Chances of getting pregnant at 50

[hitandmist]

I didn’t really know where to put this thread so I may post in a couple of topics
I am 50 and perimenopausal. I still have periods although they’ve become very irregular since starting HRT 6 months ago.
I have been seeing someone casually for a couple of months. We don’t use protection. We probably have sex 4 times a month. We did discuss protection at the start and I decided I was happy to go without.
He’s now saying he’s worried about me getting pregnant. I really think this is unlikely although not impossible. I really don’t want to start using condoms. I don’t want to use other forms of birth control as they completely mess me up.
What would you do in this situation?

Have you asked him about him getting the snip?
Seems daft for you to muck about with hormones or have a surgery.

@CopeNorth thank you for your helpful response x

If he's the one who is worried then why can't he get a vasectomy?

I didn't use contraception (just avoided ovulation ) after my 6th baby at 42. Then at 45 I stopped worrying and then at 49 I tested pregnant just before my daughters wedding....
I miscarried and promptly had a Merina put in, it has been marvellous, great skin, great hair, better moods and no more babies!!!!

Also I have been warned by a woman that abortion or miscarriage at the 45 plus age is more dangerous. Not sure why you are doing this to yourself to be honest? The context of what the doctor said to me is that we were discussing my contraception options.

Did you both have an STD test before deciding not to use any contraception? I’m slight younger than you but no way I would risk a pregnancy.

The risk at 50 is low but not 0, I’m sure the NHS guidance is to keep using contraception to prevent pregnancy until 55 or until 12 months after last period if over 50, as you still have periods it would therefore be 55. Maybe that is what he has read? It’s low risk but not zero risk so may be why he is concerned.

Why would he get the snip though? They are not in an established ling term relationship. He should wear a condom though and take some responsibility!

Why would he not be happy about buying them? The cost ? Feels awkward? He needs to get his big boy pants on if he's going to have sex with you or anyone else. The 'not happy' attitude would put me off tbh. Just get on with it Joe.

@DoesthislookgoodOnMe it’s me that’s not overly keen on condoms…

If he's the one worried, then he needs to come up with a solution that you're both happy with.

@Holesinmesocks as I’ve already pointed out, it was a joke…
it’s me that’s being awkward, not him.

Mirena coil.

You can still get pregnant, it's just much more likely you'd miscarry. Not worth the risk.

It was only about ten years ago that I was using a diaphragm. Maybe go your local sexual health clinic to get one? Can't get 'off the shelf' as you need the right size for you.

You’re shagging someone you’re seeing casually and not using protection? Are you not aware of the massive rise in STDs in your age group?

Anyone in a two month old "casual" relationship....

If he doesn’t want children, why not get it done. Not saying that he ought to if he does want them down the line.

This would be my concern. I think sometimes the focus is on the potential emotional impact of a miscarriage, but a miscarriage can become a medical emergency.

both my sisters did.

@Holtomeso you’re saying that anyone married doesn’t need to worry? Have you been on Mumsnet long…?
This is not about STIs, it’s about pregnancy

My grandmother had her first and only child at 51 in 1942.... She thought it was "the change" and only went to the doctor because her belly was getting bigger.... A bit of a shock! So it can happen

The chances of getting pregnant at 50 are very low.

The chances of carrying to term still lower.

Not impossible, but very unlikely.

I do agree if I got pregnant at my age the potential for miscarriage or worse is the biggest concern and has actually made me stop and think

Unprotected sex tends to lead to babies, if neither of you want babies protect yourselves!

Basics really!

Not a bad idea - never occured to me. I have spoken to contraception experts at two different GP surgeries - one nurse practitioner another a GP - and they just pushed coils.

Maybe sexual health clinic is a good place to discuss all your options hitandmist.

You're seeing someone casually but you don't want to use barrier protection. You're at more risk of contracting an STI than pregnancy. Hey, you could get both.

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There's antibiotic resistant STIs floating around as well as everything else.