Daughter being excluded from prom

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My daughter is year 11 and sits GCSEs next month. She has struggled throughout the whole of secondary school with friendships, MH/school anxiety, behaviour and approximately a year ago almost got sent to pru. She has never settled in school. However she has made significant improvement, not on any behaviour plan, is revising hard and should pass GCSEs and do her chosen subjects in college.

She has autism, anxiety and some physical health issues that are likely linked. Getting her into school is a struggle as she feels unhappy there but we make the effort and her attendance is good.

Although much improved her behaviour score is not high enough to meet the 90% prom threshold (reminders, uniform points and gokng to toilet when not permitted). She was informally told this week the final decision is that she will be excluded from prom.

Now all the girls have their tickets and she is beside herself. They are all making plans and talking about dresses and she now feels unable to continue going to school due to feeling so distressed about this. She is worried how she will cope with the sense of exclusion having to keep hearing about prom in school and assemblies

She's now at home. I have written to the school and submitted 2 complaints over the last 2 months however I have not received a satisfactory response. There has been no communication to me from the school about their decision or how they will support those excluded. Please can someone advise how I can escalate this further and if possible externally.

What an f'ing arsey response!!! This is the last 'big' event in a child's schooling which involves all their peer group! How bloody insensitive are schools to exclude pupils who have not been malicious or bullying just because they have MH or physical issues which impact on their attendance. The school need to bloody grow up and realise this is absolutely NOT appropriate punishment for attendance issues!

Because once she gets into the workplace her employers will totally understand that she doesn't feel like going to work and will fall over backwards to accommodate her and ensure that there's always a place for her at work social occasions

How bloody insensitive are schools to exclude pupils who have not been malicious or bullying just because they have MH or physical issues

How do you know this is true? By OPs account her child has walked out of lessons. I bet there's more to this story.

To go to the toilet!! I would too! I do in work and also in meetings if necessary. Not to be awkward or obstructuve but because occasionally it's necessary! The OP is upset and confused because the misdemeanors have been relatively minor and infrequent. A child with anxiety isn't attention seeking or trying to be difficult and over the course of 5 years at school most of us might get a couple of black marks or oush the boundaries. The level of punishment in this instance is way OTT for the situation she describes.

Because school is not a workplace it's a set of people you entrust your children to and hope they are going to support them. 14/15 year olds are not adults and no one expects them to be that's why they aren't generally in workplaces. Yes some are exceptionally able but a lot aren't. Social development is essential not optional for children if schools are going to contribute to that they should be promoting confidence during transition not trying to exclude kids to make some kind of point about past behaviour. . . There is no evidence such exclusion promotes enhanced performance it would probably be bullying if this as stated occurred in a workplace without a sound health/ safety reason.