Anal fisting (sorry)

[Bumfunname]

I don't know where else to ask this. Apologies if it puts you off your dinner.

Over the past year or so Dh and I have been pushing boundaries with each other further and further. A combination of our youngest child sleeping through reliably and more free time in the evenings, I suppose. We've always enjoyed anal sex together and a fair bit of bdsm type activities. Lately the spanking and the like has increased, which we are both happy with.

Last night took a turn for the proper perverted, as we (fully consensually and to great mutual enjoyment) ended up with him actually fisting my anus. It was all very slow and careful and an incredible turn on, but today I have freaked myself out with thoughts of fissures and tears etc

It kind of feels like the last taboo and certainly isn't something we'll do daily, but I did wonder just how dangerous it is and if there's anything we can do to make it safer.

I know it's not the most mainstream of practices (and I'm more than a bit mortified to be posting about it) but I wondered if any aficionados might be around to reassure me that fine right it can be safe.

A thousand thank yous to anyone who can help.

While you can't eliminate the risk, you can educate yourself in order to minimise it. RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) is the way to go if you are of a kinky disposition.

Derailing threads and shaming women in order to stop them talking about sex is not helpful in any way.

Op, dont be put off by a few people who's main concern is to try to ridicule and take the piss. The fish puns were funny but then it just got mean. Mn is getting worse with people just trying to be funnier, cruel and meaner.show offs!

Of course people are going to take the piss.

The sex topic is a fairly new addition to the site, most people found their way to mn cos they were pregnant/already had kids/became carers/nannies/adopters & fosterers etc.

So you probably wont find to many people here into having a fist up the shitter, and even if there are, they probably use better websites than mumsnet to ask such niche questions.

If you were on a dedicated sex or fetish site you would probably get more serious answers.

Lolz at op saying her and AF 'know" each quite well. the thread that keeps on giving.

if op "knows" me, she will be aware of my views already

I am not exactly shy in expressing them. And if she is still "talking to me" in her usual name, then I assume she doesn't bear grudges just like I don't

me Absentmindedwoman's post summed up why someone might post on the (dedicated!) Sex topic on MN rather than on, for example, a BDSM site...

if you ask on a bdsm forum etc, you're getting responses from a particular set of people, but on Mumsnet you get a cross section. Some people who are very adventurous and into kink or whatever, and then others who don't want to do that stuff. So you get a balanced response, which is useful when you're trying to work out your own feelings about something.

No grudges beared.

We've known each other for years on here and FB. You'd never know I was a kinkster based on my real life. I'm very middle of the road, generally.

Really, BumFun?. You are in a group I am now barred from (fucking FB ?)

I miss you, whoever you are

Dude, stop posting about having things up your arse on the WWW. It's not cool. just do it in a closed group

I should have known, tbh. The good humour about the fish puns... Gah. < flagellates self >

It's surely not that unusual to not be as vanilla as some of the dominant mn posters?

Totally agree with how irritating the shutting down by the more conservative posters is.

Do what you like, if it feels nice then why not, ive had a fisher and a pile before though due to constipation (not much smaller than a fist pmsl) don't worry and have fun

I had to name change just to read this thread, I don't frequent the sex page, ever.!! Runs away quick>>>>>>>>>>> with hands covering exit.
Keep the fun going AF

rather than the whole fish, try one or two fishfingers first. Cod liver oil can be used as a lube.

Try it on him - maybe eel like it too