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Partner wants me out and I do not feel able to cope alone

250 replies

Purplehearts45 · 05/06/2026 13:33

He keeps trying to chuck me out the house he said your gone after I made a mess several times in the bathroom . recently I spoke to some people at a shop they asked if I was okay so I told them a bit about my situation, the girl at the shop said I could talk to her anytime so I said some things about my situation he then said he wanted to talk to me the people at the mushroom shop had told everything we both said to him he said he had enough , he said this is why we have to move on I feel betrayed by the people in the mushroom shop they misquoted what I’d said he was angry.

He also he I was very miserable a while back he said we are selling the house as I came home after a few bears I was a bit tipsy my daughter was being cared for by him . I can’t do anything right I have no friends as they are ignoring me as they are busy my neighbour is in a bad way and wants to be left alone I’ve only got him and my daughter, my mum is too busy to see me very often , she told me to toughen up which wasn’t helpful she told me not to cry over losing my family and the house he says I go on about myself which he calls me a nightmare but I’m struggling I got discharged from mental health services recently they said I’m fine I’m not I’m taking antidepressants my antipsychotic s and benzos I’m only taking about my self as I’m struggling and looking for support I’m feeling scared about losing my family and my home , a social worker has tried to get me a flat by myself but that wouldn’t work I need supported accommodation i really wouldn’t cope living on my own

OP posts:
Hallywally · 08/06/2026 22:57

@GivinguponmyhairIt doesn’t really matter what anyone posts- she takes nothing on board and will start a very similar thread again soon.

MissMoneyFairy · 09/06/2026 09:09

Hallywally · 08/06/2026 22:57

@GivinguponmyhairIt doesn’t really matter what anyone posts- she takes nothing on board and will start a very similar thread again soon.

Sadly I think you're right, I can't imagine the mushroom shop linked wants to be associated with this thread either . It doesn't seem that these threads from op are of any benefit.

Balloonhearts · 09/06/2026 12:01

Purplehearts45 · 08/06/2026 12:28

I’ve lived with him for 20 years

And now he wants to not live with you, which is his right. You need to leave.

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 12:45

Why are you sticking up for him

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PurpleLovecats · 09/06/2026 12:50

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 12:45

Why are you sticking up for him

Nobody is “sticking up for him”. But he has made up his mind that the marriage is over and you need to accept help to move on.
This must be hell for your poor daughter.

Please call your social worker today and get the ball rolling.

howshouldibehave · 09/06/2026 13:00

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 12:45

Why are you sticking up for him

Nobody is ‘sticking up’ for him but they are pointing out that he is allowed to want to split up with you and to want you to move out of his house. That’s fine-he has no responsibility to you.

You don’t have to like it but he can do this for whatever reason. It sounds like he has many reasons though and has had more than enough.

Have you spoken to your social worker
today?

Balloonhearts · 09/06/2026 13:27

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 12:45

Why are you sticking up for him

No one is sticking up for him. He's an arsehole. But even arseholes have rights and he has the right to not want to live with you anymore. You need to leave.

Error404FucksNotFound · 09/06/2026 13:54

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 12:45

Why are you sticking up for him

Pointing out that he has the right to want to leave the relationship is not sticking up for him.

He could be the biggest cunt on earth and he still wouldn't have to stay with you.

Please accept the help that is available for you, for your daughter's sake.

CodeAmber · 09/06/2026 13:57

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 12:45

Why are you sticking up for him

What’s the point in you refusing to answer any questions so people can help you, then just dropping random nonsensical gabble on the thread?!

you are not making any sense, which is why people are “sticking up for” your ex, I can’t imagine how difficult you are to live with!

do you drink/take drugs?

LIZS · 09/06/2026 14:20

Balloonhearts · 09/06/2026 13:27

No one is sticking up for him. He's an arsehole. But even arseholes have rights and he has the right to not want to live with you anymore. You need to leave.

Exactly this. Your poor daughter must be affected by this toxic environment. If you won’t agree to split for your own mh do so for her wellbeing. Mixing alcohol with medication is never likely to be helpful yet you seem to make such destructive choices and minimise the consequences.

MissMoneyFairy · 09/06/2026 15:28

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 12:45

Why are you sticking up for him

Why don't you just leave

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 15:50

Because I have nowhere to go I can’t just leave that’s cruel

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MissMoneyFairy · 09/06/2026 15:54

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 15:50

Because I have nowhere to go I can’t just leave that’s cruel

How long have you been looking for somewhere to live, I thought the social worker found a flat for you but you didn't want it.

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 15:56

He’s layed into me for being sick for eatting all the food I didn’t I ate 2 pieces of bread he had a go at me for buying shoes and a new iPhone he had ago at me for crying in the kitchen I have nowhere to go

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SapphOhNo · 09/06/2026 15:59

I could see in the thread, whose house is it? if it's his - he's might be awful ...but he does have a right to not live with you.

Speak to your social worker again about housing. Take whatever they offer.

MissMoneyFairy · 09/06/2026 16:07

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 15:56

He’s layed into me for being sick for eatting all the food I didn’t I ate 2 pieces of bread he had a go at me for buying shoes and a new iPhone he had ago at me for crying in the kitchen I have nowhere to go

Have you been looking for somewhere else to live

BCSurvivor · 09/06/2026 16:11

OP, you cannot force someone to want to live with you.
From previous posts, it seems that this has been going on for a long time now.
Contact your social worker, stop stalling and try to move on.
I appreciate it's not easy, but you cannot stay there indefinitely, regardless of how long you've been together, just because you ''can't manage alone''
Your relationship appears to have broken down a long time ago, yet you still refuse to accept help to leave.

Boomer55 · 09/06/2026 16:17

You need to contact your GP and social worker, to at least make sure your daughter is ok.

Your boyfriends wants you out, so start sorting that out.

That poor girl.

TheWineoftheChicken · 09/06/2026 16:20

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 15:56

He’s layed into me for being sick for eatting all the food I didn’t I ate 2 pieces of bread he had a go at me for buying shoes and a new iPhone he had ago at me for crying in the kitchen I have nowhere to go

Your priority needs to be finding somewhere else to live, for everyone’s sake.

StillNotDoingIt · 09/06/2026 16:20

Balloonhearts · 09/06/2026 13:27

No one is sticking up for him. He's an arsehole. But even arseholes have rights and he has the right to not want to live with you anymore. You need to leave.

How’s he an arsehole?

It sounds as though he has sole custody of their child and is trying to protect her.

howshouldibehave · 09/06/2026 16:25

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 15:56

He’s layed into me for being sick for eatting all the food I didn’t I ate 2 pieces of bread he had a go at me for buying shoes and a new iPhone he had ago at me for crying in the kitchen I have nowhere to go

I thought your social worker found you somewhere to live before?

You need to speak to social care and say you need to be urgently housed.

Marycontrarygarden · 09/06/2026 16:31

I think a new iPhone and new shoes could have waited .....someone needs to contact social services on behalf of your daughter.

DewDropsAndCobWebs · 09/06/2026 16:57

You need to work with your social worker to find a place to move, stop trying to stay with this man!

BuckChuckets · 09/06/2026 17:04

Purplehearts45 · 09/06/2026 15:56

He’s layed into me for being sick for eatting all the food I didn’t I ate 2 pieces of bread he had a go at me for buying shoes and a new iPhone he had ago at me for crying in the kitchen I have nowhere to go

What about the mushrooms? Who ate the mushrooms?? 🍄

PurpleLovecats · 09/06/2026 17:09

Have you contacted your social worker today?