Honestly, this board is not a nice place

[TheMumsRush]

Sick of goady fuckers, trolls and people coming to bash SM from all angles! Some of the "advise" is shocking. If you try it's "step back, not your kids!" But if you don't it's "you're cold and the kids know it". And god forbid you just have a rant that you can't in RL. I see the same posters with the same SM hating shite!

That sounds like something a pharmacist could deal with

("I seem to have an overly invested arse...")

Ha! Tis your fault for being called Arse. Everything I say seems like I am making constant references to you derriere

At the risk of being deleted for TAAT, the post you refer to flossy was one in which nicki was expressing personal frustration because of the decisions the OP was saying she had made.

That is exactly the type of situation I think the MN guidance applies to; one in which your own emotions are affected by the content/material in other peoples posts.

Spending lots of time posting on MN isn't overly-invested per-se (any more than playing candy crush or looking at cute cat videos is) it's how you feel when your posting and the value you place on your time, that MN are referring to, I think.

TBH, Floss, I think it is a fairly straightforward case of you being overly invested in my arse. You need to disengage from my derriere a bit I think. MN posting guidelines and all that.

But there is always emotion in life Wakey.

Yes nicki was frustrated by the posters actions as was I and many others and she expressed that on the thread but that does not mean she is going to carry that with her for the rest of the day. I have seen you invested in threads Wakey but you do have a unique knack for only seeing the actions of others and never yourself. What you said to Nicki was not in a concerned way it was meant to insult and you know it.

The more you post Wakey the clearer your controlling and frankly deluded personality shows. You have been outed as a fibber on this thread yet you have yet to address it. Pause also called you out on something you denied saying and again you have not addressed it. The more you post the more you lose credibility.

(Oh god, you're going to vandalize my chair now aren't you? )

No that chair is beyond help

That is exactly the type of situation I think the MN guidance applies to; one in which your own emotions are affected by the content/material in other peoples posts.

Are you advocating keeping emotion off the SP board then?

I was about to post but you seem to have covered ALL the angles flossy so I don't need to

The more you post Wakey the clearer your controlling and frankly deluded personality shows.

And there I was thinking this thread had made some form of breakthrough and we'd all agreed to disagree. 14 pages and there'd been no personal attacks, just a frank exchange of views.

Shame.

It is not a personal attack. It is how you come across to me.

I have not called you names or sworn at you. I have stated that when you are saying things like it is ok for a SM to come on here and gain favor and sympathy for life problems that are not her own and are in fact the exw problems then that to me is deluded.
When you constantly push your beliefs/experiences/pov on to others regardless of content or subject matter that to me is controlling.

These are observations Wakey not personal attacks.

All you're doing at the moment Wakey is weakening your argument by blindly contradicting yourself because you never, ever back down.

Argument? Backing down? Perhaps I'm not taking this seriously enough, but I thought we were having a lighthearted debate to fill some time on a quiet Saturday morning!

Lighthearted or not Wakey a debate is a debate.

A line of argument either stacks up or it doesn't.

A participant either contradicts herself or she doesn't.

Or, changes their position as the debate progresses in the face of convincing argument to contrary ?

And of course if that is what you were doing you'd be keen to make that clear?

What you're really being is a little bit silly Wakey.

You don't have much genuine interest in resolving tension on the board do you?

You don't have much genuine interest in resolving tension on the board do you?

I'd say I'm probably less committed than some, but definitely more committed then others. A nice, on the fence answer.
Actually, I think it's probably beyond resolving.

You need to check you position on that fence Wakey as you fall off it a lot.

See, and it all gets personal again, which brings everyone down to the same level.

A lovely derailment from the content being discussed, allowing people to avoid answering difficult questions.

I am pretty they welcome the opportunity to avoid answering the difficult questions. It's a often employed at tactic by certain posters.

Pretty certain

Just popped by because I'm fairly regular on the SP board and have generally found it to be extremely insightful, actually a lifeline to me but it can be fraught with danger, especially for newcomers.

When I first joined, i was shocked that someone was calling their 6 year old a lazy tyke and how it wasn't their job to do things like teaching them to tie shoe-laces etc etc. At the time I thought it sounded mean and spiteful to a small child and did say something. Very naive of me I know, and I got a drubbing for it, but I have broad shoulders.

What I now realise is that people sometimes do just need an outlet to "vent" and OK it doesn't make it sound any better, knowing that, but it is understandable. Some of the complexities of blended and step families are really stressful, enough to drive people insane. There is invariably a big back-story that isn't possible to include in the OP. Sometimes the little things, the shoe laces or whatever, are only the straw that breaks the camel's back.

Based on my own SP story which was massively stressful for several years, I think I got off lightly! But hopefully the few suggestions Ive made and a handhold here and there are what I can give back from time to time.