Honestly, this board is not a nice place

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Sick of goady fuckers, trolls and people coming to bash SM from all angles! Some of the "advise" is shocking. If you try it's "step back, not your kids!" But if you don't it's "you're cold and the kids know it". And god forbid you just have a rant that you can't in RL. I see the same posters with the same SM hating shite!

But they don't get dealt with do they ? Because they just stay within talk guidelines.

And are well aware of it.

I mean all over the boards, not just here.

Fenton Hello I don't know you but I read your flouncing thread early (it's linked, totally not stalking you honest )

MrsV You make some good points.

Wakey You are the go to person for all things legal in my book. I have in the recent past pointed posters in the direction of one of your threads for info on all the legal/court stuff which I have zero knowledge about. Sometimes I think you just need to lighten up a bit (your bun references did make me lol) and not piss on everyone's bonfire regarding SPing

Arse & Nicky we hold similar views as some will know Hatters 1 anybody? regarding language used to describe children. I don't like it on any board no matter who it is said by. To me there is a difference between DS1 has been a fucking nightmare today he's a monster & DS1 is a fucking nightmare, he is such a little shit I' can't bear him near me and wish he would fuck off. I would except the first is a frustrated vent but I would challenge the second as it sounds much more venomous and hateful.

So to do so only here would be giving some special power of censorship to the OPs on SP.

Exactly!

And yet twice on this thread, it has been highlighted that (and I paraphrase) "it was all going well, and we were reaching a positive agreement, until someone else came along and derailed it"

Surely that is the nature of foums? Resurrecting zombie threads is different, but if comments made less than 24 hours after the thread was created are considered intrusive, then maybe a chat room is a better option?

Flossy

Some ? Some ? Just some ?

NOT REALLY !

Well I thought the stately homes style support thread was a really good idea.

It would be a shame to be derailled from that with out further consideration.

I couldn't flounce if I tried.

Fall tit over arse on the way out yes.

Shhhh Mrs If I had said every point there would have been talk and whispers

I forgot to add Wakey I think a stately homes type thread is a good idea.

your bun references did make me lol

...and yet I was biscuited-possibly my first in this persona

But, thank you, a voice of moderation on a contentious thread.

I don't give out biscuits. They look like bum holes to me........or is that the point

..and yet I was biscuited-possibly my first in this persona

Oh gawd, I'm badly in need of irony marks aren't I?

Biscuit, bun, geddit?

Yes, I have done it, Wakey. But that's irrelevant.

What you seem to be asking for doesn't sound OK. If I've understood right - and correct me if I haven't - you're asking:

"how can a quiche on the Stepboard protect itself from that kind of interference", where the interference you mean is someone wading into a quiche and challenging a longstanding member.

But how is that a bad thing that should be stopped? It might be a difficult thing for the challenger to do, as you feelingly describe. But that doesn't make it of itself a bad thing.

Sometimes challenging someone, regardless of their status among their mates, is a very good thing to do. Chipping in just to be goady, on the other hand, is bad whenever it's done.

So trying to prevent contributions (rather than prevent goading) isn't the right way to go about things.

I think it's just frustrating when things appear to be moving forward for people to come on and post the same old tired arguments. I don't think it's wrong to say so either.

But, thank you, a voice of moderation on a contentious thread.

Not really, I said earlier you had caused a raucous on this thread then I flounced and then I came back but I appreciate the thank you

Let's all have this is exhausting.

Eclair emoticons would be good though Nicki

Sometimes challenging someone, regardless of their status among their mates, is a very good thing to do. Chipping in just to be goady, on the other hand, is bad whenever it's done.

Yes, this.

Arse considering you are called Arse you are the only one qualified to give out bum hole biscuits

I think it's just frustrating when things appear to be moving forward for people to come on and post the same old tired arguments. I don't think it's wrong to say so either.

And the fact that something didn't work two years ago doesn't mean it wouldn't work now.

The climate is different now.

I can't have cake. I haven't had dinner yet.

Really Floss! How vulgar!

Besides, I have a rampant eclair craving now.

Can we talk more about the Stately homes type thread?

Due to my earlier bitch flounce I missed out on discussing it and I honestly think it is worth a try.

I assume we have all been here long enough to know that things are cyclical here.

No reason to not give something a try though.

was brdgrl's support thread not setup as exactly that sort of thread?

And I agree with you Wakey. That did sound rather like someone trying to run you off a thread, whether they meant it that way or not.

It's also true that you had shifted the focus of the thread. Which is allowed but people are also allowed to complain.

I'm trying not to get back into the he-said-she-saids here, so...

How about that Stately-Homes-type thread? (Not for me, I'm mostly a lurker here and only post because I get a lot out of reading the positive threads and hate when it goes bunfighty.)

I'm in favour