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Partner wants me out and I do not feel able to cope alone

250 replies

Purplehearts45 · 05/06/2026 13:33

He keeps trying to chuck me out the house he said your gone after I made a mess several times in the bathroom . recently I spoke to some people at a shop they asked if I was okay so I told them a bit about my situation, the girl at the shop said I could talk to her anytime so I said some things about my situation he then said he wanted to talk to me the people at the mushroom shop had told everything we both said to him he said he had enough , he said this is why we have to move on I feel betrayed by the people in the mushroom shop they misquoted what I’d said he was angry.

He also he I was very miserable a while back he said we are selling the house as I came home after a few bears I was a bit tipsy my daughter was being cared for by him . I can’t do anything right I have no friends as they are ignoring me as they are busy my neighbour is in a bad way and wants to be left alone I’ve only got him and my daughter, my mum is too busy to see me very often , she told me to toughen up which wasn’t helpful she told me not to cry over losing my family and the house he says I go on about myself which he calls me a nightmare but I’m struggling I got discharged from mental health services recently they said I’m fine I’m not I’m taking antidepressants my antipsychotic s and benzos I’m only taking about my self as I’m struggling and looking for support I’m feeling scared about losing my family and my home , a social worker has tried to get me a flat by myself but that wouldn’t work I need supported accommodation i really wouldn’t cope living on my own

OP posts:
ChickenBananaBanana · 08/06/2026 12:55

Purplehearts45 · 08/06/2026 12:28

I’ve lived with him for 20 years

He doesn't want to live with you for one minute longer. MOVE OUT

SwatTheTwit · 08/06/2026 12:57

Purplehearts45 · 05/06/2026 14:02

i post as I’m in a difficult situation I’m not saying he has to stay with me but the reasons he’s given for us to separate are unfair I tried to clean up the bathroom and I said nothing bad about him to the people at the mushroom shop

He doesn’t have to have a reason that you deem fair, though.

MissMoneyFairy · 08/06/2026 12:59

Purplehearts45 · 08/06/2026 12:28

I’ve lived with him for 20 years

Why when you clearly despise each other, all you do is upset each other, you've not said anything nice about him.

Harriet36 · 08/06/2026 13:05

It sounds as if your relationship has reached the end of the road and he can no longer cope, not can he see a future with you.
Talk to your social worker and ask her to help you find alternative accommodation.

StillNotDoingIt · 08/06/2026 13:06

Purplehearts45 · 08/06/2026 12:20

I’m not using magic mushrooms u silly people they just sell mushrooms

A shop which only sells mushrooms?

If the shitting on the floor is not caused by drug use then what’s behind it?

LittleGreenDragons · 08/06/2026 13:11

Purplehearts45 · 08/06/2026 12:20

I’m not using magic mushrooms u silly people they just sell mushrooms

Hallucinogenic ones? Because I've never seen a shop dedicated to only selling normal mushrooms even in London.

I’ve lived with him for 20 years
So what? He doesn't want to live with you anymore, and he's entitled to have a life without you in it. Why won't you take SS help and leave?

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 08/06/2026 13:16

Take the help from SS, the single flat. Try. You can ask for support when you are in.
You can’t insist he’s a nice carer. He doesn’t want to be.

MissMoneyFairy · 08/06/2026 13:25

StillNotDoingIt · 08/06/2026 13:06

A shop which only sells mushrooms?

If the shitting on the floor is not caused by drug use then what’s behind it?

Edited

Maybe it's just a mushroom stall at the market or a box of mushrooms in the greengrocer, who knows, op never answers sensibly. This has been dragging on and on for a long time and op cant or won't listen to anyone.

Ghht · 08/06/2026 13:27

@Purplehearts45

Hey lovely, in the kindest way, I think you need to give your mental health team or psychiatrist a ring. I think you should speak to them and let them know that your medication isn’t quite right. It may be that you need it adjusting. I’m so sorry you’re going through a difficult time. Please make sure you reach out for help.

Everyone in the comments- please be kind to the op.

drunkelephant83 · 08/06/2026 13:30

Purplehearts45 · 08/06/2026 12:20

I’m not using magic mushrooms u silly people they just sell mushrooms

I think we were just all curious what a mushroom shop is, I’m not sure where you are from but in the UK I’ve never known a shop that just sells mushrooms. Unless you were of course in a supermarket to buy mushrooms.

