DH bring SD away for night

[stepontoes]

Hi,
I'm new to this forum.
Can I run something by you that I'm totally confused by? My DH is taking his daughter (my step daughter who doesnt live with us) away for a day together as she normally goes on holidays with her biological mother and we go on holiday with our kids. She is 17 years of age, tall and slim and is always stuck to his side and quite touchy feely with him. He tells me they may stay the night somewhere. Do you think its ok for them to share a twin room or should they get two separate rooms? I'm so confused as find this step parenting is a minefield of emotions and so glad that there is a forum like this for other step-mothers as unless you are a step mother yourself it is very hard for others to understand the complex emotions you go through! Also, none of my friends are step mothers!
Thanks a lot
stepontoes

Me, DS and DD went to a family wedding last year. He's in his twenties and she's a teenager. We got a family room for one night because it was heaps cheaper.

DS is tall and dark and very handsome (I would say that wouldn't I?) and DD is tall and blonde and willowy and gorgeous (again, I would say that wouldn't I?). I am short and fat and grey but I dye my hair.

Does that mean it was OK?

OP
You only need to be worried if you are married to a Roman Emperor
As we've moved on a little from those times I think you are quite safe

Yes I also ran this past DH who nearly fell of the ironing board and said 'unbelievable'

Why was your DH on the ironing board??

Well. You gotta keep em up to appropriate standards....

I've let him off it now

Yes that should have been 'fell over' not 'of'

I'm a stepmother and I find your post pretty bizarre tbh....... would I mind if my DH shared a room with his daughter? Of course not! The thought wouldn't even cross my mind.

I had to read your post a few times to see if I had misunderstood it.

It seems like you are at the worst, thinking there might be a risk of something incestuous going on, and at the nest, jealous of his daughter!

I'm thinking that thebluehen has probably hit the nail on the head here.

at Breville's dh falling off the ironing board

A tall, slim ironing board?!?!

Do people have to continue taking the piss out of the op with ridiculous comparisons?

That many true but I don't see the need for the continued piss taking, she just might not be posting now but still reading. It's like a school ground with everyone laughing at her

Who's laughing at the OP?

I thought they were laughing at Breville who appears to keep her DH on the ironing board.

Mumsrush - the thread has degenerated into bitchy playground meanness!
Nasty!

You only need to read back a bit floss. The same old thing being said over and over again. It's just not nice and not helpful or constructive. It's ok to disagree with the OP but to blatantly take the piss I think is just plain mean.

OP, if you are still here, can I ask how old your SD was when you got together with her Dad? I think that you are perceiving her (quite logically) as a young woman to whom you are not related and your gut reaction is based on this. As such it is completely understandable reaction but I think the issue here is that your gut reaction isn't taking into account your DH and SD's perception: he doesn't see her as a young woman whom he doesn't know well: he sees her as his little girl.

I am a Step Mother. We camp as a blended family and my DP co parents my children as well as his own. As such I'd have no concerns about my DP even sharing a room with one of my daughters, let alone his.....however, I cannot imagine any of the teens (between 13 and 16) wanting to share with him on a one to one basis. They are generally far to self-conscious at that age.
I'd let your DH and his daughter work it out between them to be honest.

I haven't accused everyone, nor have I singled anyone out. I'm going by what I've read. No wonder the op has left the thread.

I'm sorry but I can't see it. The only laughing and grins I see are aimed at Breville.

There were early comments regarding the 'tall & slim' statement but tbh they were, in my opinion, very tongue in cheek.

Most posters have disagreed with her. They have answered the question she asked so I don't really see how it is bullying when she asked for peoples opinions.

Fair enough, I'm wrong. No one took the piss and kept on with the same old tongue in cheek statements

I don't understand TheMum.

Are you saying that people cannot comment on the thread?
Or they can but only if they agree with her no matter what she says otherwise they are bullies?

The OP's thoughts are ludicrous and could be very damaging towards the father and his daughters relationship. I think posters have expressed that in different ways and so they should. The only reason the statements are the same old ones is because maybe there is some truth behind them.

So Maryz the 'joke' about the ironing board being tall and slim was not about the OP then???
At least own it!!!!

No floss that's not what I'm saying as I said in my post at 17:57. Also I haven't called anyone a bully. That, in my opinion is different to taking the piss.

Oh I have just seen that one and I did giggle.

However maybe if the OP sees what a ridiculous statement that was to make she may start feeling a little differently towards her DSD.

In all honesty I have seen nasty bullying threads and I wouldn't say this was one of them but that's just me. If you feel that people are bullying then report them. Easiest way really.