Husband said he wants to split up and I’ve been totally blindsided - part 2

[mummy917]

Made a new thread as the original one is almost full 😊rel

Not enough petrol to drive his kids to school, but spent 400 pounds on a tattoo this month?

A PRINCE among men! 🤣

Just maybe it might be a good move for the children and for financial fairness if you grit your teeth, get the ex to come round and split everything that possibly hasn't been sorted? Half the bedlinen, half the children's clothes, half the toys, half the shampoo, half the Christmas decorations and other apparently petty stuff. Act as if 50/50 is going to work. You're then squeaky clean on absolute fairness and it'll be so, so much easier if the DCs can find things that they know are theirs at their father's home. Because then they may be less disturbed about being away from 'home' (I.e. their lovely mother) if the other place has stuff that feels like home too. (They won't care about beds and sofas: they will care a lot about things like familiar pyjamas and books and bedside lights).

OP, I think we all could have predicted he was going to be useless with getting the kids set up and everything, but I did not anticipate the sheer scale of the uselessness that has unfolded over this weekend. The man can't even sort out the most basic of basic things - beds, bedding, cutlery and plates. WTAF? Does everyone not know that you need these things when you move somewhere new? Also, he needs his mummy to come round and help him with his own children! I know there are four of them, but if he'd actually been doing as much parenting as you, he would have been OK. Kind of makes me laugh to think of him and your MIL struggling through, when you've always just handled everything.

The thing about him always being in shorts 🤣🤣🤣🤣