ForSnappySwan · 08/06/2026 14:21

Purplehearts45 · 08/06/2026 12:20

I’m not using magic mushrooms u silly people they just sell mushrooms

It just sells mushrooms?

Why do you keep mentioning this shop?

MissMoneyFairy · 08/06/2026 14:33

ForSnappySwan · 08/06/2026 14:21

It just sells mushrooms?

Why do you keep mentioning this shop?

Maybe we should all stop mentioning the mushroom shop, it doesn't alter the situation

Givinguponmyhair · 08/06/2026 15:01

I dont care if shes been posting for years.

Its morally despicable to be taking the piss with faux naivety for a woman who is this unwell

PetulaGordeno · 08/06/2026 15:16

She seems very, very poorly to
me. God knows what her life is like.

MissMoneyFairy · 08/06/2026 15:28

Givinguponmyhair · 08/06/2026 15:01

I dont care if shes been posting for years.

Its morally despicable to be taking the piss with faux naivety for a woman who is this unwell

Perhaps this isn't the right place to have these threads

LIZS · 08/06/2026 16:02

Purplehearts45 · 05/06/2026 14:02

i post as I’m in a difficult situation I’m not saying he has to stay with me but the reasons he’s given for us to separate are unfair I tried to clean up the bathroom and I said nothing bad about him to the people at the mushroom shop

He doesn’t need to explain or have “reasons” beyond the relationship is over and has been for some time. You’ve had the same advice before though, engage with your mh support team and move into accommodation with their support. Your daughter cannot be with you while you are so unwell.

BuckChuckets · 08/06/2026 16:46

Purplehearts45 · 08/06/2026 12:20

I’m not using magic mushrooms u silly people they just sell mushrooms

What kind of mushrooms? It's a shop you visit that you refer to as the mushroom shop - what are you buying from there? I'm till on tenterhooks waiting to find out wtf a mushroom shop is 😂

KimTheresPeopleThatAreDying · 08/06/2026 16:50

What support would you like from this thread, @Purplehearts45?

PetulaGordeno · 08/06/2026 16:52

KimTheresPeopleThatAreDying · 08/06/2026 16:50

What support would you like from this thread, @Purplehearts45?

I’ve already asked no reply. Very sad.

howshouldibehave · 08/06/2026 16:54

Purplehearts45 · 08/06/2026 12:26

He’s intolerant of me it’s not me

It is you. Whatever his reason, the relationship isn’t working. It’s over and you need to move out. Have you spoken to your social worker today?

ForSnappySwan · 08/06/2026 17:26

BuckChuckets · 08/06/2026 16:46

What kind of mushrooms? It's a shop you visit that you refer to as the mushroom shop - what are you buying from there? I'm till on tenterhooks waiting to find out wtf a mushroom shop is 😂

Me too - the explanation has only made me more curious about these mushroom shops

ParmesanRealignment · 08/06/2026 18:03

StillNotDoingIt · 08/06/2026 13:06

A shop which only sells mushrooms?

If the shitting on the floor is not caused by drug use then what’s behind it?

Edited

My money is on alcohol. A LOT of it.
Alcohol would explain the rambling non-sequiturs, chaotic lifestyle, difficulties actioning things, dependence on ex, lack of custody for child, faecal incontinence etc etc.

Ive got a lot of experience working with people like OP and all of them sound exactly like this and are heavily dependent on alcohol. She cannot see the wood for the trees because of the amount of alcohol she is likely ingesting. The ex-P is at his wit’s end. He has sole custody of the poor DD. OP really should absent herself from the house for her DD’s sake.

ParmesanRealignment · 08/06/2026 18:05

BuckChuckets · 08/06/2026 16:46

What kind of mushrooms? It's a shop you visit that you refer to as the mushroom shop - what are you buying from there? I'm till on tenterhooks waiting to find out wtf a mushroom shop is 😂

Snap!! What on earth is a mushroom shop, given it’s not a front for drugs?!
A shop that sells only chestnut and porcini?

And why is OP such a regular in there that she confides in them when drunk and maudlin?

LittleGreenDragons · 08/06/2026 21:13

AntikytheraMech · 08/06/2026 19:25

https://shopmushrooms.co.uk/
Mushroom shops do exist

One shop, not shops. Based in Somerset.

Edit
Looking at your link though there seem to be a few products that don't mix well with GP medications so I'm wondering if that is why OP isn't functioning as well as she should. She really needs to go back to her GP and see if she can take these supplements.