I don't know where else to ask this. Apologies if it puts you off your dinner.
Over the past year or so Dh and I have been pushing boundaries with each other further and further. A combination of our youngest child sleeping through reliably and more free time in the evenings, I suppose. We've always enjoyed anal sex together and a fair bit of bdsm type activities. Lately the spanking and the like has increased, which we are both happy with.
Last night took a turn for the proper perverted, as we (fully consensually and to great mutual enjoyment) ended up with him actually fisting my anus. It was all very slow and careful and an incredible turn on, but today I have freaked myself out with thoughts of fissures and tears etc
It kind of feels like the last taboo and certainly isn't something we'll do daily, but I did wonder just how dangerous it is and if there's anything we can do to make it safer.
I know it's not the most mainstream of practices (and I'm more than a bit mortified to be posting about it) but I wondered if any aficionados might be around to reassure me that fine right it can be safe.
A thousand thank yous to anyone who can help.