DH bring SD away for night

[stepontoes]

Hi,
I'm new to this forum.
Can I run something by you that I'm totally confused by? My DH is taking his daughter (my step daughter who doesnt live with us) away for a day together as she normally goes on holidays with her biological mother and we go on holiday with our kids. She is 17 years of age, tall and slim and is always stuck to his side and quite touchy feely with him. He tells me they may stay the night somewhere. Do you think its ok for them to share a twin room or should they get two separate rooms? I'm so confused as find this step parenting is a minefield of emotions and so glad that there is a forum like this for other step-mothers as unless you are a step mother yourself it is very hard for others to understand the complex emotions you go through! Also, none of my friends are step mothers!
Thanks a lot
stepontoes

Yes and I think the point was made long ago

Sorry Themum I didn't mean to imply that you had called anyone a bully.

So what is your point then?
Is it that you feel posters shouldn't be laughing at the comment about being 'tall & slim'?

I made my point in my post at 17:57. I obviously people can disagree with the OP, I myself didn't agree with her but sometimes enough is enough and it isn't about helping or being constructive anymore, but just about making someone feel stupid and not dropping it.

I can see what you are saying but with threads they kind of run on and on.
People will see it and want to add their 2 pence. You can't kind of go 'ok the OP has been told the same thing 10 times so that's enough no more posting'.

In this instance I think the OP should feel a bit stupid given the very damaging thoughts she had. As I said maybe seeing how ridiculous her statements are may just change her view. I'm not advocating it for every thread but it may help on this one. Plus I find the OP's username to be very telling.

Well the OP has gone so you are all talking to yourselves!
It's not constructive anymore.
And yes it is getting nasty.

Your quite rude aren't you Kaluki.

If you feel it is nasty than report it or hide the thread. Whinging about it is solving nothing.

A double room might be a bit odd, but I see nothing at all wrong with a twin. I would have shared a room with my dad at that age, and still would now.

Yes I can see your point to, for me, I just thought it was getting a bit tired but someone new may not have read the whole thread and start over again.

I was going to ask the op at what age she met her dsd, my dsd is only young so years down the line I can't ever imagine worrying about DH and dsd sharing a room, but it might be different for someone who met their dsd as a young adult and not see it for the relationship it is iyswim (I'm probably wrong and going to get flamed now )

How am I rude?
I just can't see the point of taking swipes at an OP who has long ago left the thread.
It just smack of playground bitchiness to me.

On a thread of 186 posts I can see around 5-8 posts that are poking fun at the OP regarding the 'tall & slim' comment.
I do not see that as a thread which has descended in to the realms of playground bitchiness. Just because the OP has decided not to post again does not mean people cannot comment on the thread.

Thread policing gets up my nose Kaluki as I said if you feel so stronhgly report and hide it.

Themum I wouldn't say you were wrong at all to wonder that.

I would say more than 5-8 posts having a dig at the tall and slim comment but actually I can't be arsed to read through it and count them all!
You're right though - I will hide this thread now. It's pointless!
Life's too short !!!

Sorry I was being silly.

In my defence, I did helpfully (?) ask the op if this was just the tip of the iceberg earlier on in the thread.

At 18 I went camping with my dad for a week and shared a 2 man tent... It's my dad not some random man! Of course twin rooms are fine.

OP is obviously sexually threatened by his daughter. Totally nuts. She needs her head read.

This scenario made me chuckle...

I can just imagine my DH in a room with one of his daughters overnight, it would be 'dad,dad,dad, daddy, dad...' (DH with pillow over his head trying to get some sleep!)

And yes, the eldest is slim but not tall!