisssssedofff]

She hits her siblings and really hurts them aged 12 and 6. My son when he was interviewed by the court over custody thing drew my eldest dd in the sad house.

I kind of feel these incidents are happening more frequently with exam pressure. I'm on my own with 4 of them. In a three Bed house. It's pretty much like living in a pressure cooker

Pressed post too early.

Basically you and her step dad are partly to blame. Sorry but kids aren't born bad. Basically if you carry on you'll push her out she'll be in a hostel or sheltered housing if she's lucky. Maybe the streets and then her life is one big shit pan slide to no whare Reach out and get help.
For your self and for her.

Perfect' behaviour at school and violence/lack of empathy at home do sound like red flags to investigate Aspergers or autism. It isn't normal behaviour.

Or that she is reacting to the dynamic in the home.

Or both.

Last time social services came to my house because my ex made ridiculous and I mean ridiculous allegations about me, dismissed instantly the moment the woman walked in the house, I can honestly say I nearly threw up with stress and anxiety afterwards. My choice in furniture was critiqued, the fact that my younger two share a bed room was critiqued, nothing done to help - not that they can - but you know what I mean. Couldn't pin the alleged issue on me so sat in my house slagging off the sofa, I'm serious

Slagging off your sofa?

Slagging off what about your sofa?

Well find for calling the head of year.

Is your ex the father?

Oh it had water stains on it from my youngest spiling drinks, so it needed replacing you know £700 just plucked out of nowhere or had I considered a throw. I'm not joking.

My eldest son father has never seen her, he has two other daughters and no interest in her which is tragic

My eldest daughter that should say, auto correct

So call the GP instead.

You (all) have a big problem. You can do something that starts to solve the problem, or you can all stay there slowly drowning. All you have to do is dial a number.

It is tragic and I imagine no one is feeling that more than her. She's hurting op and your job is to make it better. Sort yourself out (get to gp today) and then work on her.

So what are you going to do op?

Option 1) throw kid out. But still have loads of other problems and the worry of you dd.
Option 2) reach out for help and start working in your problems over time. Things slowly get better.
Option 3) do nothing untill someone is seriously hurt and social services etc all get involved.

But surely a social worker slagging off the sofa is preferable to
you feeling almost suicidal (" I genuinely think they would get better J st getting my life insurance"), your eldest being on the streets and your youngest being assaulted?

Okay, so the worst that happens is that someone makes pernickity home decor suggestions.

But they won't this time, because there is a real problem you'll be asking for help with, that they will be engaging with instead of looking at your sofa.

Get some help.

donajimena

You sent me a PM with your report about me, instead of MNHQ. The report button is on the right hand side.

So i guess you are just going to sit at home raging at random people on an internet forum, changing nothing? What exactly do you want us to say?

You have got my back up and i have never met you. I can actually imagine how you would be if a SW walked in to your house to try and engage with you. SW don’t have magic wands, they need t interact with you, talk to you find out about you. The SW who talked about the sleeping arrangement and your sofa may have been trying to help you.

I don’t think any of us can help you if you won’t help yourself.

This cannot be real.

Your kids share a bed. You can't afford £700 for a sofa.
But you can afford £700 every month for rent on a flat or boarding school?

Exactly

donajimena

You sent me a PM with your report about me, instead of MNHQ. The report button is on the right hand side.

Oops!

Easily done on the app. I did the opposite once and told MNHQ how to get a private prescription for something

But you can afford £700 every month for rent on a flat or boarding school?

I think she just literally wants to throw her out.

I didn't even know there was a "message poster" button there until now.

I have been memorising usernames or copying and pasting in order to send PMs for nearly 4 years.

Earlier on she said she'd rent a flat for her just to get her out the house. Someone mentioned boarding school and op said she could afford it and is an idea.
Just weird if you have that spare every month that you'd live in a house that's too small and not have enough beds or be able to get a new sofa.
Just seems a bit odd to me

Ah share a bedroom! Apologies

Odd is the word.