Anal fisting (sorry)

[Bumfunname]

I don't know where else to ask this. Apologies if it puts you off your dinner.

Over the past year or so Dh and I have been pushing boundaries with each other further and further. A combination of our youngest child sleeping through reliably and more free time in the evenings, I suppose. We've always enjoyed anal sex together and a fair bit of bdsm type activities. Lately the spanking and the like has increased, which we are both happy with.

Last night took a turn for the proper perverted, as we (fully consensually and to great mutual enjoyment) ended up with him actually fisting my anus. It was all very slow and careful and an incredible turn on, but today I have freaked myself out with thoughts of fissures and tears etc

It kind of feels like the last taboo and certainly isn't something we'll do daily, but I did wonder just how dangerous it is and if there's anything we can do to make it safer.

I know it's not the most mainstream of practices (and I'm more than a bit mortified to be posting about it) but I wondered if any aficionados might be around to reassure me that fine right it can be safe.

A thousand thank yous to anyone who can help.

It wasn't designed for a fish

Fist*

I'd presume you are fine if no bleeding or pain today. Have you pooed since? Lots of lube and patience but I wouldn't make a habit of it.

Lmao at fish ...

Sorry op

Google is probably your friend. But ffs clear your browsing history!

Yeah definitely stay away from the fish.

Also fists.

Why, i wonder, would you choose mumsnet to make such enquiries? There are surely more specialised forums out there to provide the reassurance you seek.

Stag I've been here for ten years. Where else would I ask?

Have pooed, normally. No bleeding
or pain, slight discomfort this morning but not pain

Dying at the fish. There were no fish involved, I promise.

A fish up your bum made me proper laugh out loud especially as it seemed to tuna you ona fist up your bum didn't make me laugh sounds bloody awful

I'm broad minded, OP, and generally believe each to their own.

But.

Doing that too often will not end well for you.

Try a butt plug. That way DH can get the benefit too.

You're super cool.

What is fisting? Is it a man punching your anus trying to gain entry?

How unlike the homelife of our own dear Queen

It's not punching! Just gentle stretching until (oh god its mortifying) all five fingers are up there.

We've often practiced vaginal fisting but that's never worried me (three natural births with no pain relief, I'm clearly built for stretching down there).

I've had to drink several gins before plucking up the courage to post so please be nice.

Do you have pads to catch your bowel contents?

I enjoy anal,
Not all the time but every so often,
Weirdly though I hate my bum getting touched,
Penis yes.
Finger / hand no.
Definitely not something I would be up for.

Each to their own though!

A fist is thoroughly enjoyable to but only ever tried it vaginally..

I'm sure if you had done any damage you would know / be in pain today?
Try not to worry.

I think the way you're feeling today maybe tells you it's not something you are that comfortable with & should maybe be consigned to the tried it wasn't a fan category.

Oh god. See, that's the kind of thing I'm worried about.

We've been having anal sex on the reg for over ten years though, with no adverse effects. Maybe I'm just stretchy?

I can't believe I'm talking about this on here tbh, if you met me you'd think I was quite normal.

What does any of this have to do with the referendum?

Each to their own and all that between consenting adults. My main concern would be long term damage of the anal sphincter and lining of the bowel. I guess loads of lube and very gentle going would be the best way but tbh I would worry about faecal incontinence now and in the future.

I did really enjoy it. I'm just worried because it's well known that it's not a safe thing to do.

AF - I have just yelled with laughter at your post.

Thank you. Much needed.

I'm not anti bumsex and I don't believe that it leads to poo incontinence and all the rest if done properly but fgs a whole fist up your arse is daft. Probably don't do it again.

Anything else I can help you with iMatter ?

You matter, my dear